Everything's messed
I live outside my hometown at my maternal uncle's home for my graduation and the torture i get there us just wow but still everyone blames me even my parents they are like because of attitude the problems are arising there and blah blah i am not allowed to wear shorts even when it's so hot and I can't go out to my friends i can't hangout with them i can't be friends with any guy all these because of safety still i should be bold enough to talk to everyone be independent n all . My mother's saying because of me her relationship with her brother is at stake even when i have given her recording as a proof of how they talk or behave with me everyone every single material relative if mine say i should bear somethings as a girl i should not talk back i am questioned I'm doubted i should be bearing everything just because of my financial condition because I can't afford a pg or a hostel there and now I don't even want pg or hostel because only me studying there is like a waste of money for my parents as they think . My mind feels messed i don't even have any close friend with whom i can share anything about. Idk I'm just messed
@payal437
I'm sorry they are mistreating you.
And it sounds so hard to be a girl in your culture 💚
You dont need to be alone here.
I'm glad you could open up.
@payal437
Thankyou this means alot🫂
@payal437
A pleasure 💜
Thankyou this means alot🫂
@payal437
It sounds really difficult. Disrespect is a terrible thing to be immersed into. Especially for a long time. It sounds that you also feel isolated.
I think it’s good that in your heart you still have higher expectations about what healthy human interactions should look like. I would look into two things:
Differentiate what is in my control and what isn’t?
It might seem you have no choice. But you do. It’s just that you might decide that alternatives are worse. What would those alternatives be? Having a clarity why do you choose to stay might give you strength to limit how this affects you internally.
Also, looking for what you can control can open some possibilities. You found this place here - It was within your control. You go out to study, right? You do spend that time with people? What can you do to make that time count in some ways?
Answer what is behind the behavior that hurts me? Is there a chance it’s not malicious but rather misguided or driven by fear? I don’t have to agree with it to understand it. It can give some power back. Sounds like in your case they claim it to be for safety… maybe seeing it as misguided can help you not internalize it. It takes a lot, to not let someone’s limitations define your internal state, when those people have this much authority over you. Might it be worth trying and learning?
How much longer do you need to stay there to finish your studies?