Feeling unloved and used
My ex told me when we were together rhat i was her only love and she never wanted to be with anyone else. Then she told me she didnt love me at all while we were still together, then asked if we could be in an open relationship, then got mean when i tried to save the relationship. Its been years but i cant stop getting overwhelming feelings of unlove every time i have a dream about her.
Everyone i love seems to use me for my strength or knowledge and never loves me back. Im just a tool for them. Then theres my dad who acts like he "loves" me but will never call but once a month or so nor reach out nor do anything he wasnt already going to do to spend time together. Yet he calls my brother daily and spends time with him regularly. Its getting to feel like nobody wants to love me even tho i try so hard to be kind and helpful and give them love...
@Echolaliac it's a truism in life that people only value what is hard to obtain, and unless we value our own resources first - those which it sounds like you're giving away too freely - nobody else will. In addition, if those around you are constantly taking from you and giving nothing back, then reflect on the dynamic. The pattern you learned with your father has carried over into your romantic relationships. Learning boundary setting may be the place to start.
