I’m lost

@zaid0

I hear you struggling right now. You're not wrong to still be battling with things that have been done to you in the past, and you're not weak for struggling to let go.

Feeling lost can tie into feelings of helplessness, confusion, and a lack of energy. Heavy thoughts like these can sap the latter ten-fold; it takes a lot of energy to feel so much mentally and physically

People's words and actions towards us can stick with us for long time, for a lot of reasons. All those reasons, paired with the time, energy, and effort it takes to overcome pain, can make it difficult to let go of the hurt others caused us in the past. It's hard. It takes work, and a whole lot more time.

What it takes you to recover and move on is different from what it takes someone else to do the same thing. To understand how to "get over things" your way, analyze your situation--your feelings, thoughts, and struggles. Consider questions like:

What activities, habits, or hobbies have alleviated your pain in the past? How did they help you in the moment? Have they helped you in the long-run, and how? If they didn't help you in the long-run, how did they fail? Try different approaches. It's okay to fail, and it's okay to struggle.

Why do you feel stuck in the past? What's anchoring you to people's previous actions? What's the most afflicting of their actions, and why?

What advice would you give someone els who felt lost, who sought your help?

It's a question that a lot of therapeutic platforms suggest we ask ourselves, but it's for a good reason. It's common to logically understand another person's problems and what could help them, but struggle to apply ourselves to that advice. Even if that advice turns out not working, it's still a valuable tool to analyze our feelings, the root of them, and ways to move forward.

There's a common misconception that to let go, to get over it, and to move on, we have to forget--but forgetting isn't a requirement to move forward. In fact, forgetting can be counterproductive to our mental health's upward mobility, as it can turn into suppression and avoidance.

My advice? Understand your struggles now. Take note of your feelings when you feel lost and when your depression arises. In the clearing, analyze how you were feeling when you were hurting, and prepare to face your feelings and your memories as they come, because events that shape our identity, our mental health, and our approach to life won't disappear forever. The best thing we can do is understand our feelings and try to work through them.

@zaid0 I struggle with these issues as well.  I am here to listen if you ever need someone to talk to.