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I'm so lonely

User Profile: ImEepy247
ImEepy247 July 7th, 2025

So, me and my brother have always been really close. Inseparable even. Till he moved away over a year ago.

Sense then he barely talks to me. I don't know what I did wrong but it's to the point I feel like I'm talking to a stranger on the rare occasion we do talk. (Which I have to beg and cry and be so deeply dressed for that to happen)

Every time he texts me, even something small- I get so soul crushingly sad. I feel so alone.

He's moved on so completely, with a partner and a job he loves. I'm just, here. In my home town. Without the ray of sunshine that made my life worth living.

I'm close to telling him to stop texting me entirely just to avoid this pain. Should I?

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User Profile: intellectualTown3080
intellectualTown3080 July 7th, 2025

@ImEepy247, so sorry to hear you are going through this!  It sounds very difficult!  But don't worry, you're not alone!  This community seems really great so far (I'm still pretty new) and supportive.  Reaching out for help is a really hard step, but you have already done it!  You should be very proud of yourself for that!

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, just that your brother may have a lot going on.  Sending good vibes your way!

User Profile: FaithfulScout
FaithfulScout July 7th, 2025

@ImEepy247

In my humble opinion, I recommend to not cut your brother off … and instead continue bringing your pain here to 7Cups, or share your pain with friends who can offer you compassion and support. I also advise against bringing your family members into this difficult situation. 


“He's moved on so completely, with a partner and a job he loves.” 


This sounds like the reason why you are feeling such separation. I don’t think you have done anything wrong.


If you feel like sharing more, I will be here, and I’m sure many people on 7Cups will also be here for you.

User Profile: FaithfulScout
FaithfulScout July 10th, 2025

Hello …

How are things going in your relationship with your brother?

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User Profile: ImEepy247
ImEepy247 OP July 21st, 2025

Hey,

Yeah, He isn't speaking to me. He didn't give me a reason, just, fell off. He said he would call me, and text me some videos one morning, but when the morning came, nothing.

It's understandable though, I'm so annoying and we aren't even really friends anymore. I know nothing about him anymore, and his partner fulfills all his emotional needs now. So I'm no longer needed nore wanted. I guess, I'll just have accept I'll never have a friend as amazing as him again and move on with my life.

Thanks for asking lol

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User Profile: FaithfulScout
FaithfulScout July 23rd, 2025

@ImEepy247

Hey, thanks so much for sharing!

I’m sorry the relationship turned out this way.

That’s the nature of these things, but I get it … It sucks to be the one who is left behind.

“I'm so annoying and we aren't even really friends anymore.”

But what do you mean by “annoying” … “Who’s annoying? 

I am sure you and your brother were an awesome pair, who only got the jokes that no one else gets, or who saw something so spectacular that blew both of your minds.

Yes it’s true, you don't know him anymore … because he’s onto his next task in life—finding a partner who he can build a life with. Even if he’s not serious and has no intentions on getting married, this is his time for exploration, life, and meeting people. 

And if your brother is in transition, he could also be letting go of lots of things. One thing he probably won't forget are the memories you made with him.

And I still stand by what I said on July 7, “continue bringing your pain here to 7Cups, or share your pain with friends who can offer you compassion and support.”
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