Loneliness is crippling.
Yes. Loneliness is crippling. One moment I’m sitting at work all is well, and a terrorizing thought enters my head about how I’m not married, no significant other, near retirement age, unattractive to most men because of that, and the snowball effect of drowning pity takes over and I can’t function. Nope. I don’t want your pity. I’m just stating facts. Women my age are invisible until someone needs money , or borrow the car etc. I want my life back.
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I'm not a woman, but I feel invisible as well. Social interaction usually helps me feel better, but then I worry about how those interactions will go, and fear that it will only make myself feel worse. In the end, I think I want to feel invisible in some ways, because it will help me avoid potentially embarrassing situations where I do or say the wrong thing, etc.
The ironic part of all this is that I'm married with kids. Shouldn't feel lonely, right, especially since I have someone with me almost all day, every day? unfortunately, that's not how it works. I still feel alone and invisible, even when surrounded by people, even if it's the people I care most about. I just can't seem to absorb any positivity from any interaction, at least not like I used to.
I just wanted to let you know that I can identify... loneliness is crippling.
It sounds like you’ve gone through a lot with prior men that didn’t treat you with respect and genuine interest, but probably just used you for other things. It can be really disheartening to see what happens around us and see others finding their significant others while feeling like we are languishing. I know you don’t want pity, but I think there’s room for empathy for yourself. A lot of the environment we grow up in and live in does not support the type of love, both with others and ourselves, that offers lasting and healthy relationships. Transactional relationships are far too common.