Need someone to cheer me up
Hi guys. I am feeling so bad right now. All my free te and when I am not distracting myself(work and social media) I cry. I just cry,cry ,cry so much. I feel broken. My heart is shattered in pieces and I am afraid it will never get better. My life is too big of a mess to become better. I seriously need a miracle at this point. I was trying hard to do things on my own to feel better like joining this app, trying to reach out to family members and joining a group chat but nothing seems to help!! I am becoming desperate y'all. My life seems like a horrible nightmare or a Netflix drama, like I can seriously call Netflix and they can start filming all the plot is here and there's definitely enough drama. The thing is I feel so weak!! I talked to some people about my situation and they told me that if I don't do anything on my own things won't change and that I am the only on who can save myself but it seems like I tried everything at this point. And anyways right now I have no energy to try. I just want to hug someone for at least an hour straight and then eat something 😭 I feel so so so miserable. I really don't know how it looks like from the outside, maybe I look annoying and I self pity a lot but I just write what's on mind and in my heart. I really try to see the bright side of things but now it's impossible for me to do so. I'm in a way too bad mental state. So I would like someone to cheer me up right now😭
I really really need it💔
@schrodingerscattt
Hi Schrodingers Cat! Thanks for reaching out; I am sorry to hear about your pain.
Would you like to feel as happy as this snowman? 🙂
Did you know, that out of troubles we can continue to grow, flourish, and feel better? 🌷
What seems to be bringing you down, and what do you think you can do to feel better?
@magicalTree4461
This picture brought a smile on my face, which is rare😂
So I am feeling very bad right now because I am so lonely and the only people I can talk to are online, it sucks so much. I have no family I can talk to because they are all not even trying to understand how I feel and they are overall emotionally neglectful. We never even properly talked with my parents😭 they never were interested in me as a person. It screwed up a lot my mental health. And the loneliness right now is making things ten times worse. I am part of a group chat and talk to people online but this is just not enough to fill the void I have inside of me.
I understand how terrible loneliness can feel. But here you are, you managed to get here ALONE! You are a hero, we are here for you to talk. I'm sorry if that doesn't satisfy you. Wanna try ways to meet new people in real life? Remember: there's always a solution.
@Politonno Agreed with Politonno... loneliness can be such a difficult emotion. Would you know of any things you can do to spend time with others? ☺️
There are fun ways to begin with that. In the public transport or in other public places such as a restaurant, you can literally speak with others. Find a person or a group of people around your own age which is doing some interesting activity or conversation (interesting for you, of course). You can begin a conversation right there talking about your key interests, or making a question about the activity or the conversation
@Politonno
You're right! I really might start doing that because i am so lonely. But i am worried i might look like i am desperate to talk to someone. Don't know, maybe it will put some people off😭
Don't be afraid to be yourself. You're not being desperate, you're just meeting other people. There will be no problem to say "I just want to meet new people", some people won't like that, and others will. There's nothing to lose and there's a lot to win, there are interesting people out there. That's for sure.
@magicalTree4461
I'm going to look into some meet up meetings in my area.
Sounds like a great idea 🙂 I hope you find something good and have a great experience.
@Politonno
Thank you so much! Didn't have much energy to reply earlier because lately i have been feeling kinda worse..
I tried to meet new people in real life. I tried volunteering but it was so boring because it was only people in their 50s and we had nothing in common to talk about😭I wanna try to look into some meet up meetings in my area. Hope it will work!
I'm so sorry to hear that you have been feeling worse. We're still here for you. I'm so proud to hear that you'll try to go to meet-ups. Just be yourself, remember things and activities that you like to do.
Hello. Seems that you're passing through a tough period and I am so sorry for your horrible pain and emotions. I've felt similar lately, and I understand how destructive life might seem, but these feelings you feel in this moment do not define you at all.
Your life has the potential to change and grow. People love you.
The best way to cope with this emotional pain is to talk to people, and that's what you're doing here, right? That's amazing! I'd wish to have done it too previously. You are a very strong person and we care about you. You are safe :)
@Politonno
Thank you! It makes me feel better to read your message!💗
Really? I'm so glad that my message made you feel a bit better :)
@Politonno
I just saw your profile and that's so cool that you like quantum mechanics too! And i too am interested in the Starship rocket!! That's why the right side of your profile pic looked familiar! i had to look closely tho😂
That's nice! Pretty no one around me even knows Starship rocket. Wanna talk via *** or somewhere private?
@Politonno
I would love to but you can't share any social media handles here and i don't wanna get banned. I know someone that shared her *** on here and got banned..
We can still talk and search for some community here
@Politonno
But i can create a thread so we can talk. If you want ofc
Nice. A thread about what? What are you thinking about exactly? Remember that a thread is public so it's not exclusive for us. Anyway, you got a new friend today :) do you feel better?
@Politonno
Yeah, that's the problem of threads that they are public. It's such a pity members can't message each other. I'm so glad to have you as my friend! Yeah, i feel better now but just very tired😂I'm gonna go sleep because i am exhausted.
Alright. It's nice to know that you are feeling better now. I hope you sleep well today! Goodnight
People telling you that you can somehow do this all on your own are wrong. You need a network of people who won't judge you and who know how hard you are trying. We have been in your shoes and we know how tiring it all is.
It takes a while to work your way out of the sludge, but you can do it with some support. Are you doing any therapy or talking to any doctors? They can help you get yourself started on a better foot.
How are you doing on the basics like getting enough food, water, and sunshine? @schrodingerscattt
@bestVase7265
So right now i can't afford therapy and the only place where i can get support is cups, but that's already great i guess.
I have a bad sleep and it's making me exhausted for the whole day but it's been like this for a very long time already. I have nightmares every night and the overall sleep is anything but peaceful. I sometimes wake up terrified😭
Sleep can be a really hard thing to come by.
Eating and drinking water can help. How are you doing on those fronts? @schrodingerscattt
@bestVase7265
I'm definitely not drinkingenough but i tey to eat well and limit my coffee and sugar intake.
It sounds like you are headed towards good things then. Drink some more water and see if you can get yourself outside or at least to a window for 15-20 minutes a day. Little things like that can really help. @schrodingerscattt
@bestVase7265
I'm trying to walk everyday to get a little bit of exercise and sunshine but for now it's not really helping. But anyways thanks so much for your suggestions!
Yes, it can take two weeks to a month of every day for it to start having an impact. You also have to start to retrain your brain at such moments. The depression will tell you that a few minutes of peace means nothing if the rest of the day is ***. The depression is wrong. By focusing yourself on the fact that the few minutes is a victory, then that few minutes can begin to grow into longer intervals. @bestVase7265
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@schrodingerscattt awww sweetie ❤ I'm so sorry I only just came across this post😞 I'm having problems navigating the new forum layout. Gives you a giant tiny hug ❤squeezes you tightly ❤ I understand that it can get to the point where all we can do is cry, where there doesn't seem to be any way out of this mess. But keep strong never give up ❤ we love you here, and we all care about you so much, squeezes you tightly ❤
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@Tinywhisper11
Hi!!! I'm so glad to see your reply! I was so worried because you usually reply pretty fast.
Thank you so much! It didn't really cheer me up to be honest. Tough public here... But it's still sooo sweet of you! You're literally a ray of sunshine. I really need your positivity right now to go through these hard times.
I also feel so annoying when tlaking about my problems on here because everytime i was trying to share about my problems to my family or other people i felt so invalidated! It nade me hate myself and my feelings. I am slowly starting to reframe all these thoughts that nobody cares about me and i should just shut up because i am meaningless. It's the way that i was brought up that made me think this way. I also remember i used to be sich an optimistic person but my dad killed it. Now i am trying my best to get this old me back or at least some parts of old me back but it's haaaaard. And very painful. It's really really painful to unravel the past. The more i think anout my childhood the more i realize how BAD it was and how mich i was emotionally neglected and gashlighted. No wonder i feel bad about myself now! I also have terrible flashbacks lately . I'm pretty sure that's due to me trying to think about my past and just get a more clear understanding about what happened. Because i didn't get depression just like that(like my parents and whole family thinks) I really needed to say this. It feels so much better to just share it with someone. Thank you so much for being here Lola❤❤❤❤
@schrodingerscattt talking to people outside cups, is much different than venting here. Those people who made you feel like a nuisance, well I'm gonna come over there and sort them out for you ❤❤ you are never annoying you have the right to speak freely, and we are all here to help and support and love you ❤ and I really do, you are worth so much more than the poop you've been given. Trying to reconnect and move on from the past by bringing it all back up, is soooo hard. And you don't have to do this alone. Your not alone, you have us, and you'll never get rid of me ❤❤ remember venting helps, so don't ever think you shouldn't do it ❤❤ gives you a giant festive tiny hug ❤ I'm always here to listen to you, always will be ❤
@Tinywhisper11
Thank you so much. I really feel like giving up lately but i just CAN'T. I can't! And i have you after all❤ your replies to my posts are really the highlight of my day❤ thank you so much for being here Tiny! I love you so much!! You're seriously amazing! I really need to vent right now so i'm glad you're here to listen❤
@schrodingerscattt I love you more ❤❤ and I really do understand the feeling of wanting to give up 😞 it's not easy. But yep like an octopus stuck on your face, your not getting rid of me😁😁😁 hugs you tightly ❤
@Tinywhisper11
This actually made me laugh! I imagined you as an octopus😂😂😂 Anyways thank you so much for making me smile and feel better!!
Hugging you very tightly💗
You're really amazing and i'm so happy i met you😭💗
I literally cannot imagine my life without you rn. Your answers to my posts really bring me joy!!!!
@schrodingerscattt hugggs you tightly ❤❤ I love you more ❤❤and like I said I'm always here for you ❤❤
