Nothing in my life is making me happy. Age 16
I’ve been depressed for so long I don’t remember when I was happy. I feel so unloved every single day it’s so hard to even get through my days.
I’ve never dated anyone and I feel like I never will. I just want to be loved and have a girlfriend but that will never happen. I feel like no one cares about me, even my friends never open up about themselves. My social like is equivalent of zero.
It’s so hard living as a human I can’t do it.
I want love so bad.
i just want an intimate relationship.
@Aurum26 I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way, and I'm here to listen and support you. It's tough to experience long-term depression and loneliness, especially at such a young age. It's important to reach out and share your feelings, which you've done here, and that's a significant step.
Remember that you're not alone in feeling this way, and there are people who care about you, even if it doesn't always feel like it. Sometimes, friends may not open up about themselves due to their own struggles, so it's not necessarily a reflection of their feelings toward you.
It's important to know that your worth isn't defined by your relationship status or social life. You are valuable just as you are, and you deserve love and happiness. While it might feel like an impossible task right now, please consider talking to someone you trust about what you're going through. Whether it's a friend, family member, teacher, or mental health professional, sharing your feelings can sometimes alleviate the burden.
Finding an intimate relationship can be a genuine desire, many people your age feel the same way, and it's something that often happens naturally over time. Focus on building a positive relationship with yourself first, and the right person will come into your life when the time is right.
I have talked to everyone I possibly can and nothing helps. Sorry
Also nothing makes me happy anymore. I don’t know how to build my confidence
Everyone keeps telling me to build my confidence but I have no clue how. It hurts
@Aurum26
Have you tried to look at your feelings as nothing more than a sign that you are alive ... and that you may now want to start using your mind for more than just feel your emotions, but truely start to understand what these feelings are actually telling you and get to the bottom of it all so your mind can start to grasp the whole purpose why you have a mind which you can use any way you like so your life is no longer dominated by feelings you don't like or enjoy but full of ideas of where you like to take your mind next so you can apply your mental abilities to advance your views, ideas and mental concepts of what is going on in this mind space of yours ... and how you like to rearange things so you are no longer victimised by your feelings but able to enjoy the fact that you can actually learn how to enjoy using your mind to think on your own and do what you like.
What do you make of these ideas?
I wish
but I have no clue how
@Aurum26
... you will never know for as long as you don't want to LEARN to ask questions ... if you want to learn, that is ... if you don't, you have the reason for your problem right there!
I am asking questions???
I mean I usually am. I’m just not that smart to come up with it
@Aurum26
.... so what will you do to become smarter?
Ever crossed your mind to discover how to work on developing your mind by learning how to think better, come up with smarter ideas, start to ask good questions every step of the way?
How about you write it down so we can all see where your way of thinking can be changed so we get a clearer picture of what has to be fixed ... and do it soon .... :)
It’s so hard being so young and suffering so much with no one ever truly helping me. I’ve tried everything. I’m done. I hate my life
@Aurum26
Have you even started to try to use your brain properly to discover why are acting this way?
Nothing has ever gone right with me. I’ve used all of my energy in my whole life trying to make myself happy because no one has truly cared about me.
My life is horrible.
I just want to go home and sleep I’m so done trying.
this is such a cruel world.
@Aurum26
... try to learn how to play an instrument to get your mind out of this constant negativity ... :)
Why is it so easy for others to be happy and to understand their psychology so easily. I hate that
@Aurum26
I understand how you feel! Please be gentle with yourself, I know a lot may seem unattainable or unavoidable, but gentleness with your mind helps. You are not alone.
@MadameSLeePy
Your 25 points about you are a great way to get to know you ... well done! :)
@RedStar01
Thank you, I like to try to be detailed but not too overwhelming.
I am so sorry that things feel so awful right now. It can be really hard to find a way forward, but here is a great place to do that.
Most of us have had similar feelings so we can really relate to you. It can be hard when people keep saying things like "love yourself and people will love you" as though that even feels possible.
But there are lots of little things that you can do to start to feel better. Start with the really basic ones. Are you eating properly and drinking water? @Aurum26
I guess
I find it so much easier to focus on actions rather than my thoughts which are hard to control.
So start with eating and drinking water and making sure that you are tasting what you are putting in your mouth. I also find getting outside can be really helpful.
But a lot of this is experimenting to see what works for you. People with throw you lots of suggestions, but the process towards healing is quite individualized.
Try something for a bit and if it hasn't helped after a week or two, try something else. @Aurum26
