Please tell me how to get out of this.
I am a girl from a middle class family. Let me say toxic family. Domestic violence on daily purpose. They have turned into monsters. I basically cry every day. My head is numb from the pain coming from excessive crying. I can't clear my medical competitive exam. There financial crisis going in my house. It can't be a home. I can't go anywhere. I love my mom. I just want to protect her. And *** i can't do anything. I just cry myself to sleep everyday. I cry so much that now i starting to lose my memory. They can't divorce. It's not common. So they are stucked and i am also stucked between them that now i regret being born. I have developed adhd and whatever the ***. My relationship aren't going well either and i hate everything about my life. Why can't i change anything. Why life is always below the expectations.
@politeSea3693
Thanks for sharing.. You crave change, a better life without much negativity.. You will go through life and find out the only thing you can really do is change yourself.. Living in difficult situations can make anyone think there isn't anything better out there in this world..
I hope your life improves with time..🌟
@politeSea3693
I'm probably the same age group as your parents and I grew up in such a family.
The only way out is to separate. It's not always possibly to move but in your mind, in your soul you should start this way.
It's like radiation, it influences all you live till you step out of that area.
The thing is... I can't. I can't move out, at least not for a certain time. And they don't realize what they're doing.
Heyy do you want to talk about it
Probably yes. Thanks for asking tho.
People really aren't aware about what they do to their surroundings and people around them, like your parents, but they are not to blame, no one is to blame. Find peace within yourself and heal you first, the biggest change around you is you! Heal you and then heal everyone else around you, start doing things that make you chilla nd happy like lstning to songs or playing games but don't be addicted to it, and try not to start substances, be healthy be you, find happiness in what you do!
Live another day, everyday till joy finds you
Thank you for helping me out. And yeah, I will not try to substances. I like my pain raw and brutal:)
And now, my boyfriend of 2 years, who has been my support system for so many problems, has broken up with me. Life is getting worse day by day. I don't have the energy even to exist.
I am listening, it feels like your life is crashing down but don't worry. Let it be. It is all meant to happen, if possible try to meditate everyday, whoever says whatever to you don't mind it, tell yourself everyday that you are better. You can do it, it's not the energy that you require to exist, it's the power to have the will to live not exist. So remember, you need to live not exist. You can do it, I belive in you!
@politeSea3693
Yes I have a similar home, just a bit better. Please know that you are not alone, many people come from very broken homes and eventually things get better. To reach out is very brave and we are very happy to have you among us 👏👏🫂🫂. As someone above mentioned, emotionally distancing yourself does wonders. Put a sound on and plug in tour earphones when you hear them fighting. Ignore if they are trying to involve you. Stay silent or keep minding your own business, eventually the argument will move on ro something else and they will leave you alone.
Now I know you really want to save your mom, but the sad reality is that people with abusive mentality and victim mentality often come together. I have been there. To often, abuse breaks people so much that they continue to be anxious, irritated and defensive even when the abusive environment is removed. This is not her fault but if she has this attitude it will definitely affect you in one way or another. So please be careful when you support her, if supporting her is mentally exhausting you, politely say I'm feeling really sick right now, I need some rest (assuming you cannot ask her to leave you alone straightforwardly).
I hope things turn out well for you, Take care !❣️❣️
Thank you so much for checking up on me. I really appreciate it.❤️🩹
Dont give up girl never settle for less in relationships protect ur peace go where ur valued always
I'll make sure to never forget this.
@politeSea3693 hey how are you doing?
Hey. Thanks for asking tho. It looks like life doesn't have a plan to get any better:(
@politeSea3693 yeah those moments just take over your brain. But please try to not blame yourself asking "why I can't change anything". Why do you think it is that you can not change anything?
It does look like that. My behavior causes people to go away. Maybe if I were a little nicer.
@politeSea3693 so has nobody stayed? Are you completely alone except your family?
Yeah. No one to rely on emotionally. Family is just doing their work what they are good at. Destroying me. I loved someone. But he also left me at my worst, making me weaker than ever I have been in my entire life.
Hi, I hear how this situation is painful ; you trying your best to succeed in an already competitive and tough world while your parents problems emotionnaly affects you a lot. This is heavy to carry around "like nothing is happening" and try to grow at the same pace as others. Hang on tight in this roller coaster and you'll turn this *** into gold, and remember to give yourself time and peaceful moments to enjoy. I find you quite courageous to study in this mess and keep fighting for YOUR futur. Xoxox
Thank you so much dear.