Hard to please

Living with chronic depression and isolating isn't cohesive with anything social whatsover. With that being said it is extrememely hard to please my mother as I can not do what she finds no difficulty in doing. As of late I am not leaving the confines of my home, it's been ongoing. So with that, I continually am making Mom mad at me. She writes scathing messages to me on facebook getting her emotions across with (!!!). It shouldn't bother me by now, my depression is not just an emotion, it is clinical, and has been life long. She is my Mom, so by now I had hoped she'd be more understanding, but I am no longer 18 or 35, I am over 50. I know I must do what I can to keep my own sanity and not let guilt trip me up, but it is a struggle! Believe me, I am getting better, I no longer do things I don't want to do, or feel uncomfortable doing and try telling myself it's ok to honor myself, even if it means pissing her off.