HELP ME PLEASSEE, I NEED IT!!!!!
I just wish i knew what was wrong with me.... like i can't stop being sad you know. i mean about this situation. Like I'm over my ex i know we arnt getting back together, i don't want to go back with him no matter what he does for me or with me or in efforts to do. I know, and i've set up my ducks in a row so I am going to be able come out on top from this(like going to school, saving up for life, reached out for therapy). but something still isn't right... like my attitude is just still so bitter and negative. i don't feel like talking to bank teller, like if they can't give me what i want right away then i don't feel like dealing with them. i just feel like saying okay great nice talking bye, then moving on to the next person.
i dont know how to change this attitude...if anyone can help please help me!!
It is good to talk about these things, even when you can?t quite find the words.Thanks for putting into words, as best you could, what you are feeling and thinking. Break-ups are rough and the aftermath is even more difficult. Hang in there; I know how hard that can be! Are there any friends or adults you have talked to about this?
Hey thanks for your reply it has been reall dificult, andI have spoken to peers about this.
You might be over him but that doesn't mean the pain is over. The damage can take a while to fully vanish. Find a love, something to keep you going and to make you happy and use that. A little hope is always a good thing
Thank You for your reply, i agree... the dream of going to school has really been keeping me going. I think I need something more though. Like a thing I can do everyday to keep me happy.
any suggestions?
Why did it actually end. Was it just him or you or a bit of both. Maybe your denying some of what happened and need to properly face it - saying it's over is one thing but if you both had some involvement maybe your denying it and need to face up to what actually happened.
Then find something. How old are you? As sometimes a job can give you something else to concentrate on and help you to meet new people hopefully better people. I know it can be tricky, but sometimes giving yourself a lot to do is better than sitting at home mulling over everything
@Zoecedee, I guess it's not about the break up as much as it is about you.. it all starts from within ,maybe the break up is one reason but it's not the over all reason to why you're feeling or acting this way. try from within yourself to understand why you're feeling this way or acting this way. deep down you'll know what went wrong .. if not , give yourself some time, be patient with yourself, try to analyzeyour actions, search for anything or any activity that makes feel good about yourself & that leads you to a state of inner fulfillment. search inside of you because it all starts from within.. & remember it's okay not to be okay sometimes :) best wishes :)
Yeah i totally agree, characteristics defiantly come to mind. Thank you so much for your reply.:)
Have you considered trying to find out where the bitterness comes from? Do you still feel upset or bitter towardsyour ex or someone else and it is still affecting you?
I mean yes I feel bitter towards him.I guess im really just mad at myself before I am mad at anyone else for making the decisions i made with him. I didnt know he was like such an awful person and i hoped forthe best when getting together with him. I always had a fear that he was the person i didntwant him to be. I am mad at myself for not trusting my fear and being with him despite my fear.
I just dont know how to feel better about the situation...
thank you for your response.
Have you considered forgiving yourself? We all do mistakes, maybe this can be seenas learning experience.
I have had the same situation... I just kept saying to everyone that i m over wid it...nd that i knw things happen for our own good...nd i m good...nd bla bla...bt it is hard... I felt like being alone..blaming myslf for everything.. Nd i even tried to harm myslf...bt then there came a point when i realized that i shud face things cz it was necessary to move on and actually forgive... Jst try to meditate... It really helps...nd stay calm....spend time alone...think over it...nd forgive the person who hurt u.. The more u try to face it...the more relazed u will feel...nd then u will finally b happy... Don't let negativity overpower u...jst b calm...do things that u like... In my case...it has been 2 years now...since we broke up....but now i feel better...i always miss that person...remember the moments we spent together... After all they r jst memories now.... Yes...it does affect me...sometimes it jst gets into my nerves...but it's good now... U r strong to have taken this decision... Believe in urself...nd u will surely feel better... My all good wished are wid u... Hope it helps u... :)
