I'm lonely & scared.
My wife left 2 months ago. She left me with the kids, a mountain of debt, and a new busines. I feel so lonely and betrayed. Its hard to find meaning in life now. I have my kids but I feel like a complete failure in their eyes. I don't know how to break out of this funk.
Sitting with you, offering hugs, love and support 💖🧡💛💚💙💜
@Pitmaster77 Your kids will not think you are a failure. Trust me. They will idolise you.
Thank y'al. Just 6 months ago. I was so motivated. Saw the whole world in front of me. Having a hard time getting out of bed now. I don't feel good about anything I do. Feels like this hopelessness and lonliness has no end in sight. Over the past 5 years she made sure she ran every friend out of my life. Finding it hard to start over...
@Pitmaster77 I know what it's like having someone like that around you. It's horrible. I had trouble picking myself up after it. But eventually, an Angel (Figurative) of a friend came along and fixed everything. I hope you find your angel.
I sure hope so. The wounds are so fresh right now. Don't think my eyes are right. They burn all the time. I know everyone can see my pain. She moved in with a married couple she is having a relationship with only 5ish miles away. She acts like I am crazy for being upset and depressed about the situation. Says its normal and everything is gonna be ok. I guess it will but dang. Just can not believe she done this to our family. Kids 13 and 16.
@Pitmaster77 Nasty. I hope they'll understand that she abandoned them and don't think that you're keeping them from her.
@AlphaPheonix4720 They know what is going on. Kids refuse to visit her at that house. She is free to pick them up for dinner or give them rides here and there anytime she wants. They know she abandoned us.
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You are a hero in your children's eye, and they need to know they are contributing so they feel like you all are a team that can't possibly fail. Is there anything at all they can sort out or do to help the new family business? Let them know that businesses are competitive, and if you can let them help out, it could be fund and rewarding. Im rooting for your team! 🎈🎈🎈🎈
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@feelNeglected77 my daughter, 16, was on the road with me for 5 years food trucking. She is now an essential element of our restauran. My son, 13, is more busy with sports. He has gotten upset several times and blames the restaurant for our current situation. It may have eushed things a little, but this was a long time coming one way or another. I could never maker her happy. I could do sweet thing but she would get angry and accuse me of having some sinister morive for anything i done. Every day turned to misery. I will be much better off if I can shake it. But I'm not finding that easy after 17 years. But I am in therapty.
@Pitmaster77 It's a good thing that you're seeking help.
@AlphaPheonix4720 after only 3 sessions I am in a much better place. Initially, it hit me so hard that I felt I may need to check myself in somewhere but I am in a little better place now. Kinda numb to it all. Feel like I am just going through the motions. Hope to get my true spirit been reading up and listening to videos of the dark night of the soul per my therapist. Good stuff I can really relate to.
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You will rise up out of this so much stronger and wiser. I went through almost the same thing. You were lucky. My x set me up and took it all. Count your blessings and focus on them every day. Your kids are at the ages of changing and its hard to know what their futures hold. But you need to be ready for change! Please trust me on that. Self care, and focus on sucess because when the future arrives it needs you to be strong and excepting. the Good the bad and everything inbetween.
I use prayer and a relationship with God, since all my hard efforts and understanding just didnt work
Go Team Pitmaster!
@feelNeglected77 I am desperately trying to keep faith that your words are true.
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When my faith is strong, my problems seem insignificant
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The thing thats most unfair is how something like this can give a hit to our confidence. When somebody we care about betrays us, it hurts a lot. Its a priority to stay in the present moment, and prioritize.
Get mad, and over that as soon as possible. As the bible shows we must protect our own souls. Each soul is responcible for itself. Pray for her and your jids and help your kids understand this also. You can only give them love and guidance, and how they choose to live is not on you.
I use this site all the time and the peace follows.
What Does the Bible Say About Encouragement?
https://www.openbible.info/topics/encouragement
You can search words you feel you need like "direction" wisdom" relationship" encouragement, etc
Stay focuses and lean on God. He wauts for you to ask for help, then your changes of perceptiin happens.
You really do have this. Dont let doubt steal your happiness!!!
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John 15
I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit. Already you are clean because of the word that I have spoken to you. Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. ...