Why am I so alone?
I don't know what's wrong with me. I seem to be so forgettable to everyone... I don't talk to anyone from high school, even though we just graduated. Nobody ever wants to hang out. Nobody cares. I try to organize things and I get nothing and it's so frustrating.
I feel like people only use me. I only have one person that I can truly consider a friend, and she doesn't even live in the same state as me. I feel so alone. I don't have anybody and nobody would bat an eye if I were to disappear, which is basically what happened. None of my "friends" have heard from me in months because I'm just... so sick of feeling disposable.
They talk behind my back. I know it. I've HEARD it. I can't keep anyone around.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong. It has been this way for years. I frequently remember that I don't have any friends in real life. I'm forgettable and disposable because I don't stand out, but I don't know how to. It really gets to me.
My own family doesn't even care. Of course, they'd be sad if something bad happened to me but... beyond that. Nothing. They don't care about who I am. Or what I like. Nobody seems to have any interest in me besides this one friend. I have nobody. It hurts and I try to brush it off, but humans naturally crave social interaction.
What's wrong with me? It has to be something that I'M doing wrong. It's the only way for this all to make sense.
Hi @Sleebo, do you hesitate to get involved with the activities of your freinds and family. Do you isolate? Maybe they just think your busy, or you arent intetested. In order to get involved maybe you should make yourself more available and speak up. Communication is soooo important. You are worthy and important and we all need to feel a part of something. Push yourself to get more involved and remember what you think or say is very important. Plus be sure to be intetested in what others have to say; thats where we pickup wisdom and learn to see other peoples perspectives.
How we percieve things can be changed as we learn more aspects of lives many twists and turns.
People talk about everything out of interest, it is something most people are guilty of but it shouldnt bother you. If you let it bother you you will be visiblly upset which will trigger more talk behind your back. But if you dont let it bother you, and except it as normal curiosity bantering, it disapears as quickly as it started. Be nice and bring up something in the news or start talking about something your passionate about and those good energies are contagious; great conversations or ease their discomfort and watch the magic happen. Once they see your a nice person, the can relax and you can all be calm and enjoy eachothets company. Its human nature to talk about others, it happens a lot. It wont mean a thing unless you make it a thing. When you understand all people have flaws, you can give them a pass, and you can get involved. We must allow ourselves to be vulberable or people will sence our shields are up, and they will talk to try to figure out why. The very moment you let it go for real, so will they. Go enjoy eachother. Get closer to people and your quickly see im right about this. Your learni g just like we all must. Trust me, it will be great once you trust yourself, and trust that most people will welcome you when you show up unarmed.
I gotchu.
Hi @Sleebo,
I'm really sorry you're feeling like this. It sounds incredibly tough and lonely. It must be so frustrating to feel like no one truly cares, even when you try so hard to connect. You're not alone in feeling this way, and it's definitely not something you're doing wrong. Sometimes, people just get wrapped up in their own lives and forget to reach out, even though they do care.
It's great that you have one friend who really understands you, even if they’re far away. Having even one genuine connection is valuable. You're not disposable or forgettable—you're unique and you have your own worth.
Have you thought about joining any groups or communities that share your interests? Finding people with similar passions can sometimes lead to more meaningful connections. And remember, it's okay to feel hurt and disappointed; your feelings are valid.
Take care of yourself and keep reaching out. You're not alone in this.
@Sleebo
It sounds incredibly painful to feel so alone and unappreciated, especially after graduating high school. It's hard when it seems like people around you don’t value your presence or efforts, and it’s understandable to question yourself in this situation.
Please remember that your worth isn’t defined by how others perceive you or treat you. It’s not uncommon to feel invisible, especially during times of transition like graduation. Many people struggle to find genuine connections, and it’s not a reflection of your value as a person.
Consider reaching out to your one true friend, even if she’s far away. Sometimes, maintaining connections, even long-distance, can provide comfort. Also, exploring new social opportunities, like clubs or groups that align with your interests, might help you meet people who appreciate you for who you are.
It’s important to talk about these feelings, whether with a trusted friend or a mental health professional. You deserve to feel connected and valued. You're not alone in this, and there are people who care, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.
@Sleebo Hello 🌸 thank you for sharing in this vulnerable way with all of us. Everyone deserves a space where they feel like they can express their thoughts & feelings and you aren't alone in what you are experiencing and going through, I hope this message left is a reminder that there is nothing wrong with you, I'm sorry that others have made you feel this way, that your life experiences have made you believe that you were the centre core reason of wrong but I hope you know that it's not you, it's the world that surrounds you that treats you unfairly and unjust in an undeserving way but this is not your fault, it's a reflection of others & the world, you deserve more but you are heard, seen and understood here by us all, don't hesitate to reach out to anyone of us here as we will always be here to support you.
@Sleebo I hear you. Feeling alone and unappreciated is a really challenging feeling.
I'm sorry that you don't feel important to your friends and family, you deserve more than that.
I understand how distressed you must feel dealing with all of this. This isn't your fault.
I'm here for you.
Hi @Sleebo
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way—and I want you to know that what you're going through matters. You're not alone in feeling this kind of hurt, and it's okay to say it out loud. What you’ve shared takes a lot of courage, and I'm really grateful you opened up.
From your words, I can feel how much pain you’ve carried—not just recently, but for a long time. Feeling overlooked or forgotten, especially by the people who are supposed to care, can be deeply painful and isolating. And it's completely understandable to question yourself when this kind of rejection keeps showing up in your life.
But I want to gently remind you: this isn’t a reflection of your worth. You’re not disposable. You're someone who wants connection, who tries to reach out, who cares enough to organize things, and who is aware of how human we all are in needing closeness. That tells me you’re far from forgettable—you’re someone who feels deeply, and that’s something to value.
Sometimes the people around us don’t have the emotional maturity or awareness to show up in the ways we need. That doesn’t mean you are wrong—it means there’s a misalignment between your needs and what they’re able (or willing) to offer.
And I just want to say—you are seen here. You matter here. I hear the pain, the confusion, the longing in your words. And even though this space isn’t the same as real-life hugs or late-night talks with someone who really gets you, it's still real. And so is your experience.
You’re not broken. You’re human.
💙 Sending you warmth and kindness.
@Sleebo Hi, I'm so sorry that you're going through this Sleebo. It sounds like you are in so much pain from feeling alone, which I know can be quite horrible. I know that I've felt a similar way when I felt as if I didn't really have any friends or anyone to talk to. Feeling isolated from everyone is such a hard feeling to deal with. I do want you to know that you're always welcome to talk to us on 7cups, and we are all here for you. Have you tried joining any of the community rooms? That might be a way to connect with other members that may help with those feelings of loneliness. Please take care and feel free to reach out if you ever need support.