You Can Be Good Yet Fail
I've never done well with competition. As a child it gave me a deep sense of inferiority and inadequacy. As an adult it does the same. As I grow older I have begun to realize that many of my shortcomings and failures were simply the natural process of life, they were not reflections of my worth.
I enjoy the School of Life YouTube channel. They provide animated videos with new concepts and perspectives. One video of theirs is titled
@EastAfrique
I totally agree with you. We often think we need to the absolute best. That's not true. Failure is okay. That video sounds great. I'll be sure to check it. Thank you for sharing.
I have struggled with this too. I feel inadequate in many situations where I do not get the desired outcome
This remonds me of a book I just ordered today called "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a ... (you know what)". There is a lot of profanity in that book, I will warn you, but the author really gets his point across and that point, from the small except I read is ... sometimes, if we try too hard to achieve something, we will not achieve it.
If we look in the mirror, for example, and say that we're beautiful 10 times, is it because we believe that we are beautiful, or that we lack the actual confidence to believe that wee are beautiful? That confidence, as that book says, can only come from learning to become comfortable with who we are rather than trying to become who we are not.
I have a problem with social anxiety that tends on more than one occasion to spiral into depression ... because I worry too much about changing so much about who I am in order to please friends that I want to keep, only for them to leave me anyway and then I end up not only feeling alone and more anxious, but also feeling less confident and less of who I had been before meeting those so-called friends.
@EastAfrique this is such a great topic! Thank you so much for raising it.
I'm always telling people that failure is a part of life, without failing at something there is no challenge in life. Most people learn from their failures, which is what makes them so crucial!
I try and teach a growth mindset, which highlights the importance of the practice and learning we get from failures and not o ly always succeeding. All I, or anyone can ask of someone, is that they try their very best and whatever that is is perfect ... whether they "succeed" or not.
I'm glad you lot liked it
