Cannot be alone for very long
Hi my name is Dakota (all pronouns welcome) and I find it hard to be in my house without my roommate. Ive gotten very close over the years and I hate when he isnt here. Of course he can be gone for a day or 2 and ill be ok. But he was gone for a whole weekend once and I was struggling BAD. He eases my anxiety and depression. And I was having an anxiety episode and he wasnt there to comfort. Why is this happening?!?!?! Its so frustrating
I hear you. I actually opted for roommates after living alone for 5 years — partly so I could afford nicer digs, but also largely because I felt I needed it. Are there local orgs (or even virtual ones) you can join, to add more social events to your calendar? That's definitely helped me in the past.
Your pain reminds me of someone I used to know. At college I had a friend with whom I would attend all my classes. On days she wouldn't come, I would skip classes, and not just that, I wouldn't talk to anyone in class. She anchored me, supported me out and out, helped me communicate with people and even helped me attain good scores. I didn't have a life beyond her. It's a shame that we grew apart after college. But I realised that after a point of time, we've all got to go through things we've been avoiding all along. I had to come out of my shell, I still am. Only we know how much effort and courage it takes to ease anxiety and depression on our own. Sometimes we've just got to pick ourselves up and help ourselves overcome issues alone; or with the help of others, but not that person we so desperately seek help from. Love and respect.
@DakotaLove4 Hi Dakota. I struggle with the same issue. I'm glad your roommate is there with you at least some of the time. I've found that watching a lot of disney movies and cartoons helps me when I am stuck at home. (Maybe I should take my own advice lol). It's really hard because when I have work it distracts me from the loneliness and I am able to see some coworkers I'm friendly with, but I really need the weekend to rest but then feel like I can't enjoy my time off because I get lonely so easily arghh.