I feel like no one cares
Hello,
Has anyone ever felt like no one cares and there is like built up anger in you? I have an older sister that has been the trigger for my anger. She is manipulative and has told me things like I was jealous of her and that I was jealous of her life. She has told me hurtful words that led me question about myself as a person. As of right now, she chose me to be her maid of honor for her upcoming wedding. I feel conflicted due to not wanting to be her maid of honor due to the things she has done to me in the past. I feel like she is wants to get her way somehow. She and her new fiancé have been really rude to my boyfriend and my boyfriend has not done anything to them. My sister and his fiancé claim that my boyfriend is competing in some way. I really don’t feel like being a part of this wedding. Sadly, my parents do not approve of my feelings and are making me participate. My sister has really left me out due to wanting to hangout more with her fiancés sisters rather than me. And also she has blocked me on social media and she still wants me to be her maid of honor? I feel sooo confused. Can someone help me with this situation
Hi,
I know what it's like to have a toxic sister: I have two. When I was young, my mom would discipline me according to what my sister said without ever hearing my side of the story. When I was in highschool, my sister unlocked the bathroom door and told me I needed to get out of the shower. I was literally in the shower with the water running, and my mom agreed with her and starting yelling at me to get out. It was pretty demeaning, but this kind of thing happened all of the time. Fast forward to recent years. I just spent the last three years of my life taking care of my parents. My sisters did nothing at all, but one kept trying to take over power of attorney & the money. The other just "accepted" a very large amount of money, which I had to fight to get back because I was taking care of my Alzheimer's dad. You sound young, but the things to ask yourself would be did you ever have a good relationship with your sister? Has this sort of thing happened all of your life, or is your sister maybe going through a bad spell for whatever reason? I say this because for me, I never had a good relationship with my sisters from very early on. If that is the case, it's a rare thing that could change. Your parents may be sort of "allowing" her behavior by not calling her out on it. From my situation I can say that the ending was probably inevitable: I don't speak to them at all anymore, and this has been a healthy awakening for me.
Wow, I am so sorry this happened to you. If anything what your sisters have done to you including your mom that had allowed something to happen is more toxic than my situation. My sister and I have had a positive relationship since the start, but ever since my boyfriend came into the picture and I got myself in a wonderful relationship with a guy that I can truly call my husband someday, things start to spiral down my relationship with her. My sister would disrespect me and would find ways to have me break up with him. She and her now so fiancé were very rude to him. And I am never able to understand why? But at this point I don’t care Becuase it’s my life and I can decide whether I want to be with my boyfriend or not. And my mom and dad is enabling her to be this way due to not saying much to her or noticing my side of the story too much. My mom just says just ignore her, but that doesn’t help. That’s good that you have established boundaries and sometimes even though it’s family, sometimes you need to place limits with them inorder for your happiness.
I am sorry that is happening for you. Due to the fact that you had a good relationship in the past, it might be worth it to bring the subject up with your sister. Maybe some things can be resolved that way.