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My loneliness caused by: trauma or personality?

User Profile: JShado
JShado September 22nd, 2016

Ok healing means understanding the root cause and taking steps to repair from the inside out. Heres some of my story. If you have any insights, share bcos im super interested. Is my constant loneliness and inability to connect rooted in trauma (flexible) or personality (fixed)?

The trauma; My mum, gone. Dad, kicked me out at 14. Brothers, backed him up. Childhood home of abuse and neglect. Travelled with a carnival till 17. All criminals and drug addicts. Carnival meant moving around a lot, what few highschool friends I had forgot me. Never in one place long enough to make new friends. Never learnt how. Carnival also meant scamming, betrayal, tricks and deception, violence, abuse and exclusion. All this past = complex ptsd, anxiety, depression. Ptsd percieves everyone as a threat and has lots of trust issues. Anxiety, obvious contributer to continued loneliness as with depression.

Now the personality; im an INTJ myer briggs type. The rarest type for a female. 1 in 500 average. Emphasising the introvert. As well as being rare, this type is also very secretive and untrusting, very independent etc. So is virgo, very guarded with perfonal details and selective with connecting.

I dont believe personality or starsigns are totally ligit but the info about me gives pretty accurate insight.

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User Profile: evonne1990
evonne1990 September 22nd, 2016

@JShado

I would say both are contributing factors.

User Profile: deeplove
deeplove September 27th, 2016

Could it be that all that you have been through has had a role in your dvelopment as an INTJ personality type?

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User Profile: JShado
JShado OP September 27th, 2016

@deeplove Solid point. The few intj's I've met have come from a broken home. I'll do some research and look into this. Thanks for your reply

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User Profile: deeplove
deeplove September 27th, 2016

No problem! :)