No friends = no happines
Hello. I am 21. I don't know how to tell you my story. I don't know how to start and if it will make any sens. But i will give it s try. In theory my life is okay (besides depression,anxiety,sekf harming...) but i feel lonely. I don't have friends. All i had were so called friends as long as they needed money,support,listener. Then they turned into mean people who were just able to hurt me. To insult me etc. Some months ago (two or three) i lost my BFF. She always has been selfish and "moody" but lately it was worse and worse. Without any reason. I tried to talk to her but or she didnt answer at all or has been telling "nothing had hapen". She even didnt believed me when i told her how bad i was treated in last job. Just because our other friend told her that it is not true and i am a liar. I had profs how bad i was treated but she didnt listen to me. She stopped talking to me. It hurts cos i know her almost 10 years. (This other friend from job doesnt talk to me nor to this mean one cos she act like old lady. She just focus on cooking and posters of her fav filmstars. She doesnt need us. She told.me that) BUT behaviour of this mean one hurts me the most. And fact that people just use me. Hopefully i didnt confuse you. I just had to tell about it to someone...
I've been through the same.. It definitely is hard to not have friends but it's better to not have people just wanting things from you and not even appreciate you for you.
Indeed. But loneliness sometimes kills you. Especially if you found old pics/videos of you and your friend
Darlin, Idk how old you are, but that has happened to me and I came to realize there is no such thing as "friends", just associates. I have a memory box w/pics from high school and a few years after .. some friends left after graduation and some stayed. Eventually people make their own life. Marraige, career, kids .. You then realize your only friends truly is your family. Even family members can use a person actually. My only true friend that I can depend on is my husband. Sweetie, I can be your friend, but do take consideration to what I said b/c ppl today are fake and will use you. I don't want that to happen to you.
I am (just) 23. I know that the most important ppl are my family members and my bf. I appriciate it. But it makes me sad when for example i see group of friends in shopping malls,parks,cinemas who are having great time and i know i wont have such kind of entertament. Soon i am going on rock concert with...mom...its cool to have a mom how want do that but it would be more crazy (this concert) with a friend. If you know what i mean. I miss such simple things like shopping, hanging out ,making b'day with friends. I have some good pals but they all are in usa so they live thousands miles away (i am from europe) I know that i have to deal with that and be happy of what i got...but still this situation sometimes puts me down.
I understand what you are saying .. Sometimes you just wannabe w/the girls. You're lucky you can go to a concert w/your mom. My mom and I are not so close, but I still help her out when she needs it. You can always make new friends also. But I was just saying that friends aren't always real friends. A lot of times it's just for status. To be cool and popular is not a requirement. Your future is more important. I wish I was your age again. I would've changed a lot of things! It's ok to be the dork w/the geeky friends at the library! At least I would've been studying for school .. but no, I was more worried about partying and boys and friends. Now I fix cars w/my husband for a living. I get greasy everyday and smell like transmission fluid when I come home. lol I really wanted to be a pharmacist .. but I didn't make it to the university b/c I screwed up my senior year. So .. just be happy w/who you are and accomplish your goals! :)
Listen, I know your sad about your friends but they don't really sound like "friends" consider yourself lucky. You now have an opportunity to move on better people and have better memories with those people.
If you work with them find a new job a better one that makes you happy. Join meet up find people who likes things you do. It feel awkward but you can meet really great friends.
Stop talking to them and stop thinking about them. You only miss them bc you got used to them and their ways and now it's gone. Consider it a high and now here's the crash.
Trust me go out and do better for yourself. :)
I'm in basically the same exact situation. I messed up and moved in with my best friend. Only to realize how used she makes me feel. Sometimes it feels like the world is growing up and moving on and I'm getting left behind. You're not alone. I think everyone has to go through it
Thank you guys for the replay. I appriciate it since in chat msgs are ignored or lost. I know i have to close the chapter with this "friend" like for now it is very hard for me...but maybe one day i will do that...cos i cant wait the whole life flr her good mood
Hello Octopmus.
I just want to say that I hope one you realize your self-worth and make true friends and reject those that only want to use you for their own purposes.
Best wishes
*Octopus
1alwaysdreaming. Thank you. I just have to focus on other parts of life.
I know you can do it ^_^
Im the same my friends are my parents. I"ve had friends but like everything they moved on life goes on I wish it could have been different but you learn to adapt.I focus on doing things with my parents and my dog whom is my best friend.Focus on your family because they are your real best friends.