Can't seem to shake the feeling

@brightField7213

Stop telling yourself lies. Dont cheat to yourself. Tell the truth,
that there are things that you are not happy with, that you want to change.
Face the mirror and dont simply say something about what you ARE,
but what you DO or not DO. If you have to view something negatively then the way you behave.

write down on your sticky Notes:
"Change is hard, takes effort, pain, sweat and sometimes you stumble"
"There will be resistance from my mind, my body and my spirit."

Then find things that you wish would be different, and write them down.

then go to google and search online "Can be X be changed ?" "best steps to become X", "bigest challenges in X".

When you have your goals, and read how to achieve them, then break them apart.
Lets say one of the goals you have writen down is " I want to be attractive."
Break that apart:
What is attractive ?: Looking good, being charming.
what is "looking good"?: healthy body, good clothes, clean look.
what is healthy body ?: fit, rested.
how do I get fit? : exercise regulary, eat healthy.
how do i look rested?: sleep regulary and well.

Break everything you want change to the level that is so simple you can do it without thinking.

For example if you want to read 3 chapters of a book every day to learn some topic for school:

> prepare paper, pen to write and the book.
1- Read a paragraph of text ( about three senteces).
2- Close eyes and explain it to yourself in head.
3- Write down in your words what the paragraph means.
4- go to 1)
> when done 3 chapters, make a big green mark in your scheduler for the day

If you have your action plan, write down how your body, mind and spirit will resist.

Body - I will feel to tired, to hungry, to anxious, to hot, cold..
Mind - I will feel needing a break, do something else first, put it on tommorow
Spirit - I will feel a lack of progress, not see any point of it, etc

Find answers to above questions that work for you, like :
- Yes its normal to feel tired sometimes, especialy if you make effort.
- Breaks are planned in, after the exercise
- i can watch the movie later, answering the mail can wait for 30 min
- Today is yestedays tommorow, its awful to wait for the last moment panic to do something
- Achieving something is like building a house, boring brick on brick, step by step.
- if there is no point to anything, at least doing something leaves me without regrets

And then talk with your potential self and universe every morning and evening.

Morning: Hey, my future myself; what and how can i do today so i will have no regrets ? how can i make it awesome.
Evening: Did it work out as i wanted, what was good, what needs adjustment ? Did i made a step on achieving my goals ?