How to help a significant other with depression
Hi all,
I'm looking for some genuine advice right now.
My boyfriend has struggled on and off with depression his whole life. The last year he has been constantly depressed, but mildly. The last few months though he has been severely depressed and continues to worsen... no interest in anything, not even hobbies he usually loves, he's not interested in sex and is genuinely feeling very confused and unsure about everything in his life. He said that he is very sad and very lost.
I know that is a very brief description of what he is going through, but if anyone has any advice on what I can do to help him I would really appreciate it. He refuses to seek professional help of any kind. I just hate seeing him suffer and he has really hit a new low. Is there anything I can do to help him?... besides "letting him know he's heard and I care about him?" If anyone has past experience with depression, what helped you get out from under it?
thank you ❤️
@amfunici
I'm sorry that you are having to figure out something that isn't in any way something you can fix for him. I suffered for 38 years until I finally realized my way doesnt work and then I spent two years suffering anxiety while I tried to learn and tried to get help. I found the mental health system impossible to navigate. The veterans finally stepped up to help me and got me into therapy. Now five months later I'm finally finding some ☮️ peace. Vrylar for two months just recently has helped me out. He needs to realize the help is out here, and he needs to beg for it and be grateful for it. He knows his way doesnt work, so remind him. At some point we must get out of our own way. We can get help once we understand that. You might not want to enable him, he may need to go lower before he realizes he needs to work at this and let professionals help. Once he can be honest with himself, he can start to recover.
Blessings, Day 👍
@juliak1968
thank you for responding. I'm glad you're getting the help you need now and are doing better!
@amfunici
Youre very welcome. Once i started hearing other people that suffer explain how they feel, i realized i wasnt alone and my unique problems are more common than i thought, i opened up enough to let help in 😊
Many blessings, Day🖒🖒
@amfunici
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