I really need help with stopping self harm :(

@Timmie46,

Hello, I hear you. I understand that it's very difficult for you to stop self harm( SH) . Even if you don't want to continue , SH serves a purpose for those who do it. While it could be completely avoided by sorting out emotions and experiences that causes the urge..it's a long process. I know it's not easy...to say the least. I am so sorry that you have to do it. It's so so so commendable of you to reach out for assistance here!!

Have you tried out other alternatives for self harm ? This is a link to one of the threads at cups that states a long list of healthy alternatives. While there are so many of it , you as well as I know that not all of them may be useful or even make sence to all of us. However it's definitely worth going through, you may find something that suits you

https://www.7cups.com/forum/SelfHarmRecovery_65/InformationandResources_1079/SELFHARMALTERNATIVES_2480/

Please know that support is always available. You can talk to Listeners here. None of us can solve your problem, but sharing your thoughts and troubles with others is powerful in itself. We cannot help you directly, but we will definitely stand by you while you take your steps forward and backward ( why not!? We are humans not robots)

You can also use the self help guides cups have to get a different perspective on SH .

These are just few options you have among others in stock! You are an expert on your own life you are in control . I know it's hard for you. I know you are struggling.

Please know that you are not alone. While you take your steps, there will be many of us who take those same steps right by you. You have got this. I know it doesn't seem so right now. But you have come this far. You will get through this too . You don't need to fix or do anything immediately. You can take it as much as eventually as you want. Just know that you can , simply remembering that fact , makes our struggles bareable

Senting lots of love hugs( if okay) and strength. You have already got those. But hehe, it's okay if you take more

@Timmie46 keep the things that with you hurt yourself in a place you cant always go, or take it back easily

What kinds of things do you do to distract yourself? @Timmie46

@Timmie46

I'm really sorry to hear that. I know stopping self harm isn't easy and can be very tough. I can't do much except recommend you a few sites to go on,which I'm really sorry about. But I'm here to let you know that you matter,and even though you may not feel like it at times,it would hurt a lot of people if you were gone. You are unique,you are you. It doesn't matter what other people think. I know that their words effect you,even though I'm talking about confidence here,sometimes I also feel lost and I break down and cry. It's okay to do that. It's okay to feel lost. It's okay to feel broken. I know some words from a stranger don't matter,and although I don't know you at all,You really matter to me. Think about how it would effect the people around you if you were gone. Self harm isn't the answer to anything. I am not saying that quiting self harm is easy. I've been there. It's hard. It's hard when you hate yourself. Your body. Your personality. And it's hard when your smile fades away slowly. It's hard when you're not the person you used to be. I'm sorry,I know I probably did not make you feel better. I feel like you need to hear this- I love you,and you matter♡