Just joined today
I was searching for comfort, support, anything that gave me relief from my feelings of rejection, not being good enough, and self blame after my wife dropped the bomb last week that she was done with the marriage. She put the blame on me and I worked on improving myself without validation. She refused to go to couples counseling with me. I found this site and see alot of good posts and support.
Hello I'm also new to this site. I understand your feelings as that is my worse fear. I understand the pain of trying your best but others see it as barely trying. It's insanely frustrating.
I just joined today too. I'm sorry you're in a tough situation. It's hard not to blame when you've invested time and emotion but try not to. Marriage is so complicated. It's no ones fault that it didnt work out. Just have to try to be grateful for the good times and try to take what you've learned into the next relationship (when that time comes).