SELF CARE

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I was bullied, and still have trouble with my confidence and self esteem, but when I focus on what "I want" and "What I need" instead of dwelling on the past, its easier to get busy living doing the things your interested in and our brains cant be happy and sad at the same time: so stay busy doing the things that bring you the most joy and dont let yourself sit and think or dwell.

If you put in the work, it soon wont feel like work

Being a kind person tends to put us at a disadvantage. Discouragements hit us harder because we really genuinely care and have a conscience. So, if your like me, you take the abuse (because most people see your kindness as weakness) and push any anger deep inside and think hard to find a way to resolve things the nice way (but it rarely works with user types) and the frustration and pressure builds up inside which can become paralyzing. At some point I get very angry and must confront that person or people, so i do my best not to become agressive and try to communicate well so they can understand. Then i sit wondering again why that still didnt work. It is because they are just not nice or fair people.

I think we need to take any anger and frustration and transform that into motivation to care for ourselves (which we must do in a crewl world like this) We have to understand and believe, then except those people just will not change.

We must stand tall in knowing we are good quality people and we deserve to be around good quality moral people, so we can grow again away from the bondage bad folks try to create to control us.

Its easier to advocate for ourselves once we are confident in our morals and standards as our strengths. We have to believe in that petson in the mirror, care for, and stand up for that reflection. Once we have the confidence needed, we can move forward and keep the negative people out of the self care harmonious circle we create for ourselves.

It is all about survival, and yes, we do not have to be nice or have any contact with the users or negative (energy-sucking) immoral scum we share the earth with.

I believe we should be absolutely certain that any person we do support is worthy.

I think we will be judged by our freinds sucess, not our own, but make sure who ever you choose to love and support, they deserve and give back encouragement, love and support.

We must first love, encourage, and care for our reflection because that will give back wisdom and confidence we need so we can walk without questioning.

We all have gifts gained from overcoming a number of serious challenges. That's something that has given us all many survival skills. The good and the bad always seem to come together. But look at all we've been through that has made us all very wise! Identifying our talents and learning to use our intelligence productively is at hand. Its time now to do things for ourself and except who we are and pat ourself on the back for all we've learned. Self care, and learning what we want so our life has a good feeling of purpose and direction. Im sure we can now learn to make it happen for ourself once we can figure out what we want to do, or be. Being fearless once we realize what we want to do. Everything we want and need is just on the otherside of the fears.

I like posting my thoughts because it gives us all a way to leave some deep parts of ourselves behind, and so in a small way imortalizing us for all time (as long as the Internet lasts)

Ive been holding my anger inside for a very long time, and have been abusing my own health also and i got mad tonight and felt the power that i denied myself to feel for years. I realize that i felt so bad for hitting somebody because i couldnt control my anger, so bad that i turned against myself. I learned not to react, and in not reacting for so long, now people see me as weak and soft. Ive really hurt myself, and my self respect so deeply that i had forgotten how to be angry. Its always been to powerful for me to control when pushed......and we all know, Life pushes!

I liked the awesome power i felt during my anger, i should tap back into it now and use it to get my health back. But do i dare to?

Im not a coward, but im full of fear

I felt a lot of emotions yestetday and last night and i learned something big. In my attempts to hold people close, that do not deserve any of my kindness, i see how they take advantage. In my need to be wanted and loved, ive let people walk all over me.

I need to be strongest now to stand up for myself. Ive been depressed for so long that ive avoided doing all that life requires. If i give up, i must give up, there is no half way because then evil people will take advantage like a wolf. I need to start biting back if im to survive. This really worries me a lot because i never had the best control over my emotions. And people dont play fair, so in "the game" i am at a great disadvantage. I need help, but when i ask, the people i ask tend to take advantage. Its a hard world when a disabled person cannot find any real guidance or assistance. The social services are terrible in the US, they do give away food, but it almost ends there. No long term plans, ideas, or help getting me involved so i am not so isolated. If you dont have extra money after paying bills, it becomes a long hard cycle of lonely survival to just keep the basics going.

Laughter truly is the best medicine!

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