How do you be a good person?
I’ve been struggling with this a lot recently,
seeing people here so many are kind and nice and just decent people but how?
like I’m a really spiteful, cruel Selfish person.
I’m really sensitive towards any sort of criticism and I’m extremely insecure.
i always seem to bring down the mood and make things worse sometimes not even for my own benefit.
and I know obviously everyone isn’t perfect all the time or even most of the time but I’m not sure how to be that person.
does anyone have any ideas?
@figFog It's always a good thing to start off knowing that you aren't perfect but wanting to be a better person, which is what you're already doing! My advice would be to, when about to talk to someone, think "If someone said this to me, how would I feel." It's kinda a small thing, and doesn't always work, but it's good to stop and think about what you're about to say. With that being said, I really appreciate that you're wanting to put in the effort to be a nicer person!
@figFog Hi. Learn to love yourself. Learn to have self compassion. Learn to empathize with others. You are not a bad person, you are just struggling with your own emotions. You have made a great start by coming to 7 Cups.
@figFog
well first I would throw away that concept of yourself as a bad person. You are here, and you are trying, so you need to give yourself some credit.
Secondly, don’t get too caught up in the labels “good” and “bad,” as they are incredibly vague and my guess is that if you elaborated on what qualities make up a “good” person, that you would find that you have a lot of them! And same with the “bad” - if you elaborated on what you actually mean, you’d find you don’t fit that category for many things. :)
