Finally a place where I can TALK
Hello
my boyfriend cheated on me and it’s been really difficult for me to get over it when I’ve already made the decision I am going to give him another chance and I’m with him now and not online so it’s better I guess , anyways i really love him he’s a really good boyfriend and a good person for me (minus the cheating he feels horrible for it and I think it’s funny how upset he gets at himself ) but I couldn’t bare the thought of losing him and I just want to figure out how to forgive him fully and allow myself to do that I have a lot of abandonment issues and trust issues and they’re having a great party and ruining my fucking relationship bevause I get angry at him whenever I think about it or get reminded or whatever when I just don’t want to care he makes me happy and he makes me want to be alive and aspire to do good things and I’m ruining it because I can’t forgive and trust him and I know that it’s fine but I’m over it I’m so over it I just want it to be how it was before I found out .
I'm really sorry your going through that, I've been there and I know how hard it can be to regain that trust once it's broken.
But You aren't ruining anything feeling the way you feel, it takes time to rebuild a relationship and what you rebuild may not nessisarily look exactly like what was there before.
thank you, I feel like that’s what I wanted to hear, that makes alot of what I overthink about go away
i think he’s ghosting you I would break the relationship off it’s just causing you distress and you not feeling wanted your feelings matter just as much as his do, he isn’t putting the effort he needs to in and ignoring you and that isn’t okay :/ I know it’s hard and I know you love him but you can’t do that to yourself
