Hi all
I appreciate the fact we're recognised on here... it's refreshing, not having to explain it all.
im really struggling to not blame myself about things. I fell deeply in love with this guy, since around August, honestly haven't stopped thinking about him since then, but since around December he's a changed guy.
Hes no longer affectionate and ignores anything I really say to him that's not asking him about his life.
i feel as though it's my fault and I've done something to make him act so differently, but I feel selfish for wanting him to like me. I adore and look up to him so much and feel pathetic. I keep lashing out at him for ignoring the loving messages i send him and it pushes him away further.
Any advise on how to cope would reallt be appreciated. Much love x
@Ash131313
Hi there Ash,
I see you are a new member, a warm welcome here to you! I am glad you have joined our community and I hope this will be a nice experience for you, one where you feel understood and supported. Please do not hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or if you think I may be able to help you in any way.
You seem to be experiencing lots of feelings and emotions at the same time, and it must be so challenging and confusing for you... You seem to deeply desire a connection with this guy, while at the same time feeling guilty for this wish of yours. It sounds like there is lots of anger that you express by lashing out to him, there are sadness and internal guilt too... I wonder how much attuned you are to these feelings and which coping mechanisms you have tried so far to deal with them? Are you able to observe them mindfully and not to judge you, but remain compassionate towards yourself?