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Impulse control

February 9th, 2017

Okay, I'm too impulsive for my own good. How do you make decisions and deal with impulses? Like, it feels like I need to just pick something I desire momentarily and then convince myself that I actually want to continue with it. My passions fade to quickly that if I just follow what I want to be doing, I end up doing nothing at all. I need input.

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User Profile: InvaderStitch
InvaderStitch February 9th, 2017

@indigoShade9220

Do you have any experience with DBT? I've found that mindfulness and making pros and cons have been helpful for me.

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February 9th, 2017

@InvaderStitch I'm not diagnosed, but I've also never met with anyone about my psychological issues because, for a while, I thought I was just over-dramatic, fickle minded, and hormonal (partly because I knew my brain didn't work the same as someone's who has depression or bipolar disorder and hadn't looked deeper into other mental health problems, so I didn't think I needed/deserved any help). It wasn't until recently when I stumbled upon the signs of BPD that I thought "Maybe this is something that requires psychiatric help." I'm working on seeing a therapist/psychiatrist presently, though it's difficult when I don't know where to begin (so I'm talking to my general doctor tomorrow). So, to answer your question shortly: no, but maybe yes.

And thank you for the advice, but a problem with pros and cons lists is that sometimes, I feel the pros outweigh the cons and sometimes it's the latter, so how I interpret the list is also dependent on mood.

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User Profile: InvaderStitch
InvaderStitch February 9th, 2017

@indigoShade9220

Oh! Good luck finding the support you need! Having the right support in place can make all of the difference.

On my pros and cons I do a pros of doing something and cons of doing something as well as the pros of not doing and the cons of not doing. And then I look at my list and determine what are short-term benefits vs. long-term benefits and usually try to go with the one that has more long-term benefits.

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February 10th, 2017

@InvaderStitch I just saw this , but I didn't even think of that. That's a good idea. Thank you.

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