Need help
@aceizfire
What do you want her to trust about you again? Your post is a little vague as to what you want from her trust in you. Since you broke up, typically people go their separate ways, trust no longer is an important factor. What is it that you would like to rekindle with her, through this trust?
@TrueArrow i want her simple as that she is vary speical to me treated me like no one esle but also made me feel low at times im willing to accpet her for what she has and knowing that i wont always be happy just becuase i know that when i do feel happy it will be worth it
@aceizfire
Do you want her as a friend or to rekindle the romantic relationship? I know watching a person you care for struggle with an illness is difficult. Even more so when you are affected by it as well. Do you feel like you accept her in spite of her illness or do you think of her illness as an extension of all the components made up of who she is? It's good that you are willing to accept her for what she has, but it's also important to love every part of her. Illness and all. I think anyone who struggles with something they cannot cure, wants to feel that. It's important that you show that to her.
As far as trust goes, how do you think trust is made and earned? Usually it's through consistency of actions and effort. Perhaps evaluating the relationship and working on the problems that hurt you both through better communication, could regain her trust. Successful relationships are born from trial and error, you have to continously see what works in order to have a secure and loving one. That is why you must figure out what works and what you need to improve.
@TrueArrow well i want her back as a girlfriend again she says we are friends now but wont really talk to me how she use to when were friends back then she gives me one word responses but talks to everyone esle just fine i see what she has as a part of her without it i dont think she woulda have been able to show me the love she can give and i have forgiven her for what ive been made to feel its hard going from being adored to hated but im still there i didint really look in to her bpd cuz i jus assumed she was getting help and it was working and she is indeed getting help but the signs of it were there now that i think back and those were the things that scared me off but now im here learning going thru sites reading articles reading thru forums and trying to understand it and figure out what to do
@aceizfire
From what you describe, it sounds very typical of people who suffer from bpd. Bpd suffers can have a very "black and white" mentality. Perhaps that could be part of why she is acting so differently and why you feel hated. Or perhaps the relationship between you two feels over to her and she is acting accordingly, it's hard to say. I dated a person who I believe suffers from bpd and I know that feeling all too well. It can be quite the roller coaster ride of emotions. However, I think it's important to remember that you made a choice to end things. Being regretful will not change anything, it will only aid to more suffering and "what ifs". That is something that you do not want or deserve.
If she is not willing to work past the issues that broke you up, then I'm afraid there is little that you can do. The effort and desire needs to be from both parties, not just you. I know that this is not what you want to hear, but it's really only the advice I can give is to work towards moving on.
@TrueArrow i understand. thank you i really didint actually never leave ive talked to her everyday since August thru good and bad wethier i was upset or happy same for her i go thru depression so maybe thats why its so hard for me but your right i cant be the one putting in all the effort
My best friend is mad at me,but I didn`t do anyting to her. She is mad at me because I splitted on my grandma (I was very disrespectful) and I kow what I did was wrong and I already said sorry to my granny but my bff is still mad at me and won`t talk to me. I can`t handle it anymore
