Relationship issues
I feel that someone who had bpd like myself we surely do struggle a lot of intimate partners that we come across in our journey :( its so difficult not to act impulsively and ruin the whole bond or connection we had with someone, you get insecure and obsessed about what they are doing and they're not. It sucks.
@siastar Hello! I hope this message finds you well. I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with finding a relationship while having BPD as well. I can imagine how difficult that is. I promise you that you aren't alone at all. Many people struggle with having a relationship, both with and without BPD. Relationships are difficult and take a lot of time and effort. Your person will come along and everything will be okay! I believe in you! <3
@siastar I totally understand what you're saying! Having bpd as well it makes everything harder. What usually helps is me and my partner talking things out, letting them know about my personality disorder and how I may act.
Also gathering each week to talk about the relationship is healthy! It helps you understand in what way you can do better, if possible, and your partner as well!
Wishing you lots of strength 💜
@AmyMir6 where does this gathering take place, please?
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@blueAngel00 I meant to say you can talk with your partner each week about your relationship, it can be anywhere :)
@AmyMir6 don't mind me, I can be such a dork at times. 🥴
Actually, I misread what you wrote, what you said was completely clear. The misunderstanding falls on my shoulders entirely. But thanks for responding to my idiotic question. 🌹
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@blueAngel00 no worries, I don't think it was an idiotic question lol 💜
@siastar
I found a few good connections with men before and what I got from it, was they all had general anxiety disorders. I think the GAD helped them become so sensitive and understanding that they could tolerate BPD when there's effective communication going.
Hi Siastar. I find myself grappling with similar issues. It's like I have to talk with people who are closest (which are quite few actually). Sometimes I wonder is it because I am anxious I will *forget* them or something. Thanks for sharing. I have had some bad fights witha lot of people. Lot of closed ones now I don't understand how to behave with them. It's so difficult to set boundaries. I have tried maintaining different phones and minimising contact. Would be great if someone can throw greater light on this. Why we do this? And coping techniques