Need advice
Hi
I'm not sure if I am or not a nar. When I was younger I did say things wrongly to fit in. I thought at the time that was cool. Did I like it no. I also seen any mom condone bad behavior. This girl basically mirrored my whole life. Told me I deserved it and she does have power issues. I did try to reason and understand then. At the time I didn't believe that person would get people to mirror back. I've had people connected in this that allowed my negative to progress. Which she stated she would do. She mentioned how she would change the environment and make be believe in a narc. When I was younger the things I did was just a simple cry out for attention and some I did was wrong too. I do struggle with a lot of it now and would really love how to correct those negative things and how to handle ppl who are mirroring back for her. Just feel really conflicted. I want to get out of the neg thoughts because I know I'm better then this and I have in the past believed in me and respected myself. It's like over time all from that moment I'm going down hill.
@Jasmine1933
Hi,
We have to except and forgive ourselves quickly and move on. We were young and we only know and learn what we see and from the examples other flawed people are showing us. Some people stay like that, and some learn from those experiences. You are one of the one that not only learned from those days; you also have a good heart, and want to do even better. Im really really proud of you for not only realizing you can keep learning to do better; you also are reaching out in greatbways to learn how to. Never regret the mistakes we make because we are born knowing nothing, then we mirror what we see, and we desire to be noticed, and we also try to fit in, and impress.
Now that we're older and getting smarter, we realize better ways to want to be as we move forward.
But we must must must let the padt go, and forgive the padt so we dont end up carrying regrets that hamper our growth.
The trick is to rely on who youve become now! Not worry about crap that shouldnt still be renting space in your head.
Lighten the load and move on in your own way. You are great just as you are, and the only person you should want to impress, it yoyrself 😊