Always Sabotaging Yourself? Learn From Your Patterns

"Mistakes are lessons to be learned, and if we step back and look for the bigger patterns that make up our lives, we can discover what our lives are trying to teach us. Here are some of the major life areas and questions to help you discover those lessons:

Relationships

Are you the one left? Why? Are you the one who quits? Why? Do you cut and run, ghost the other, or can you end amicably? If you had to do these relationships over, what would you do differently?

Emotions

Where do you struggle emotionally–too angry, too anxious, too depressed, too jealous, too controlling, too critical? What are you most sensitive to? What triggers these reactions? What keeps you from changing them–you blame others for your reactions; you blame yourself; you feel ashamed; you’ve accepted that this is just you; you’re afraid to ask for help.

Goals and Dreams

Do you have goals and dreams? Are you able to move towards them? If not, why not? Perhaps you struggle with procrastination or perseverance, feel trapped in your life, are depressed, and tell yourself, why bother? Or after so many tries, you’ve given up and believe you can’t succeed, that you don’t deserve what you want, that you’re being irrational. Or maybe you just don’t have enough support.

Health

Are you plagued with health issues? Have you developed bad habits that contribute to your problems? What do you need to make your lifestyle healthier?

Happiness

What’s missing from your life? What do you need to be happy?

What’s the one thing you need to stop doing that would make the biggest difference in the quality of your life? What’s the one thing you need to start doing that would make the biggest difference? How can you start today?"

Read the complete article available at Psychology Today!

Reflection:

Do you struggle with self-sabotage at times? How do you cope?

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