The Odyssey Online: 28 Lessons I Wish Didn't Take 28 Years To Learn

"As the last age I'll be acknowledging approaches – the big TWO NINE – I’ve begun to reflect on my twenty-eight years. I remembered all the beautiful, yet challenging lessons I have learned.

Although finding inner peace, healing, and admitting to your mother that she was right all along is a journey on your own terms, I hope that somewhere along the way, you will realize that this is the journey you've been waiting for.

Create your own schedule of life and don't worry about following someone else's. Let your life be one you won’t regret. You deserve it!

There are, however, a few tips I can offer which may be useful to you:

1. Cherish your challenges. This is one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned. When my life looked far from happy, I thought that it wasn’t fair that I had to experience so many difficulties. I wished that I would wake up one day and problems would just disappear. But the more I hoped for having a magic wand, the tenser my challenges have felt. Now I understand that sometimes the shortest way is to walk through the fire and stay open. Don’t close your eyes. Look around and see what the challenges are meant to teach you.

2. Life happens for you, not to you. Everything in life happens for our higher good. Especially when we don’t see it. Sometimes the life needs to get us from point A to point B by redirecting our path, and it always feels hard. But at the end of the day, you find out that it’s all happening FOR you not TO you.

7. Become a friend to your mind. Until summer of 2021, I didn’t understand my mind and was swept by negative thoughts and patterns. I saw no way out of that space until I slowly began learning about my mind and why I was having certain negative self-sabotaging thoughts. It’s extremely difficult to create the life you want if you hear constant setbacks in your mind so this is one of the most important places to start.

9. Protect your energy. Our environment and people are interconnected with us all the time. The more sensitive ones among us can get quickly swept away by its intensity. Energies, thoughts, and intentions of others are influencing us. Although we cannot touch it or see it, we can feel it. Learning how to protect yourself energetically can be a life changer. Many times, our thoughts and moods don’t belong to us, we’ve just picked them up from others.

11. Be disciplined no matter how stubborn you are. I don’t like discipline by nature; I had to learn to like it. I’ve learned that when I’m disciplined, I feel better, I accomplish more, and I have more positive thoughts. The more disciplined I get, the easier it is to finish things with less effort. Discipline builds the momentum.

13. Listening to the intuition. Intuition is always correct. We all know it yet we still test it at times to see what happens if we act against our intuition. I’ve learned that the rational mind is great for computing what the diagonal distance of our galaxy is, but when it comes to the real life decisions, forget the rational mind. It works with patterns and with saved information. Whereas the intuition is the direct communicating tool with our soul, who knows where and why we’re going.

15. Be your own best friend, don’t look for the validation outside. I know that we’re social beings and having friends is important. Yet it should never replace the relationship you have with yourself. Choose your friends wisely because they’ll influence you. If you feel like they’re dragging you down, then they probably are. Always be there for yourself and be ready to stand out and be “the black sheep” if you need to. Don’t let anyone hold you back.

16. Learn how to love yourself. I don’t say just “love yourself” because that is said easier than done. It’s about learning. Loving yourself is a process and sometimes a life-long process. Yet I believe that we should all try to find more love for ourselves. Everyone can become more self-loving in distinct ways. Find the ways that work for you and then keep showing up for yourself moment by moment.

17. Be there for yourself. Always. Life happens, and sometimes it’s testing us at all levels. People we love leave, people we trust disappoint us, our dreams don’t work out, we get sick and tired. But at all these times, you’re the only person who is there with you. Don’t abandon yourself when life gets complicated; it’s time you need yourself the most.

20. Create the life you want. Your life is yours. You’re responsible for yourself and living and expressing your most beautiful dreams. No one can find happiness by living dreams of someone else. I know that we’ve created a society which loves systems and structures – especially those systems that don’t work for anyone. Yet I invite you to use your precious life for doing something that matters to you. Even if no one else agrees and supports you, do what makes you feel alive.

26. Relationships are assignments. All of our relationships are assignments, especially the romantic ones. They teach us which parts of ourselves we need to integrate and what lessons we need to learn. Your partner is a mirror to you, and they reflect your true self to you. The part of you that you wish to hide, but they don’t let you, so you have to face it and deal with it."

*Life is extremely difficult sometimes and we can feel so alone, even in a room full of people. As we age, we get more experience with life and it does become easier. I think reading these lessons doesn't exactly teach us the lesson, but it can help prepare us for what is to come and ease our minds that we aren't the only ones going through this. I think that these lessons are amazing and they can help guide us through life. Remember, you are never truly alone.*

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