Verywell Mind: People With Higher Levels of Self-Compassion Experience Less Boredom

"Everybody gets bored now and then. But some people are less likely to experience boredom than others—and it may have something to do with how they treat themselves, say researchers.

A new study, published in Personality and Individual Differences, found that people who experience greater feelings of compassion towards themselves are typically less likely to feel bored.

What is Self-Compassion?

Self-compassion, by offering compassion towards one’s own suffering, reduces the psychological impact of negative experiences, explains O’Dea. Practicing self-compassion helps to increase perceptions of a meaningful life by strengthening our self-worth and enhancing feelings of connection—to both the self and others.

A Closer Look at the Study

First, the researchers carried out a pilot study of 49 undergraduate students and found that self-compassionate individuals tended to be less prone to boredom. Next, they used Amazon’s Mechanical Turk platform to conduct a second study with 265 participants, then a third study with 191 participants.

The studies examined both dispositional self-compassion (i.e. a person's general tendency to be compassionate towards themselves) and state self-compassion (a person’s level of self-compassion at that particular moment). The studies also examined both boredom proneness (a general tendency to become bored) and state boredom (how bored a person feels at that particular moment).

The research suggests that not only is practicing self-compassion beneficial for your overall well-being but it may also help to reduce your boredom levels,” O’Dea says. “Importantly, the benefits from the increased perceptions of meaning in life that self-compassion imbues is specific to boredom, not negative affect.”

How to Foster Self-Compassion

We can do this through daily practice, starting with taking notice of our thoughts and how we talk to ourselves. “As you notice that you are talking to yourself in a negative way, you can practice reframing or rephrasing those thoughts to allow for more kindness,” says Dr. Netherton

O’Dea says self-compassion is a malleable personality trait that can be fostered through journaling and meditation techniques, offering the potential to mitigate boredom experiences.

Christy Whitman, a transformational leader and two-time New York Times bestselling author, sees self-compassion as energy. "It is an inner action that allows you to soothe and comfort yourself when things are not as you would like them to be," she says. "It is a way to feel yourself and allow yourself to have your experience and emotions, but move through them; it neutralizes energy from lower-level emotions into higher-level emotions."

Whitman's first tip is to feel what you don't want to think by being aware of the energy. "Process that energy through breath work or energy mastery techniques and processes," she says. "Then ask to feel compassion. Feel as if a warm hug of energy is surrounding your body. Speak to yourself with kindness and soothing words such as 'I know it is not easy to feel X sometimes, and it will get better'."

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Reflection:

Would you say you are a self-compassionate individual? If you could rate your sense of self-compassion on a scale of 1-10, how would you rate it?

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