Self-Harm Recovery Check-In: Tuesday, January 28th, 2020
Happy Tuesday lovely SHR Community!
Check-in questions:
How are you feeling today?
How has this week started for you? Are there any specific thoughts about it you would like to share with us?
On which aspect(s) of healing could you focus this week?
I am looking forward to hearing from you again, as always.
With love from France,
Valeria
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How are you feeling today?
Not great, even though I have plenty of physical energy again, I still feel mentally drained, besides getting rest I don't really know what to do about it
How has this week started for you? Are there any specific thoughts about it you would like to share with us?
It was fine mostly, I had somewhat of a mental breakdown In the evening yesterday and went to bed early, feeling awful and sad
On which aspect(s) of healing could you focus this week?
I guess letting go of the past, I often act sorta aloof about my unstable childhood, like it doesn't affect me any more, but it does. And I want it to actually affect me less. Does anyone have tips on how to start moving on from the past?
@Madaraismyspiritanimal
Dear Richard,
I am really sorry to hear you had a mental breakdown yesterday. It makes sense that you are still feeling emotionally drained and I hope getting some rest will help you to overcome this quickly.
I understand very well how an unstable childhood can still impact us many years later. And I also understand very well the desire to let this go. I have been working on this in therapy, but I am not sure I have real tips to share. With my therapist we have mainly talked about the need of processing and then accepting things. He once suggested me to write a letter to my father and tell him how his actions made me feel when I was a child and how they have impacted my life. I have also tried mindfulness activities or guided meditations on forgiveness. Hope this helps a bit…
Thank you for checking-in and have a nice rest of the day
How are you feeling today?
I'm feeling okay.
How has this week started for you? Are there any specific thoughts about it you would like to share with us?
Not great. Not terrible either but not great. Yesterday I didn't get everything I wanted to done and I've been super behind on my schoolwork these last few weeks it's been really sttressing me out. I relapsed again yesterday. I haven't felt like I'm getting better, I've learned how to cope better but I still feel like its getting worse. I wrote out signs to look out for when it starts getting bad again and things I can do to help myself when its getting bad. I did get to see a friend that I dont get to see often Sunday. We went to the arcade and had a very fun time. I really enjoy hanging out with her.
On which aspect(s) of healing could you focus this week?
Developing positive coping skills and practicing self forgiveness. I would like to tackle all of the aspects of healing but I know that takes time and I cant do everything all at once. I think I've got some coping skills already but I would like to develop them and make sure I use them when needed. I know I need to forgive myself (and others, but I have to work on myself before I work on others). It is my fault I started self harming, but I think I can forgive myself. I didn't have healthy coping skills at the time and I didnt know what to do. It may be my fault that I am where I am, but I don't blame myself. Its okay. I'll be okay.
@fairmindedRaspberries1389
Dear Raspberries
I am sorry to hear your week hasn
Hey @admaiorasemper ! I hope you're doing well.
I'm feeling very bored and kind of sleepy. Nothing exciting is happening. I guess it's better than feeling upset though.
This week has started alright I think (?) Again, nothing out of the ordinary happened so I can't say it was bad, but it wasn't enjoyable either. I wanna go somewhere, I wanna do something.
I will try to be kind to myself. I tried to hurt myself last night. Luckily, the tool I was using wasn't doing anything so I gave up but I was still feeling horrible. Today I just feel really guilty about it.
I need to go, I'm in class haha. Take Care!
@CentreMid
Dear Centre,
I am so sorry to hear you were feeling horrible a couple of nights ago and tried to hurt yourself. I have to admit I am very glad that the tool you were using didn