Self-Harm Recovery Check-In: Tuesday, January 7th, 2020
Dear lovely SHR Community
A moment of compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life [C. Germer]
Check-in questions:
How are you feeling? Can you name your emotions?
How has this week started for you?
Are there any specific thoughts you would like to share with us?
How difficult is self-compassion for you?
I am looking forward to hearing from you again, as always.
With love from France,
Valeria
Image: Self-love by Jui Ishida
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@admaiorasemper
How are you feeling? Can you name your emotions?
I feeling pretty good right now. Happy to go back to group therapy after a couple weeks of break. Also a little scared something is gonna trigger me, for no reason really 😖
How has this week started for you?
Pretty calmly, chatted almost all throughout the day, with a friend. He helped me see the positive progress I've made in the last year
How difficult is self-compassion for you?
Quite difficult, even if I am able to see the good I'm doing or that it's ok to not feel good, the judgemental thoughts quickly creep into
@Madaraismyspiritanimal
I am happy to read from you Richard!
I hope the group therapy went well and you didn
@admaiorasemper
Quite a few tough stories during therapy, so that's always a bit taxing, but nothing triggering.
I hope he can be some balance in that as well. I already notice I'm more aware of the positives
@admaiorasemper Hey V - How are you?
I'm actually not too bad at the moment - just some sadness - alittle anxiety
Urges have been an issue at times - I haven't harmed in a month though
Self compassion is a really big problem here - there are times that I'm filled with such self hatred - compassion is the farthest thing from my mind. I screw up and IDk - it makes me feel stupid or I can't get my thoughts together. I judge myself for that - which of course makes the hatred worse. But I can't seem to stop from thinking that way.
Thanks for the check-in V
Be gentle with yourself and your thoughts
@mytwistedsoul
Hi J, thank you for joining this check-in and sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. I am sorry it has taken me some time to get back to you.
I am glad to hear that you are doing quite ok at the moment, despite some sadness and a little anxiety. And I am really proud of you for being able to deal with your urges. A month with no SH is such a great result, I hope you can also feel some self-pride.
I really get how difficult it can be to have self-compassion. I do believe it is something that we can learn though. I wonder if in those moments of self-hatred you could perhaps simply start to notice this and say it out loud. Like, hey, I am feeling self-hatred. Or, hey, I am judging myself here. I wonder if this may help you sort of distance yourself from the feeling and then look at it with curiosity. I don
@admaiorasemper
How are you feeling? Can you name your emotions?
I don't have a lot of feelings right now. I feel pretty sore from working out. I could almost not wash my hair, bc my arms were sooo sore 
But it's ok, it will be better. I will be better. I feel pretty relazed, not really a feel but whatever, and I feel calm too. I feel like I should work out more, but I can't before later, as it's yoga for later today.
How has this week started for you?
Pretty good. I worked out yesterday and today, and I feel really good about it. I am sore, ofc, but I feel good. I think I can get addicted to it (in a good way ofc!). I am, right now, at my grandma's and I love being with her. She is both sweet and funny, and curses like a sailor (xD), and I love being here. Looking forward to workout not tomorrow but the next day, and maybe try boxing on sunday. I'm really looking forward to the last one.
Are there any specific thoughts you would like to share with us?
I just feel... like I have become almost addicted to bikeriding. It's like... when I don't do it, even just one day, I feel restless and I am not calm at all. It feels like withdrawl of some kind. My mood gets low and I just wanna sleep. I NEED TO ride my bike every. Singel. Day, to not feel like shit.
How difficult is self-compassion for you?
Oh well... I'm not a very nice person in general, I know that, so it's kinda hard.
@EvilRegalsReadToo
Hi there writer :) I am really happy to hear from you again! I am so sorry it took me some time to reply, I was too tired last night to write a proper message.
I am really impressed by your serious commitment to working out. It is so inspiring. I remember you had mentioned some weeks ago that it was one of your goals. Well done!
I feel sad that you do not see yourself as a nice person… I really hope you can find a way to challenge this negative and very unhelpful thought… If you think it may be useful, I have some CBT based worksheets on that I could share with you <3
@admaiorasemper
I am feeling sad and anxious. This week started off stressful but some really good things happened today :D I started my internship and I did really good on a couple of my finals! Self-compassion isn't that hard. It's self-love that is.
@PurpleSnail
Hi there Snail! Thank you for joining this check-in, it is so nice to have you here!
I am sorry that your week has started off on a stressful note and I hope it will get easier in the next days...
Congrats for your finals
@admaiorasemper
I'm interning for the teacher that runs yearbook. I get to design the pages and take photos
@PurpleSnail that sounds so interesting! I hope it will be a nice and enriching experience for you 