Self-Harm Recovery Check-In: Tuesday, March 10th, 2020
Salut* my lovely SHR Community!
* Hi in French
Check-in questions:
How are you feeling today?
How has this new week started for you? Is there anything about it you would like to share with us?
Do you ever find yourself being an emotional sponge? If so: how does that make you feel?
I am looking forward to hearing from you again, as always.
With love from France,
Valeria
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Hi Valeria,
How are you feeling today?
I'm feeling pretty good, hoping it stops raining before I have to go outside haha
How has this new week started for you? Is there anything about it you would like to share with us?
Nothing too exciting, which I kinda like. Just sitting on a decision I need to make
Do you ever find yourself being an emotional sponge? If so: how does that make you feel?
Not very often, I'm pretty able to let other people's emotions go again
@Madaraismyspiritanimal
Hi Richard,
It
@admaiorasemper
I had rain on the way there, but it was dry going back
Thanks for your encouragement on my decision 😊
@Madaraismyspiritanimal
You are very welcome Richard 
@admaiorasemper Hey V - How are you? Salut to you :)
I'm ok - sort of numb and just kind of shut down
We had a taste of spring yesterday - it was close to seventy degrees out so it was really nice to be outside. Today it's cooler temps and rain though
I do this alot - lol. It's over whelming sometimes and it takes time to release it. Which - tbh - it sort of sucks because half the time I can't figure out my own emotions because there's so many going on at once
I hope you're doing ok - it's nice seeing you around again
Take care V - be gentle with yourself
@mytwistedsoul
Merci for being here today, mon cher J 😊
I am glad to read that you are ok… but I will be honest and say that I am also a bit worried that you are feeling numb and shut down… I hope you will be alright when the numbness goes away… I deeply care about you, you do know this, don't you?
You are right, sometimes being an emotional sponge sucks, we can easily get confused and overwhelmed. It is very important to pay extra attention in those moments and learn to release… easier said than done, I know!
I am doing ok, it is always very kind of you to ask. And I am not planning to go anywhere for quite some time.
Let
@admaiorasemper I'm glad you're doing ok :) I know you care - thank you. I think I forget things like that sometimes. I hope the bun bun is doing good. I still look at that picture of her with the hat. So sweet. I hope - lol - Idk - take care of you ok?
@mytwistedsoul
Bun bun is doing great, she is losing her hair though and that is a pain, it flies really everywhere and she doesn't like to be combed, but she really has no choice, I am the boss here haha
My daughters keep dressing her up, after the hat she also got a crown! Queen Louise :)
I know what you mean... I am taking care of myself... unfortunately, there are things we cannot predict, triggers that suddenly change everything...
How are you feeling today?
How has this new week started for you? Is there anything about it you would like to share with us?
Do you ever find yourself being an emotional sponge? If so: how does that make you feel?
Yeah, I do attract people in pain, notice bad vibes easily, take on emotions from others, have difficulty focusing on things after tragic news, and have lately become a sympathetic crier. But I never thought that made me an emotional sponge. Not sure I like the label emotional sponge. Being one if I am one is honestly so normal to me that I don't really "feel" any one way about it. I mean I'm exhausted yeah but that's all I've known. I'm not sure how much of my exhaustion is from being a "sponge" and how much of it is my own mental health issues. I also think some of these are normal - many people are sympathetic criers and are affected by tragic news even if no one they know personally was involved. Or maybe I'm just being defensive because I don't like the term...
@Lexloveslife
Haha forgot to answer first two questions sorry.
I'm doing alright, surprisingly numb after yet another sleepless night, and the week started off... well I can't remember how the week started off for me. My short term memory's getting much worse each day and I'm only 22. Maybe it's good that I can't remember how I was emotionally at the beginning of the week?
@Lexloveslife
Hi Lex,
It is nice to hear from you and I am glad you are doing alright, despite another sleepless night…
You mention your short-term memory getting worse: I think it is quite common when we are going through stressful and challenging times, and even more so when we lack sleep…
Can I say that I am a bit worried about your numbness? I hope you don
@admaiorasemper
I don't mind. They're definitely starting to find their way back. Ruminating on why I say stupid things to my therapist. Like she's agreeing with me and nodding, then I say something dumb and she stops with this awkward silence. This is why I don't talk to people. I tried to cover my tracks as fast as possible. And I'm trying to focus on the funnier moment of today when I said something dumb and we bothed laughed but nahhhh my brain has to focus on the negatives. It's bad enough that I'm losing my memory and ability to put together a coherent sentence when I talk in person with people. Now I have to deal with even more stupid things I say as a result of it this is why I have social anxiety and don't talk folks. I say stupid shit. I'm tired of being positive when I feel like crap.
Anyway goodnight.
@Lexloveslife
Social anxiety is though... I understand not wanting to talk to people when you fear you may say something and regret it afterwards.
Just a couple of reflections that perhaps may feel helpful (and you are of course totally free to totally disregard them!!)
You have this sense of saying stupid things: I wonder how it would feel for you to ask your therapist how she sees those things? Could you also give a different meaning to her silence, one that doesn't imply your words being stupid?
@admaiorasemper
I am feeling fine today. The week didn't start off how I would have liked it, but there is always tomorrow. I am totally an emotional sponge. On one hand, I appreciate the fact people feel comfortable being vulnerable with me. It also stresses me put though :/
@PurpleSnail
Salut Escargot (French for snail 😊)
I am glad to hear you are feeling fine, despite the week not having started off the way you would have liked. There is always tomorrow, you are right: I like your attitude!
I hear you being an emotional sponge. It is indeed a nice feeling when people feel comfortable with us and are able to share a great deal. But as you say, it can also be very stressful. It is very important to maintain boundaries and taking care of ourselves…
Thank you for being here today 😊
