Self-Harm Recovery Check-In: Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
Happy Wednesday lovely SHR Community!
Today I would like to share with you another gentle reminder:
At times our ultimate goal can seem impossible and a long way from where we are now. But in a journey of a life, very few things happen just overnight. Try to remember that in order to accomplish any major task, we must take tiny steps. If we remove one stone from the mountain at a time, we will eventually move the whole mountain itself.
Recovery and healing take time. Relapses happen. But progress is there.
Check-in questions:
How are you feeling today?
How is the week going for you? Is there anything you would like to share about it?
I am looking forward to hearing from you. I may be slower than usual with my answers though, but I will get back to all of you.
With love from France,
Valeria
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@admaiorasemper
I am tired but feel fine. I've had a lot of work this week too :(
I might be seeing my friend soon though so I am excited about that!
Hi there @PurpleSnail, thank you for joining in!
I am glad to hear you are feeling ok, even if tired. I hope you will soon have some time to get some well deserved rest, and of course I hope you will see your friend and have fun.
It seems to me you are taking good care of yourself 
A little overwhelmed, anxious, and tired but trying my best to focus on the positive.
This week has been rough especially the beginning of this week and has left me feeling trapped and overall just really emotionally and physically tired, but yesterday and today have been a lot better. :)
@admaiorasemper Hey V - how are you?
Today - well - I'm alittle mix of everything. Kind of anxious mostly I guess.
This week - lol - I actually thought yesterday was wednesday so I guess I'm alittle disappointed to see today isn't Thursday. Which I guess I shouldn't rush the days. Although it still feels like it's been a long week. Been having some urges but Have been able to distract from them so far.
Thanks for the check-in V. I hope you have a good day
@mytwistedsoul
Hi J., it is so nice to have you here. I am doing ok, thanks for asking.
I am sorry to hear you are anxious, anxiety is definitely not the best of friends. I hope in the mix of everything you are feeling there are also some nicer feelings too :)
I smiled when I read that you thought yesterday was Wednesday. It happens to me too some many times!
I am proud of you for resisting your urges. Please reach out if you feel like they are getting stronger... you know you are in my thoughts, and in those of many others, don't you?
Take care of yourself, you kind soul.
@admaiorasemper Hey V - I'm glad you're doing ok.
Thank you for your kind words. I try to remember to reach out but Idk - in all honesty it falls back to the first weird word I taught you - lol. Pita - I feel like I'm bothering people. Idk - maybe some of it is just not ever having anyone to reach out to. What a sad thought
Anyway - before I depress us both. You take care too V - Thank you again
@mytwistedsoul
How can I forget Pita :)
You are not a pita person J. No way. But you are entitled to have (what you perceive as) pita moments. We all have them. It is ok. True friends stand by us even in those moments. It is perhaps not a lot, but you can reach out to me. Bread mood or not :)
Take care of you.
@admaiorasemper
I feel somewhat apathetic. There are things that in the back of my mind I am sad and angry about but I don't feel the full extent of those feelings. It's like I know the emotions are there but I don't feel them, if that makes sense. I'm just tired I guess. Its been about 7 weeks since I last cut but I have self injured in other ways. I have gotten a lot done I suppose but I feel like there's still so much I need to do, or that maybe I'm missing something. I should be happy with all of things I've gotten done.
Hi there @fairmindedRaspberries1389, thank you for joining us in this check-in!
It makes lots of sense to me that you can feel some emotions whilst actually only half-experiencing them through a state of apathy. I wonder if perhaps the messages they are carrying are particularly difficult for you?
I am proud of you for your 7 weeks with no cutting. I know you have self-harmed in different ways, but I think it is still important to celebrate every victory. With time, you will move towards healthier coping mechanisms.
I also want to say that I am proud for everything else you have achieved this week. We often struggle to compliment ourselves, we think we are not enough, or that we don't do enough... I wonder: if a friend of yours had done what you did in the past few days... what would you say to them?
Take good care of yourself.
