Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-In: Monday, December 7th, 2020
Heya everyone and happy Monday!
I came across a live yesterday, and people were discussing an interesting idea: throughout our life we’re building our own constellation. This constellation is made up of stars that are the things and people we value and that support us, motivate us. Some stars shine brighter because they matter more to us. In the end we all have our unique constellation.
1) How are you feeling today?
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like?
Feel free to share anything else in your mind! I’ll be looking forward hearing from you all!
Take good care of your amazing selves, stay safe <3
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Hey !
1) How are you feeling today? Flat x) Like I'm neither going up nor down, everything seems flat and 2D if that makes any sense ?
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately? To be honest there'd be too much to write in the not so well section so I'm only gonna mention the more positive stuff : enjoyed my walk to work today, also enjoyed the food I cooked last night, oh and I had pancakes for breakfast !
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like? Stars !! Yes this is the perfect question ! Honestly I'm only really answering the check in for this question ;) So my constellation wouldn't have any bright stars, it'd be one of those that you have to wait for a really clear day to be able to see it. Though if you manage to see it close up, the patterns would be intricate and detailed. My constellation would be small and there'd probably be a lot of stars in it but you won't be able to see them all the time.
Thanks for the check in, take care !! <3
@Slizzy564
Heya Slizzy ! Wow who sat on the 3rd dimension ?! Does flat feel bland or is it a different feeling?
It’s good to focus on the positive! (although it’s also very okay to let the negative things out, like letting some steam out so as not to keep the pressure inside) These are really nice positive to enjoy alongside the day!
Hahah I knew you’d like this question! These constellations have something quite special, rarer! Do you feel it reflects the fact that there aren’t any big thing contributing to who you are and who supports you but lots of small things?
Thanks for checking in, take care as well! <3
@LinearWaves
No idea who stole the 3D but it'd be nice if they give it back sometime soon ! It feels like I can't go in depth in anything, my mind can't process anything too complicated at the moment because it's too busy with itself. Like today, I was so in my head that I walked into a door x)
Hum yeah I like the idea of letting steam out but maybe not today/here x)
Haha ! Oh I didn't really think of it like that, I was thinking that depending on the day, you see something different, everything is still there but sometimes hidden. But what you're saying is true, I do enjoy the smaller things !
hi:
1) How are you feeling today?
bad. very stressed because of family stuff and tired of preparing to exams.
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
any kind of studies are not really going well. i had a panic attack this night and ,, it kinda messed up everything. yet, i can proudly say, that i've been eating healthy food and sleep for 9 hours for the past 3 days. i've also started working on my writings and trying to improve more.
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like?
definitely stars. there would be 6-8 bright ones, followed by almost unnoticeable little stars around them. i really imagine that it would look a bit like a big dipper, but more circular.
thank you for the check in!!
@prisonedbear
Hey there ! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling so stressed, it’s very understandable though that you’re having a lot on your shoulders between exams to prepare and family stress added to that… When will your exams be done? (Good luck with them, I totally get how tiring it is but you’ve got this!)
It’s really good that you’re focusing on the positive, focusing on your health with enough sleep and good food, plus working, I certainly hope all your efforts help relieve the stress you’re currently under!
That sounds like a really nice constellation! Would these 6-8 stars embody something/someone specific that matters to you?
Thanks for checking in, take care and best of luck!
1) How are you feeling today?
I'm ok nothing going on for me
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
Going well? I'm still kicking. Not so well? Lots no job, lots of cakes and pain most stuff in life.
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like?
Just average stars I guess. Something smaller that you would have to already know about then look for. Nothing super obvious or anything.
@Flornhope
Hey there ! It’s good to hear you’re still kicking ! Although I’m sorry to hear there’s no job and that there is pain… Job-wise, are things pretty stuck in your area as well and not offering many jobs?
That looks like a special constellation! The lesser-known constellations have something quite magic about them.
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves Thank you. I'm having to learn to live with the pain so that is no fun. Ya the job opportunities around here are sparse and many people are looking for them.
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling today?
It's been a good day. I finished all my assignments and I had a test today. Only one more test this week and school will be over for this year. Also, I feel renewed after every weekend with my mom and I'm self confident, but now that I'm alone again I'm feeling a little empty.
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
Well: all the hard work I've done catching up with school and my relationship with my mom is better than ever.
Not so well: my classmates being meanier than ever. I'm hating my body and being mean at myself. Also, I've been dissociating too much and I have some recurrent thoughts about bad memories and flashbacks.
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like?
It would be a rampant hippogryph with its wings spread.
@Kimmkimm
I'm glad that you've been having a good day. I'm sorry that your classmates are being so awful; you don't deserve that sort of treatment from anybody. Rampant hippogryph, I like that. 
Take care!
@TheAutumnWitch
Thank you. My friends may be right, though.
I will take care and I hope you too. Have a lovely week 😊
@Kimmkimm
Hey there Kimm ! Well done on finishing your assignments and best of luck for your last test! I’m sorry though to hear that despite feeling renewed and self-confident after weekends spent with your mom, you’re feeling empty again when being alone… Do you feel it’s being alone that makes you feel this way or is there something else making you feel empty?
Congrats on all your hard work, whether for school or for your relationship with your mom, it’s really good to hear it has paid off!
I’m terribly sorry to hear that your classmates are being so awful… and that you’re hating your body and also being mean to yourself… do you think being mean to yourself could be because of your classmates being mean as well? Either way though I want to say: you really don’t deserve anyone being mean to you, whether it’s your classmates or yourself, you don’t deserve that, you’re beautiful the way you are, both physically and mentally and you don’t deserve any hate <3 Is there someone from your school to whom you could take about your classmates? As for the dissociation and flashbacks, is there a therapist with whom you can talk about it, to maybe identify what made them appear more lately and to control the dissociation better?
That sounds like a really nice constellation! Is it your favourite mythical creature?
Thanks for checking in, take care!
1) How are you feeling today?
Tired, listless, and confused...but my emotions are otherwise stable, so I suppose that's acceptable.
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
I've been doing well in getting some more assignments turned in before I have my finals. I've been doing not-so-well in discerning if my parents are continuing to gaslight me and guilt-trip me into staying with the family and believing that things "aren't so bad" in the family, making me hesitant on the thought of leaving.
3) What would your constellation be made of? What would it look like?
It would be made of stars, autumn leaves, fairy dust, and of course, witchcraft. I imagine it would look like the Celtic symbol for wellbeing (which looks somewhat like a looped cross) with emblems to represent myself and my loved ones. My emblem would be a winged heart with an autumn leaf inside of it, and this would be located in the center of the Celtic wellbeing symbol. Around the four tips of the Celtic wellbeing symbol would be animals to stand for my loved ones who know about my mental health: a dog, a hedgehog, a butterfly, and a narwhal.
This was fun to think of, hehe. Thanks! 
@TheAutumnWitch
Hey there ! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling tired and confused… It’s good though that you’re recognizing that it’s acceptable, with your emotions being stable, I hope that you can feel better though! Is something specific making you feel confused if you don’t mind me asking?
Well done for your assignments, congrats!
I’m sorry that you’re finding it hard to discern if you’re family is gaslighting you and guilt-tripping you, it must be really hard to handle… (I’m guessing it’s where the confusion comes from?) I don’t know enough to give any advice but I just wanted to say that sometimes, time away from a situation helps you not be overwhelmed by it and can help you think more clearly about it, without anyone influencing your thoughts. I don’t know if that’s doable though in your situation but I really hope you can figure things out! I also wanted to say that it’s important to listen to yourself and your instinct <3
This sounds like a really lovely constellation! Thanks a lot for sharing it!
Take care!
@LinearWaves, hello!
1) How are you feeling today?
Good, good.
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
Everything's great. I feel optimistic right now.
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like?
My constellation is made of stars, and it would look like this:
Scorpio, my zodiac sign! Um. If you don't mind, what's your zodiac sign?
Thanks for the check-in, and take care!
@LovelyOrangeJuice
Hey there! It’s nice to hear you’re feeling good, plus that everything is great and that you’re feeling optimistic, this is such a great mindset!
Nice constellation! Do you feel like the Scorpio personality traits match with yours? I’m an Aries!
Thanks for checking in, take care as well!
@LinearWaves
Yeah! I think the personality traits of a Scorpio does match with me.
1) How are you feeling today?
I am feeling bad and so awful.
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
What is going well that I finished reading the book of Sara Bakewell 'At the existentialist cafe'.
What is going bad is that I don't feel safe at my work, as there were some orders to delay my salary and one of my bosses ordered me to be responsible for some issues and I did take some steps in doing that but my parents think that this boss want to involve me in troubles to make the managers fire me, and I feel so stressed and afraid and can't endure to think or to reply to my parents.
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like?
It would be cold and have no suns but some fire to warm at the moment we want.
@DinaElwy
Hey there ! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling so bad and awful…
I had never heard of that book/author, did you enjoy it?
As for work, it must be tough not to feel safe at work… I can understand your stress, between these delays in your salary, and being responsible for issues with the risks it involves… Is there someone at work with whom you could talk about your worries regarding your boss, to have their opinion?
I hope you’re feeling better and less stressed, take care and thanks for checking in!
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling today? numb
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately? i dont know i barely talk to my boyfriend or friends and the days just seem to come and go
3) What would your constellation be made of? How would it look like? a star i guess i dont know why its just what came to mind
@Godsbae
Hey there ! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling numb, is that an usual feeling for you ?
Days can definitely feel similar when we don’t talk much to the ones we care for… Having noticed that though, would it be possible to talk to your friends and boyfriend more often?
Thanks for checking in, take care!