Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-In: Monday, March 8th, 2021
Heya amazing people! It’s Monday again, get ready for a new week!
I thought this was an important message! We often focus on the imperfections and the things that aren’t going as well as we’d like, the things we aren’t able to do and all these things. Yet for some imperfections, it can still be okay, everything doesn’t have to be perfect to be okay, to be fulfilling, to be good, to be functional. Of course if there are things that we can and want to work on, then we should work on them, but in the meantime, it can still be okay. It’s like a book, it may have a folded corner and then not be perfect, yet it’s still good to read and 100% functional!
1) How are you feeling today?
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
3) What are some totally functional imperfections that you have around you? (for example: my sleep isn’t perfect, I don’t get enough of it and its quality isn’t good, it’s annoying but at the end of the day I can still manage and do my things just fine!)
Feel free to share anything else in your mind! I’ll be looking forward hearing from you all!
Take good care of your amazing selves, stay safe <3
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1) How are you feeling today? It’s hard to say. I’m having mood swings of the level of a roller coaster. 2) What is going well and not so well lately? I have been exercising nicely. It clears my mind out. I also took some time out for drawing. I got in a big fight with my best friend and I don’t think we can move past it again and I’m scared. 3) What are some totally functional imperfections that you have around you? My diet has been severely hampered and it’s affecting everything thing I do. But I’m pushing through. Thank you for hosting these check in’s. It helps me a lot!
@Fakekiwi003
Hey there! I'm sorry to hear you're having such intense mood swings... it can definitely be tough to assess how you're feeling when it changes so quickly, do you have ways to handle your mood swings usually?
It's great to hear that you've been exercising and drawing, it's really important to find things that help clearing your mind and taking time out for hobbies you like! As for the fight with your best friend and being scared that you won't be able to move past it again, I'm all heart with you, it can really be heartbreaking and bring lots of worries... I hope that even if you can't really move past it and get back the exact same relationship as it used to be, you can still keep a fulfilling relationship and grow from there! Sometimes relationships evolve and it's scary for sure, it takes time to adjust, but maybe it can be just as good!
I'm really proud of you for pushing through even if you can feel that your diet has been affecting everything, do you think that there are things to work on so as to better your diet or find a way to have it affect fewer things?
Thanks for checking in, take care!
Hey! @LinearWaves Thank you for your kind words! It really brightened my mood. I usually push through my mood swings by avoiding everyone, you know reducing the number of people I lash out on. I have no idea about the diet...
@Fakekiwi003
You're very welcome! I'm glad to hear it brightened your mood!
Avoiding others so as to avoid the risks of lashing out is a great idea! As for the diet, I hope that you can find a way to manage it better, do you think your doctor could be of help with it?
Take care!
Hey! Thank you for the advice. I’ll look to it
1) How are you feeling today?
i'm feeling okay, i have motivation to do my homework and clean my room today so that's good.
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
my addiction has been bad but i managed to get a 4.0 gpa first semester regardless.
3) What are some totally functional imperfections that you have around you?
my diet really impacts my chronic illness and i haven't been eating well lately but my health is still a lot better than it was when i wasn't on my medicine and doing yoga and all the healthy stuff i'm doing now.
thank you for this check in ♡
@TheMeadowSystem
Hey there! It's good to hear you're feeling okay plus have motivation to do your homework and clean your room, it sounds like a productive day ahead! Good luck for that!
I'm sorry to hear your addiction has been bad...Could there be some things to help with that?
Congrats on the 4.0 gpa! That's amazing!
I'm really proud of you for "all the healthy stuff" you're doing to take care of your ehalth, even if your diet isn't at its best and is causing problems it sounds like you're putting in a lot of efforts and doing a great job, keep up the amazing work!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves yes absolutely, i know what i have to do to stop my addiction but it's tough to actually do them :( thank you!!!
@TheMeadowSystem
It's good to hear that you know what to do, it's always a first step to have the tools! Although for sure, having the tools doesn't make it any easier to use them... Hopefully with more time you will be able to slowly implement those tools!
Take care!
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling today?
I'm just a little stressed over some conflict between two close friends, but I'm otherwise okay. I'll figure it out.
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
Being open about my mental health and feelings with my support group is going well. Sorting out the aforementioned conflict is going not so well.
3) What are some totally functional imperfections that you have around you?
I would say that this would consist of my sensitivity, being "too nice", and my sleep issues. With my sensitivity, it makes it easier for me to be hurt by others, but it also makes it easier for me to understand the pain of others. With being "too nice", that is on a similar wavelength to my sensitivity; I also can be taken advantage of more easily, but the people who protect me and know that this can happen to me will step in and back me up. With my sleep issues, I'm still able to go around doing what I need to do, and I can sympathize with others who have sleep issues.
Thanks for the check-in! I appreciate you.
@TheAutumnWitch
Hey there! It's good to hear that you're in this positive mindset despite the stress you're feeling about this conflict, it can definitely be tough when dealing with a conflict between close friends so I hope it can resolve itself soon enough!
It's really nice that being open and sharing how you're feeling is going well! As for the conflict, do you think it's something that you should get involved in, or is it better to let your friends sort things out?
I can totally relate with you on the sensitivity and being too nice! These too are definitely tricky, They're a great gift but some people can take advantage of that and it's really sad as it often results in people being more wary, trying to shut their sensitivity and be less nice... It's good to hear that there are people that can step in for you in case something like that happens, so as to avoid this sad result! As for the sleep issues, it sounds like many of us struggle with that one! It's nice that you're still able to do your things and have also found a way to make it positive by sympathizing with others!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves
Hello! Thankfully, it seems to be getting resolved between the two of them as of the latest update I received. In my own opinion, I think it's better that I leave it between them, and that I only step in if things look desperate; I know that my friend who informed me would like a third party to try breaking the ice, but I pointed out to him that if our other friend doesn't want anyone else stepping in, disrespecting that would only lead to a further shutdown on his end.
It's definitely a sad truth; kindness and sensitivity do not mean weakness; they mean what they mean- kindness and sensitivity. I am glad that I do have others to help broaden my perspective on my own approach to conflict because of this. I slept waaaay too much today, haha. I just couldn't rip myself out of sleep straight away. This probably means that I'll eventually encounter a period of sleeplessness. Oh, well. It is what it is for me.
Thank you for replying to me; I appreciate you! (^_^)
@TheAutumnWitch
It's great to hear that the conflict between your friends is getting resolved without you having to step in, because you're right, it's really important to respect both parties involved so as not to make things worse and it's always tricky to get involved... So it's great that it's getting resolved!
Take care, I appreciate you too!
I'm not entirely doing the best, but I'm not at my worst just anxious and stressed. I have been talking to my friends to try and get some help. My parents still try to argue that me going to school isn't completely destroying my mental health. I haven't been receiving proper help lately and have started to think irrationally again, but I'm trying my hardest to not go back into that state.
@DerpHerp1246
Hey there! I'm sorry to hear you're not doing the best although it's reassuring the keep in mind that you're not at your worst! Stress and anxiety can definitely be tough to manage and make things tough... Do you feel the anxiety and stress are caused by going to school? It's good to hear though that you're been talking to friends so as to get some help, especially if your parents are trying to argue about it... Does your school offer a counseling support maybe? Or could your parents accept that you're in need of proper help, whether it's due to school or not?
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves
Hi, I do feel that anxiety and stress are caused by going to school. Specifically because I'm going to school in person with 700 plus other students during a pandemic with two people at home who are high risk. This is bad in itself, but just the amount of school work, tests, and presentation are all making it worse. My school does offer counseling and we also have a social worker. I did actually go to the social worker for my anxiety and she just basically said it was common, so it didn't really help me out that much. My parents could probably try to accept that I'm in need of help, but they don't know that I have these problems. I have talked to them before about my thoughts about school and they have just gotten mad at me or told me to stop being anxious and to stop being depressed. They don't really know that I have these thoughts or even some notes on my phone that aren't really positive. I want to try to tell them I have these things wrong with me, but I don't think they will believe me. My mom has asked me wether or not I need therapy, but she followed up with I don't think it's going to help you that much so I just said no I'm fine.
I appreciate your kindness and I thank you for giving me some advice!
slight tw: s/h and e.d mention
1) How are you feeling today?
totally just, not good. i overate (2 meals instead of 1 and a snack) and i broke my few days long clean streak and overall rggrrrrr
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
something thats going well is my relationship with my boyfriend, idk we just are getting out of that "honeymoon phase" and idk something thats going not so well is my body and possible eating disorder ://
3) What are some totally functional imperfections that you have around you?
arhghgh i have trouble going to bed before like 3/4 am
@g0bl1nt33th
Hey there! Thanks for putting the trigger warnings!
I'm sorry to hear that you're not doing good, overeating can definitely be tough to handle, and I'm sorry that you also relapsed... Do you think the two are interconnected? I mean, did the relapse happen because of the overeating? Some days just don't go as planned, they actually go pretty poorly, but it's good to remember that we get a fresh new day in just a few hours and the best we can do is to try again the next day..! I hope the next days can go smoothlier, you've got this !
It's great to hear that your relationship with your boyfriend is going well! As for your body and possible eating disorder, is it something that you'd be feeling ready to discuss with a professional, or not? (it's totally okay if not)
I get you on troubles going to sleep before it's already quite late! Do you get enough sleep though?
Thanks for checking in, take care!
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling today?
not that good..
2) What is going well and not-so-well lately?
i started a colouring page today again and i am 4 days clean, but i feel rlly bad rn for some things
3) What are some totally functional imperfections that you have around you?
idk, i just feel bad so i cant really think of anything right now
@ThatTransDuck
Hey there! Sorry for the delay!
I'm sorry to hear you weren't feeling that good, how have you been feeling since then?
It's good to hear that you've been clean! Is colouring usually helping you or is it more of a hobby? Or both? As for the things making you feel really bad, I'm really sorry to hear that... If you're feeling like discussing them, don't hesitate to let things out, we're here for you!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
