Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-In: Saturday May 23, 2020
Hey everyone and happy Saturday! Just a quick notice that I usually respond back to check-ins a few hours after you all reply but I won't respond until later today since I have a debate tournament all day. I hope you all are doing well and holding up in quarantine!
Today I wanted to talk a bit about confidence in ourselves and in our journeys of healing.
So what is confidence?
The googled definition of confidence is "the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust." To me, confidence is the ability to be sure about myself or to be sure about something in general. In terms of mental-health, lack of confidence is usually a re-occurring theme. Often, I hear about members lacking confidence in both themselves and their abilities to keep moving forward with whatever they're going through. I also hear a ton about lack of confidence in their bodies and how they look. Worst of all, the lack of confidence in the healing process for any mental health journey can be really saddening to hear.
Why is confidence important?
Confidence is important because we must believe in ourselves to get through tough things! Believing in ourselves and knowing our worth is incredibly important in anything and is also what keeps us moving forward in our own journeys. Specifically in the self-harm recovery journey, the confidence we have in ourselves to be able to switch to healthier coping-alternatives and the confidence we have to keep going is essential.
Check in questions:
1) Tell me a good and bad thing about your week and feel free to share anything worth sharing!
2) What is confidence to you?
3) What are you confident in? What are you not confident in?
4) What is your favorite book and why? If you don't like reading, what's your favorite movie?
Have a great week everyone <3
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@TheAtticusFinch
1) Tell me a good and bad thing about your week and feel free to share anything worth sharing!
I have had a rough week, and it's not even over yet. I feel like shit most of the time, and I self harmed this monday, and almost did it yesterday too. I am at my parents' place today, so I can't self harm, but booooy I want to! It's hard bc I feel anxious and depressed all the time. I just wanna cry my eyes out and read sad/angsty fanfiction. I don't know.... life sucks, and I had a panic attack here the other day: Thursday.
But I will be talking to my mentor on wednesday, and hopefully she can help me sort out my feelings. Bc right now they are very strong, and I don't know what to do really. I just want them gone and go back to feeling numb, you know? Just a little :S
Bc the other day I strongly just wanted to d**, and that was shit. I was afraid of even going out on my own balcony...
2) What is confidence to you?
Being sure of yourself, brave and not taking shit from others, which basically is not what I am doing. I have no confidence in me at all xD
3) What are you confident in? What are you not confident in?
I'm confident in my writing for the most part, and online I take no shit from anyone. But offline/IRL I suck. I let ppl walk all over me, and I let my anxiety control me. So that's shit.
4) What is your favorite book and why? If you don't like reading, what's your favorite movie?
I really do love Harry Potter. Must be the best series I have ever read. I really like it, and it has inspired the book I'm writing right now. I don't have a favorite movie. Well that's bullshit, because it's Sweeney Todd, but I would rather talk about my favorite TV series. Like... Supergirl, Z-Nation and The Walking Dead 
@EvilRegalsReadToo
Hey Regals <3 glad to hear from you as always :) I'm so sorry you've been feeling terrible lately :/ You don't deserve to feel that way at all and I'm also sorry to hear that you sh-ed. It sounds like this week has been a rough one. Throughout any sh journey, we all have tons of bumps and we must have the courage to persevere through them. I know you have that courage and you have triumphed through so much in your life. <3 There's confidence involved with getting through so much that you've been through and I'm proud of you for that. You should be too. :) Besides that, I hope your mentor is able to talk to you about what you've been going through and also hope things get better this week in general. Proud of you for knowing what you deserve online and I hope you're able to have that transfer over to your IRL life. I love Harry Potter! Been thinking of re-reading it lately and also I watch the TWD too.. waiting for season 10 to premiere on Netflix. :)
Have a good week <3
@TheAtticusFinch If you watch TWD too, the important question is: Do you ship Carol and Daryl? 
@EvilRegalsReadToo
Uh yes duh! <3
1) Tell me a good and bad thing about your week and feel free to share anything worth sharing!
Good. I got a extension so I didn't have to turn myself in. Bad. I can't get a job.
2) What is confidence to you?
Doing it or moving forward. Whatever that is it doesn't matter. If you are scared to do it doesn't matter as long as you do it. That is pretty much the definition of bravery I guess. Confidence is normally associated with positive stuff and the expecting positive. But I don't see anything all that positive in or about me or my self. It's like hope hope is associated with positive expectations but I don't see that for me the same as confidence.
3) What are you confident in? What are you not confident in?
I am confident that life is horrible. I am not confident in much of anything unless it will brake or fail. Whatever it is.
4) What is your favorite book and why? If you don't like reading, what's your favorite movie?
Book. Besides manuals. The Old Man and The Sea. It is a good story. It is to the point and not fluffed up to pander to the shallow reader that reads for status to flaunt or use words that don't even apply. It is about struggles, sacrifices and the will to do see it through. And A favorite movie. Kung Fu Hustle. It is about a boy that thinks he is the bad guy. He struggles and struggles but can't even to that. And it is the turning point wher he decides to do good and life turns around and is quickly getting better for him no matter his past. Also lots of comedy. And the action is done in a slapstick way that is hilarious whale still paying homage to the flying on wires action of the Shaw Brothers classic Kung fu movies.
@Flornhope
Hey Florn <3 thank you for checking in with us today! :) I'm really sorry to hear that you can't find a job right now and that you've had a bit of trouble with confidence in the past. These are all very understandable things and I respect your view on hope/confidence. I agree that confidence requires moving forward and also just doing "things" too. I'm sorry you don't see anything positive about yourself :( if it helps, which i know it might not, i see you as a very hardworking person with passions and I believe in you. :) I have wanted to check out The Old Man and The Sea for the longest time ever and I certainly will now that you have mentioned it. <3 Thank you for checking in and I hope you have a good week. :)
@TheAtticusFinch Thank you. Your encouragements are inspiring. Is is a short book and has been criticize much because of the the straight forward and to the point language he used. Witch I think is a good thing to not use a big word when a diminutive one will suffice or is superfluous in its entirety.
