Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-In: Thursday, September 17th, 2020
Heya everyone! Its Thursday already!
I recently came across this illustration that I wanted to share with you: we sometimes feel bad and cant really find a reason for it. Its very okay to just not be okay of course, but its also important to identify if there might be something contributing to making us feel bad, so as to work on it!
1) How are you feeling?
2) Do you sometimes feel bad and dont really know why? If yes, do you think asking yourself these questions could help?
3) What have been bringing you joy/comfort/motivation lately?
Feel free to share anything else in your mind! Ill be looking forward hearing from you all!
Take good care of your amazing selves, stay safe <3
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1) How are you feeling?
I am feeling pretty good. Yesterday was my birthday and it went well so i am happy.
2) Do you sometimes feel bad and don
@lydiarklistens
Heya ! Happy late birthday ! Its great to hear it went well and that you had a good time and are feeling happy about it!
Yay for watching TV! As for writing, do you write stories?
Thanks for checking-in, take care!
@LinearWaves
Thank you! And no i do not write stories, i write poetry.
@lydiarklistens
Oh that sounds lovely!
@LinearWaves
Hey hey :)
1) How are you feeling? Good ! :) I've had a busy day but a productive one ! Lots of stuff to do at work but not too much and then started clearing up all the clutter around my flat :)
2) Do you sometimes feel bad and dont really know why? If yes, do you think asking yourself these questions could help? Yup definitely ! I can totally relate with that ! It's so frustrating. Though my way to go about it more of a 'accept that today you feel bad, try to do something that'll soothe you and we'll think about all this when you're feeling a bit better'. If I start asking questions when I'm already in a negative mindset, it only makes things worse.
3) What have been bringing you joy/comfort/motivation lately? Hum I really enjoyed my birthdays presents : a harry potter board game, little goodies and the whole HP series in english, sends me back into the good old days :) Though I wish I had more time for reading through the week, I suppose if I spent less time wandering on youtube/pinterest, I'd have time for reading x) As for motivation, you know going back to work this time wasn't too bad because I realized how many connections I managed to make over the years and it's nice getting back to see everyone ! It takes me ages to actually bond with people and I'm finally getting there !
@Slizzy564
Heya Slizzy ! It sounds gerat that youve had a busy but productive day, with lots yet not too much to do at work plus good work on clearing the clutter in your place! I dont know if its the same for you, but I hardly ever find the motivation to do it, yet when I do it feels so very nice afterwards!
I totally get you on that, I actually usually go about it the same way, trying to soothe myself or just going to bed, I didnt think about the fact that these questions asked in a negative mindset could make things worse but it makes lots of sense! Maybe it would be best to ask ourselves these questions once were feeling better, just to be sure it doesnt make things worse!
Oh these sound like really nice gifts! Its lovely that they were so themed! Haha yeah for time lost on pinterest/youtube, its crazy how we could spend it more usefully, yet it feels relaxing so maybe its not that much of a loss of time if at least we relax! Hopefully youll get more time in the weekend!
Its really great to hear going back to work and realizing that youve made many connections has been motivating, its really nice when we have these moments of realization and see our growth!
Thanks for checking-in, take care!
@LinearWaves
Yup ! I'm enjoying a nice and tidy appartment :) It does feel great when it's all clean and tidy and smells nice ! Lets hope it'll last :)
Yeah if I ask myself too many questions then I just end up stuck in a negative spiral and then I kinda crash and that's not great so yeah, I think about it afterwards. And most of time when you look back on things, they tend to be less dramatic you know ?
Haha yeah I don't know if you've noticed but I do like the HP universe x) Hum yeah I suppose there's always that to it ;) Not sure, I'm meeting my nieces this weekend so busy weekend ahead !
Yeah ! I do complain about this job a lot but I've met some great people along the way :)
@Slizzy564
Mhh that makes me think I definitely should do that too !
I totally agree with you on that, when looking back at things after youve calmed down and are feeling better, its completely different. Feelings can put us in what can be called a selective filtering period where we can have a distorted perception of things, so that may be why!
Yay for meeting your nieces, maybe in a few years youll be able to introduce them to the series :p But I really hope youll have found time to read the series again before that happens! Now I think Ill be watching the movies this weekend, I miss them!
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling?
I'm doing ok. I had some really good news about work. Then I found out some sad news about a friend.
2) Do you sometimes feel bad and dont really know why? If yes, do you think asking yourself these questions could help?
Yes. I do think these questions will help.
3) What have been bringing you joy/comfort/motivation lately?
My daughter and music.
@RedHawk6547
Heya ! Its nice to hear youre doing ok, and had really good news about work! Although Im sorry to hear sad news about a friend followed, I hope this doesnt affect you too much…
I hope these questions can be helpful!
Yay for your daughter and music!
Thanks for checking-in, take care!
1) How are you feeling?
I am feeling very good, no urges today!
2) Do you sometimes feel bad and dont really know why? If yes, do you think asking yourself these questions could help?
Yes, I feel sometimes like that. But since I discovered our community and app, it's the first time I ever started to ask myself the questions.
3) What have been bringing you joy/comfort/motivation lately?
I was motivated by planting trees in app and listening some ASMR, and company of my gang of friends :D
@inventiveAcai3503
Hey there! It
@LinearWaves it stayed :D today is the next night without harm!
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling?
Ok. I have two hours free that I can be productive in. Unless I just sit around wasting time on the computer lol...
I have been working through my task list, but it seems like there is alway so much left to do, that nothing I get done really feels like an acheivement. I guess that may be the perfectionism speaking. Or just that I haven't got a realistic sense of how long it takes to do things. Also I waste time online, which doesn't help. Idk. It feels pretty uphill sometimes. But its ok. The urge comes and goes, but I'm riding the wave...
2) Do you sometimes feel bad and dont really know why? If yes, do you think asking yourself these questions could help?
I really do sometimes feel bad and have no idea why. Sometimes I think I feel bad and I do know why but I don't want to look at it head on, because that would mean changing which is uncomfortable and requires effort... I think having a checklist can definitely help, maybe even having it saved electronically to look over. I would want to consider hydration, spiritual self-care, when I last exercised and sunlight as well.
3) What have been bringing you joy/comfort/motivation lately?I don't know. I really like little cute songs. I have been listening to All the salt in the sea by Jess Arrowsmith. I also like Three Fishers by Fara.
@1morday
Hey there ! I hope you managed to be as productive as you wanted ! If not though, Id like to say that sometimes when wasting time on the computer, were kinda taking care of ourselves in a way Id guess? I mean after all its kinda like a hobby!
Its good to hear youre riding the wave despite the urges coming and going. I totally get you on tasks and feeling like theres always so much left to do no matter how much you cross off your list… Speaking about list, do you try and write them down and then really cross off whats done? Its silly but seeing many items of the list being crossed off can be motivating and rewarding!
It would make sense that you wouldnt want to look at it head on when feeling bad, as you say it: working on it would require efforts and its human to avoid that, especially when feeling bad. Now that you say it, I think I do that too! Having your own checklist saved, to look at when feeling bad (or maybe not right in the moment if it weights too much on you, it also can be afterwards so as to learn from it and prevent it from happening again) sounds like a really smart idea!
Songs really have a huge power on us! Thanks for sharing, Ill check these songs out, Three Fisher by Fara is playing right now and it sounds quite calming!
Thanks for checking-in, take care!
