Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-In: Wednesday, August 26th, 2020
Heya everyone! Happy Wednesday!
Today I wanted to continue yesterdays topic from @Slizzy564 and talk about perspectives. As she said it so well, we all see the world through our own lenses but what if, when things get tough, we could choose through what lenses we see these things? Putting things into perspectives is a good way to step back and have a look at the situation from different perspectives, which ends up helping see it in a more neutral way, especially when getting overwhelmed. Of course if the situation is bad it will stay bad, but instead of just seeing that, we could see ideas to try out to make it more manageable, we could see what benefits well get, we could see what support we could ask, and so on!
1) How are you feeling today?
2) What is going well/not so well?
3) Do you usually try to put things into perspectives? If yes, does it help? If not, could it help?
Feel free to share anything else in your mind! Ill be looking forward hearing from you all!
Take good care of your amazing selves, stay safe <3
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@LinearWaves
Hey hey !
1) How are you feeling today? I'm full of negative emotions today and can't seem to get them out. I'm not often like this so it makes me even more annoyed when I am x)
2) What is going well/not so well? I've said this before and I'll probably say it again but work sucks at the moment and it's draining a lot of my energy. Today I just had no patience with anyone and I'm usually the chill one x) Hopefully tomorrow will be better ! On the more positive side, one of my colleagues is back from holiday so it's nice to see her again :) Also we're half way through the week, holidays are nearly here :)
3) Do you usually try to put things into perspectives? If yes, does it help? If not, could it help? Hum I'm good and understanding other people's point of view but not so good at putting my own thoughts in perspective if that makes any sense ? I can see the positive elements for someone else but I always get stuck when I have to see things for myself. I suppose we could say that changing lenses is hard for me x) Though I do think that if I could have a more positive mindset it'd surely help with a lot of things !
@Slizzy564
Heya Slizzy ! Im really sorry to hear you seem to be full of negative emotions today and unable to get them out… I get you on being even more annoyed since it usually doesnt happen, plus it must be frustrating not to be able to get these emotions out. I hope you can be gentle with yourself until they pass (hopefully quickly) sometimes the best we can do is get some rest and often the next day ends up being better! Kinda like a computer not working and you have no clue what to do so you restart it and it works!
I can definitely imagine how work sucking must be draining your energy and using up your patience… I wish you the best of luck for whats left of the week, youve got this! Plus hopefully with your colleague being back, time will pass more quickly and it will be more pleasant!
That definitely makes sense, what we can apply for others can sometimes be harder to apply for our own selves, in a ‘do what I say, dont do what I do kind of way. It may be silly but when needed, have you ever tried looking at your own situation as if it was someone else completely? A positive mindset definitely makes things look more brighter I guess, I like to think that even a neutral/factual mindset can be helpful, and on the positive side: we can always work on our mindset, slowly but steadily!
Take care and good luck for the rest of the week, you've got this! I hope you feel better!
@LinearWaves
Thanks for the kind words, they're appreciated trust me :) I'm trying to be gentle with myself, keeping myself distracted so that it doesn't build up too much ... A lot of it has to do with a lack of rest, so I've kinda crashed now, not sure I want to go to bed though x) And yeah like you say : maybe I just need a reboot ;)
As for work, I'm nearly there ! Tomorrow should go by quickly and hopefully friday will be chill !
I've never managed to do that : seeing my situation as if it's some one else's, I just can't take that step back yet .. If I could get to a neutral mindset that would be a good victory indeed ! Maybe I'll get there eventually, who knows !
@Slizzy564
I hope you were able to get some rest ! If not though, its almost Friday!
To be honest Ive never actually tried to see things as if it was someone elses situation so I dont know how hard it may be and how to actually do that in practice… :\ In the meantime, while getting there, being gentle with yourself sounds like a good option! Step by step!
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling today?
Irritated. Dad forced me to watch online mass. I understand that, but he delayed me from taking my exams for 35 minutes. As a result, my ears did not listen to it because negative thoughts are piling up if I try to pay attention. In the end, he asked me if I felt resentful. But I lied and said no because he also said, "I absolutely don't want you to be resentful when watching online mass/going to church." His tone felt threatening. Oh well. I don't want to ruin our relationship. Besides, I'm a bit used when my parents' forced me into religious activities even if it irritates me. I just try my best to pick the best time to do what I want. This felt surprisingly dramatic, but the irritation isn't that bad now. Wow.
2) What is going well/not so well?]
My exams are okay. Surprisingly, I don't feel as much guilt in lying. I don't know if that's a really bad thing because find it useful.
3) Do you usually try to put things into perspective? If yes, does it help? If not, could it help?
Yeah, if I use my perspective, I could easily see the flaws of a system to get what I want even if it requires manipulation. Sometimes, it doesn't work because I easily give up. x)
Thanks for reading.
@LovelyOrangeJuice
Hey there ! I can definitely understand how being forced by your dad to watch mass online, delaying you from taking your exam must have felt irritating… Im also sorry to hear that his tone felt threatening to you and that you felt like you have to lie so as to keep your relationship, it must be challenging… Did he know you had this exam to take? Also Im glad to hear the irritation isnt that bad now, its good that you let it out!
Yay for your exams being okay! As for guilt in lying, its good in a way that you dont feel it for when you feel like you have to lie to keep the relationship with your dad, I want to say though that you shouldnt need to lie and should be able to be open about things with him, but I also know relationships with parents arent that easy, so we kinda do what we have to do <3
Thanks for checking-in, take care!
@LinearWaves
Cool words. It's comforting.
He know that I had an exam, but he stated that I must still listen to the mass first. After all, 35 minutes is only short. He has a point, but it was still irritating.
Thanks.
@LovelyOrangeJuice
I can imagine it would be irritating, especially considering you might not have been in the right mindset to listen to mass right before taking your exam... You're welcome!