Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-In: Wednesday, June 17th, 2020
Heya amazing people and happy Wednesday!
Today I figured that these little reminders could do us all some good, so as to get smoothly through the rest of the week! Youre all so wonderful and strong!
1) How are you feeling?
2) What is going well/not so well for you?
3) Are there some things youd like to add/focus on for the rest of the week?
4) What are 5 of your most important personal values? (or less/more)
Feel free to share anything else in your mind! Ill be looking forward hearing from you all!
Take good care of your amazing selves, stay safe <3
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Hi Waves !
1) How are you feeling? Tired and stressed out.
2) What is going well/not so well for you? Work is painful at the moment. Music is a source of comfort.
3) Are there some things youd like to add/focus on for the rest of the week? I will focus on self care I guess. Chilling out in the evenings.
4) What are 5 of your most important personal values? (or less/more) I don't know if these are supposed to be values important for me or values I want to see in others. In others I like to see honesty, creativity, kindness, originality and forwardness. For myself, creativity, sensitivity, generosity, open-mindness and dreaminess. I'm not good with words, I tried my best.
@Slizzy564
Yes! You are all those things and more.
@FigureskatingEquestrian
Thanks <3
@Slizzy564
Heya Slizzy ! Im really sorry to hear youre feeling tired and stressed out, plus work being painful… it must definitely add up and make things challenging at the moment... I hope that you can fit in some nice self-care in your schedule, especially with music, so as to relax and get some rest!
These are really strong values, I actually didnt know the word dreaminess existed so thanks for that! I really like how you differentiated what values you want to see in others and the ones for you, its true that we dont expect/value the same things when its for us or others. The ones you put for yourself definitely correspond to you! (although 5 values are nowhere near being enough to describe someone!)
Thanks for checking in, I hope the rest of your week goes less stressfully!
@LinearWaves
These posts!!! YEs just yes.
1) How are you feeling?
Completely numb. Fighting to keep going. Determined. I promised my therapist I would be alive to see her on Friday, and I intend to fight to that end.
2) What is going well/not so well for you?
I refuse to focus on the negative, but well, I'm getting to see the horses about once a week. I'm forcing my way through yoga (and really loving it). And I'm honestly not sure I'm strong enough, but as of this moment....I am 11 days clean from cutting.
3) Are there some things youd like to add/focus on for the rest of the week?
Not missing a day of yoga. Staying alive. Not self-harming. Being better about sleep. Eating fewer calories. Being the best light I can be for my patients. Protecting my heart.
4) What are 5 of your most important personal values?
In others, I value compassion/empathy, altruism, fairness, honesty, and presence. For myself: 1) I 2) can't 3) do 4) this 5 ) right now
Too painful.
@FigureskatingEquestrian
Hi !
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling numb. It's a horrible sensation and a difficult one to shake off. Determination is a very good quality to have. I'm happy to hear that you're determined to still be here on Friday. I do hope that you can extend that schedule though. You are loved and very much needed here. Hang in there, I promise it's worth it in the end <3
Interacting with animals is something I enjoy too, though I'm not very fond of big animals such as horses. I love the way animals never judge us and are always willing to give love and affection. Yoga sounds cool ! I always wanted to try it but never really did.
I'm proud of you being 11 days clean, that's really good news :) Keep up the good work !! A healthy mindset with a healthy routine can really change someone. I wish you all the best for the days to come !
I think the values that you mentioned are all quite interesting. I understand that it's difficult for you to choose the ones for yourself. Everything in it's own time, whenever you're ready, and if you're never ready that's fine too !
Sending hugs if you want some, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Merci! Thank you so much! Your words mean so much.
do you have access to YouTube? There is a channel called Yoga with Adrienne! I use that! It's free and a good workout.
Animals are the best! Do you have a pet?
@FigureskatingEquestrian
I know right ? When I saw these reminders I knew I had to post them !
Im so sorry to hear youre feeling so numb and fighting just to keep going, your determination is clearly one of the things I respect and admire the most about you! Im sorry though that you have to show this much determination. As Slizzy said it so well, you are loved, valuable and very needed here so I hope too that we can extend this schedule, pretty much permanently.
Im really so proud of you for this mindset, and for being 11 days clean now! Its also great that youre pushing yourself to do some yoga, even better that youre loving it even if it needs a little forcing at first! About not being sure youre strong enough, I think your clean streak speaks for itself, youre being really strong and thats amazing, it takes lots of efforts and sometimes its just much harder to manage everything, a lot more heavy, and it feels like were not strong enough, but its just that the weight were carrying is heavier than usual I guess. Youre giving your best at everything youre doing and I dont think theres anything stronger than that!
These sound like very important things to focus on for the rest of the week, I hope that yoga, plus sleep, can help manage the rest, physical activity and getting enough rest can definitely make things harder/easier so its good that youre focusing on keeping a good routine!
These are really interesting values, come to think of it, presence is a really important one! As for your own values, you really dont have to do this if it is too painful! Im also really sorry if this question was painful…
Thanks for checking in, take care of yourself!
@LinearWaves
Heya linear <3 thanks for the check-in post today and thank you for all the positive affirmations. I really needed to hear them this morning <3 How are you yourself? :)
1) How are you feeling? 2) What is going well/not so well for you? (Combining both into one hahaha)
I'm doing okay this morning! I'm getting back into some good and bad habits this week and feeling pretty mixed about them. I took a good week off to rest and just focus on two main projects but now I'm sorta getting back into that bad habit of doing too much at once and not getting enough sleep. But I genuinely feel happier with the things I'm doing and the progress I'm seeing. Very overwhelming and confusing times for sure hahah.
3) Are there some things youd like to add/focus on for the rest of the week?
- Getting more sleep
- Self-care (sorta forgot how to do that)
- Meditation!
4) What are 5 of your most important personal values? (or less/more)
Such a good question! I think mine are holding onto hope, responsibility, self-worth, equality, and kindness towards all.
@TheAtticusFinch
Hi Atticus !
Habits sure are funny things ! Sometimes they can really help us and sometimes they're just hard to manage. It's good that you took some time off to be able to focus :) I totally understand the doing too much at once as someone who tends to have an 'all or nothing' type of behavior. I hope you can sort out some of your work and spread it out on several days/weeks so that you can squeeze some extra hours sleep in there. Though I'm glad to hear that you're happy with your progress. Your efforts are paying off, keep up the good work :)
I really like the values you picked, hope is an important one to me too !
Have a good day and take care <3
@TheAtticusFinch
Heya Atticus! I
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling?
I feel ok-ish. I had a run-into with a so-called friend, who told me I was... I don't even know what she was talking about, but I got really angry and provoced. So... naturally I felt my delusion about being evil creeping up on me, but I decided a week ago that I wouldn't let that delusion get to me and get the better of me, and even if I had urges to SH, I didn't do it. I feel really good about that. I feel a whole lot more confident, and I feel good about that. I feel good about how it went and how I reacted to it. I felt a need to punish myself, but I didn't do it. And I didn't eat my feelings either, so that's really good.
I feel more energized after I started to try to recover from my ED and then began eating a little more. I also went to the gym yesterday, and it felt amazing! It was awesome and I have really missed it.
2) What is going well/not so well for you?
Kinda already told you about that.
3) Are there some things you
@EvilRegalsReadToo
congrats on staying so strong! Enjoy those work outs
@EvilRegalsReadToo
Hey there ! Its good to hear from you !
Im sorry to hear this encounter ended up making this delusion creep up on you, I cant imagine how angry it made you and how hard it must have been, but Im sooo very proud that you didnt let it get the better of you, no matter how hard it was! This is really amazing, plus the fact that you didnt punish yourself in any way, its huge and Im happy that youve been able to work on this delusion and that it helped managing it better, really proud of you and your efforts! Plus its so nice that its been empowering you and making you feel more confident, its great when our victories can act as such a virtuous circle!
These sound like great focuses, good luck with that! And thank you for sharing these important values and for checking in, especially to share such positive news, take care and keep up the amazing work!
@LinearWaves
Heeeey! Thank you for those much-needed reminders and this check-in!
1) How are you feeling? I'm not feeling great today.
2) What is going well/not so well for you? It's been rough because I didn't get much sleep and I had to do some stuff that was really scary for me. But, I took a nice walk (even though I got scared on it). @RiverHudson1
3) Are there some things youd like to add/focus on for the rest of the week? Eating more and healthy, sleeping more, taking some time to self-care, and getting work done as its all due tomorrow.
4) What are 5 of your most important personal values? (or less/more) I think some important personal values for me are honesty, kindness, the ability to be non-judgemental, open-minded, dependability and freedom. I don't know if that makes sense kind of lacking on being able to English today lol
@Benny0
your English is amazing! Walks are the best for grounding. Sounds like you were super brave to do it. Great word choices!
@Benny0
Hey Benny! Youre very welcome, we definitely all need to hear these reminders more often!
Im sorry to hear youre not feeling great today and that things have been rough lately due to not getting enough sleep, having scary things to do and work to get done on top of that… Its really a lot to handle and Im glad to see that youre going to focus on it all, with getting more sleep, eating more, adding some self-care, plus doing your work (good luck on that!). I hope that this can all help relieve some tension and feel less scared.
Your personal values made lots of sense, and theyre really admirable ones! Its a really good thing that you value being non-judgmental and being open-minded!
Thanks for sharing and for checking in, take care!
1) How are you feeling? - I'm doing okay. I had a really bad panic attack yesterday and I'm still trying to recover.
2) What is going well/not so well for you? - Just life keeps trowing curve balls at me/
3) Are there some things youd like to add/focus on for the rest of the week? - I want to focus on finding a good routine, that works for me. And stick to it.
4) What are 5 of your most important personal values? (or less/more)
A.) Loyalty
B.) Compassion
C.) Determination
D.) Adventure
E.) Understanding
F.) Learning
@Goldcherry2113
Hey there !
Im glad to hear youre doing okay, despite the panic attack yesterday, they can be really challenging to recover from as they put us through a lot, but its good that youre giving yourself the time for it.
It can be really hard to handle it when life throws curve balls at you, life can really be quite unpredictable and sometimes it definitely brings complex/bad situation… I like to think that with these curve balls there are also some unexpected opportunities, I dont know if youve also experienced that?
This sounds like a great focus! A good and personal routine is definitely much needed. Are there some areas youd like to start focusing on? (for example sleep, or exercise, or food and so on?)
These are really strong values, determination is so important in life! Thank you for sharing them, and for checking in, take care!
2) Tried a new food. Went well.
3) My focus this week has been accepting that there are people who want to hurt me, people who know me and who have never met me. Having to accept that their behavior has nothing to do with me is weird when it is targetted at me. I am trying to remember that acceptance doesn't mean be dismissive of my experiences & feelings.
@Lexloveslife
Hey Lex!
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I am feeling good, I have had a goos couple of days. I have been eating healthy and doing more things that make me feel happy. Something not going well is my motivation to exercise. For the rest of the week I would like to focus on my recovery for self harm. Meaning, learning about my healthy coping methods and why I self harm. Personal values I enjoy in others are empathy, kindness, happiness, compassion, and inspiration. I value kindness, open mindedness, creativity, compassion, and love.
@Ecargrace
Its great to hear you
@LinearWaves
I'm doing ok. One thing going well is I saw my therapist today. One thing not going so well is my daughter won't be home until Sat. She was supposed to come home Fri. but her dad is having a birthday party for his girlfriend that she wants to go to. I miss her when she's gone. The days just go by so slow. I think I need to find a hobby to help pass the time. I focus so much on taking care of her I forget about me.
@RedHawk6547
Hey there ! Its good to hear youre doing ok, although Im sorry to hear that your daughter will be home later than planned, I cant imagine how much you must miss her when shes not home with you… Its understandable that time is going slow when shes not with you, considering you focus on taking care of her when shes home, I hope you can find a hobby and focus on yourself as youd focus on taking care of her, when shes not home. I dont know if you can see things this way, but focusing on taking care of you, when shes not here, and even when shes here, its also an indirect way to take care of her!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
Hello!
1) How are you feeling?
I am feeling pretty good today.
2) What is going well/not so well for you?
I am working on my balcony with flowers and lights and it's now my safe space. I am very proud of it.
3) Are there some things youd like to add/focus on for the rest of the week?
The rest of this week, I would like to keep working on cleaning and organizing my house.
4) What are 5 of your most important personal values? (or less/more)
My most important personal values in myself are my individualtiy, creativity, compassion, kindness, and strength. I value honesty, kindness, trust, humor, and authenticity.
@quietHemlock7880
Hey there ! Its great to hear youre feeling pretty good! Its great that youve been focusing on making this safe place, Im glad that youve built this safe space for you! Which flowers have you put, if you dont mind me asking?
This is a great focus, I hope it goes well!
These are really important core values, Im glad youre valuing them!
Take care, thanks for checking in!
