Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-In: Wednesday, June 24th, 2020
Heya everyone and happy Wednesday!
Some important gentle reminders, because we can never be reminded enough of all this!
Today I wanted to talk about YOU! The past few days youve all been so encouraging to each other, Im just amazed and happy to see so much support! Youre all soooo amazing and sooooo inspiring! No matter how big or small, words of support can mean so much and make a real difference.
This was my awkward way of saying thank you and that I feel really blessed to know such amazing people! Keep being your amazing selves! 
1) How are you feeling?
2) How is your week going so far? What is going well and what are you struggling with?
3) What is one recent victory youve had? So we can celebrate it!
4) What is one thing (or more) that can always make you feel (even a bit) better?
5) What is a new hobby/skill youd like to try out some day?
Feel free to share anything else! Ill be looking forward to reading you all!
Have a lovely day
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@LinearWaves
i've been struggling a lot recently. this week has been horrible so far. i have been drinking water more than i have been though.
@creativeshyluca15
Hey there ! Im really sorry to hear about your recent struggles and that the week has been horrible so far… Are there some coping skills that usually help you ? And are there some things you could change to improve the rest of the week ?
Well done on drinking more water! Keep taking good care of yourself, thanks for checking in!
@creativeshyluca15
Every act of self care counts. Good for you for drinking water.
@creativeshyluca15
Hang in there my friend ! Better days will come I promise. And stay hydrated, that's a very good place to start :)
@LinearWaves
I've been struggling a lot,, I'm really in my own head and all over the place. I wasn't sure what to do so a friend helped me find something to help... So I'm pretty new to 7 cups but I'm trying to get used to it, and see people with similar issues so I guess that helps-
@Satanickatt
welcom to the family! Joining 7 cups is definitely a big accomplishment
@Satanickatt
I'm sorry to hear that you've been struggling recently. A lot of thoughts on your mind at the moment ? It's great that you could reach out to your friend and that they could help you out. If you're new then welcome to 7cups. Take your time to learn how to get around, if need be we're here to answer any questions or if you just want to share your thoughts that's fine too ! Take care !
@Satanickatt
Hey there ! And welcome on 7cups, im really glad that youre joining thanks to your friend and I definitely hope this will help! Youre not alone! Im really sorry though that youre struggling, its hard to be all over the place and in your own head… are there some things that usually help you? Either to stay out of your head or to clear your thoughts or deal with them/distract?
Thanks for checking in, take care!
1) I'm feeling kind of ok.
2) Objectively my week is going fine. I feel like I m struggling with just losing perspective and having no resilience. I get obsessed over little things and I feel like if I could only "snap out of it" it would all be ok, but I can't find the switch to do that.
3) I only ever ave difficulties actually harming myself when I drink, so I haven't been drinking at all. It makes things better and safer. If a bit boring at time.
4) Sleep. Riding my bike.
5) LEarning Greek, I guess...
@1morday
That is so awesome that you know your trigger and are resisting so hard! That's truly amazing! That takes a lot of strength.
Good hobbies.
@1morday
And Greek is sooo cool!
@1morday
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. I like to think that little things can be important too, if you're worried/upset about something, even if it's small, your emotions are still valid. I understand wanting to snap out of it. Honestly I don't know where the on/off switch is !
I'm glad to hear that you know yourself well and have reduced your drinking. Maybe this is just me but I also have a weird relationship between SH and alcohol. Guess they trigger the same chemicals in our brain, or something like that.
Bike riding and learning greek sound cool !
Take care !
@1morday
Hey there ! Its nice to hear youre feeling ok, although it sounds challenging that youre struggling with obsessing over little things, struggling with losing perspective and having no resilience… Its important to remember that theyre little things, although no matter how small, they can mean a lot to us and thats okay (even if it sucks sometimes) About obsessing though, I dont know if this can help you as well, but Ive been taught this rule/exercise some time ago, basically when youre facing a problem/struggle you have to think about that problem in 5 years (or even just 5 weeks): is that problem going to have an impact 5 years from now? If not, then its not that much of a problem, and for sure its totally okay to feel bad about it and to need some time (thats always okay!) but –if possible- it doesnt require too much overthinking. I know its all much easier said than done and needs some practice but even if its not done perfectly, it can help to realize that yeah, this problem wont have an impact in the long-term future so its not as big as I previously thought, so as to change perspectives on it. (I hope I was clear lol but either way I want to say this again: small things can sometimes matter a lot to us and its very okay!) As for the switch, eh I wish wed come with a guide telling where that switch is!
Im really so proud of you for not drinking at all, in order to keep yourself safe!
Thanks for checking in, I hope you can enjoy some time riding your bike during the week, take care!
@LinearWaves
I'm ok. Weak is exhausting. And I've had 0 motivation, but it's pretty good.
I honestly can't think of any recent accomplishments. I got a couple of the rescue horses to trust me. I made my adopted homeless lady smile. I got 26,000 steps one day after a hike.
walking/hiking in nature. Riding horses. Figure skating. Being with certain friends.
hold on 2nd post because I forgot the last question
@FigureskatingEquestrian
Hey there :)
I'm sorry to hear that you're having a bad week ! I hope you get some rest soon !! It's hard to find motivation when we're already exhausted. I think it's the body's way of telling us to slow down.
These are fantastic accomplishments !! Animals have a way of sensing who they can trust and who they can't, don't they ? Making people smile is great, especially in this weird times ;) Ooh I like hiking too, congrats on all those steps :)
Surfing is soo cool ! Now I want to learn too ;) I long for a good day at the beach, I haven't been for years .. Maybe soon :)
Take care <3
@LinearWaves
oh yeah! Surfing. I love body boarding and riding those waves in to the beach. But I want to learn to surf and actually cut through the waves!
@FigureskatingEquestrian
Hey there!
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@LinearWaves
Hey there !
1) How are you feeling? I'm doing good ! Positive energy today mostly due to the good weather :)
2) How is your week going so far? What is going well and what are you struggling with? So far so good ! Not really any struggles for the moment. Weeks aren't usually the problem, most of the time it's the weekends that are hard.
3) What is one recent victory youve had? So we can celebrate it! I haven't really had any victories recently. Nothing comes to mind. But we can still celebrate :)
4) What is one thing (or more) that can always make you feel (even a bit) better? Music (again !), chocolate, a good cup of tea, snuggles with my cat.
5) What is a new hobby/skill youd like to try out some day? Painting maybe !
Take care <3
@Slizzy564
Yay for good weather and especially for good energy ! Its amazing how the weather can have such an impact on us! Although a too good weather is not too good haha the temperature has pretty much doubled in just a few days here and it's a bit too much, especially when wearing a mask lol
Its really good to hear theres no struggle, no black cloud in the horizon in a way. I hope this weekend will be different thanks to seeing your brother!
We can definitely celebrate the good energy! Or well, we can celebrate for no reason as well, celebrating for the sake of celebrating can be great too!
These are lovely things, I can definitely see how they make you feel better! Do you have a special tea flavour that works best on you?
I hope you can get to try painting some day, thanks for sharing, take care!
@LinearWaves
Yeah right ? It is a bit of a sudden change but I don't mind that much :)
Yep this weekend will definitely be better than usual :)
Lately when the weather was a bit miserable, I was drinking a chocolate and almond flavoured tea. Now that it's hotter I'll move on to fruitier ones to make iced tea (usually green tea) :)
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling?
I'm not feeling great.
2) How is your week going so far? What is going well and what are you struggling with?
My week hasn't been going well. I have been struggling with getting school done since I can't seem to focus on it. I'm also struggling with sleeping since I want to sleep but my brain doesn't so I end up sleeping later than I should and then I wake up earlier than I want to.
4) What is one thing (or more) that can always make you feel (even a bit) better?
My baby sister always makes me feel better because she is always smiling and laughing.
5) What is a new hobby/skill youd like to try out some day?
I would like to learn at least one language someday
@Sydney113
Hey there Sydney, I
@LinearWaves
Hi!
For learning a language I really want to learn Sign Language or French. And when I try to focus or sleep I do get bothered by thoughts so it makes it harder to sleep for me and I also just can't concentrate on the work I'm doing and I get easily distracted if that makes sense.
@Sydney113
Learning Sign Language or French definitely sounds cool ! Thoughts can definitely be hard to handle and make sleep/focus hard to reach… When trying to sleep there are some exercises like focusing on your toes, your feet, then ankles, calves and so on all the way up, so as to end up more relaxed and eventually reach sleep without even having gone all the way up. Its not easy to stick to it and not have some thoughts come back, but it gets easier, and you can just come back where you left when you realize you got in your thoughts! As for concentrating, it can definitely hard to do when lacking sleep on top of being bothered by thoughts… Good luck on completing your work, I hope you can do it slowly!
@LinearWaves
1) How are you feeling?
I'm feeling alot better today last night was rough but i got through it.
2) How is your week going so far? What is going well and what are you struggling with?
It's okay sometimes my depression sneaks up on me its been more frequent this week but I'm taking it one day at a time. My marriage is going great and I'm so happy for that! (married for 4 months now) I'm still struggling with family issues tho.
3) What is one recent victory you
@itidc
Hey there ! Congrats on getting through the night, no matter how rough i twas, youve done amazing !
How inspiring and strong from you to take it one day at a time, sometimes its really the best we can do when things gets harder, I like to call it baby step as it helps me visualize that no matter how small the steps I take are, they still lead me (slowly but steadily) to my destination. Its great to hear youre marriage is going great! I definitely hope these family issues can get sorted out though sometime soon if theyre weighting on you.
Im so proud of you on that victory! Are there some things that usually help you by the way during hard days/nights?
Watercolour is really amazing, a bit hard to learn but there are lots of things to try and you can't go wrong so that's cool! I hope you can try it sometime soon! Thanks for checking in and sharing, I hope you can spend plenty of time with your dog and husband so as to feel better, take care!
@LinearWaves
Thank you so much it means alot! I hope you get to your destination smoothly. Me too they're the cause of everything. I usually try not to stay up late the later I'm up the worse it gets and I just distract myself and take care of myself. tahnk you so much for replying and caring honestly. I hope you have a wonderful day.
@itidc
Thanks, I hope we both do !
I dont know if its something youre already doing, but guided meditation really helps me not focus on all the thoughts in my head, its sure not always easy but it has often helped me fall asleep instead of staying up full of not-so-great thoughts.
Youre very welcome, have a lovely day as well <3
@LinearWaves my week hasn't been going the best. I feel so alone in this battle with myself. I promised my boyfriend I would stop but it's killing me, I won't give up im only around a week clean, but I can do it or at least I hope I can. All y'all should know if your not alone in this fight okay?
@plumeriafrangipani
Courage Frangi! There are lots of us out here who get it. I am so glad for this group.
You got this!
@plumeriafrangipani
Hey there, i
1) I feel like I don't want to tell people about my pain anymore. My therapist and I shared a laugh today, it balanced me out a lot. I would say that I'm ok now because of it
2) Gonna save this one for my journal :)
3) Exercised yesterday twice! I felt so restless I had to get up. I was gonna clean my room today too but I slept for several hours and have been watching tv instead. Pretty much describes the last month for me. Tomorrow I really need to catch up on hours of work and I plan to get serious about it
4) Remembering moments laughing with my therapist. It's so small but each time it happens I feel great
5) A hobby I would like to try some day... I'm not sure
Thanks for the check in, Waves! Hope you are well
@Lexloveslife awww yay! It sounds like your doing well, good for you!
@Lexloveslife
Hey there Lex !
I totally understand you about not wanting to tell people your pain anymore, its okay to share it, its okay not to share it, its okay to stop sharing it, its okay to start sharing it again. When it comes to telling others, its important to do what we feel like. Its good to hear though that you shared a laugh today, thats definitely great!
Its great to hear that youve regained energy and were able to exercise! I hope you can keep that energy and motivation so as to catch up on cleaning and working!
Its really great that youre remembering these moments, happy/funny moments are really important to keep in mind, no matter how big/small!
Thanks for checking in, have a nice day!
