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Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check in: May 2nd, 2020

User Profile: TheAtticusFinch
TheAtticusFinch May 2nd, 2020

Good morning and hello SHR sub-community! I hope everyone is having a great Saturday and ready for the weekend.

Today, I would like to talk about alternatives to unhealthy coping mechanisms (such as self-harm). It's important to know where the urge for self-harming comes from. Whether it's the need to feel physical pain instead of mental pain or to take out anger on something, it's always easier to know how to solve a problem if you know where it's coming from. Overall, statistics and surveys have shown that most people self-harm to express extreme emotions, to calm themselves, to attempt to stop feeling numb and to release tension/pent up anger.

Here are some alternative coping mechanisms for these feelings:

If you self-harm to express pain and intense emotions, you could:

Paint, draw, or scribble on a big piece of paper with red ink or paint

Start a journal in which to express your feelings

Compose a poem or song to say what you feel

Write down any negative feelings and then rip the paper up

Listen to music that expresses what youre feeling

If you self-harm to calm and soothe yourself, you could:

Take a bath or hot shower

Pet or cuddle with a dog or cat

Wrap yourself in a warm blanket

Massage your neck, hands, and feet

Listen to calming music

If you self-harm because you feel disconnected or numb, you could:

Call a friend (you dont have to talk about self-harm)

Take a cold shower

Hold an ice cube in the crook of your arm or leg

Chew something with a very strong taste, like chili peppers, peppermint, or a grapefruit peel

Go online to a self-help website, chat room, or message board

If you self-harm to release tension or vent anger, you could:

Exercise vigorously—run, dance, jump rope, or hit a punching bag

Punch a cushion or mattress or scream into your pillow

Squeeze a stress ball or squish Play-Doh or clay

Rip something up (sheets of paper, a magazine)

Make some noise (play an instrument, bang on pots and pans)

Check in questions:

What's one thing that is going well for you today?

What's one thing that isn't going well for you today?

What's your favorite coping mechanism when you feel in extreme emotions or numbness?

What's your favorite dessert?

Have a great Saturday everyone <3

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User Profile: LinearWaves
LinearWaves May 2nd, 2020

@TheAtticusFinch

Thanks for sharing that list! Always a good reminder that there are plenty of alternatives to try out <3

One thing that is going well for me today is uhhh I managed to get my work out and my Spanish lesson done to continue my strike

One thing that isn

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User Profile: TheAtticusFinch
TheAtticusFinch OP May 2nd, 2020

@LinearWaves

Aw man, I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through difficulties with mom. I know personally how challenging that can be and how frustrating it can be and you're right that although things might be good for now, it's extremely emotionally tiring. I hope you're coping well with that one and I know how patient and kind you are so I know and hope you'll be okay. Blackberry muffins sounds delicious right now! I know a ton of people have started to take up baking since lockdown started but I haven't gotten the time to do it myself xD and yes exercise/sports are great coping mechanisms and are often really good to use to get rid of strong emotions. Take care linear and you enjoy your weekend too <3

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User Profile: LinearWaves
LinearWaves May 4th, 2020

@TheAtticusFinch

Thanks a lot for the support and kind words!

The muffins were perfect haha, take care!

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User Profile: EvilRegalsReadToo
EvilRegalsReadToo May 2nd, 2020

@TheAtticusFinch

What's one thing that is going well for you today?
I have been outside today, even though it was rather cloudy. But I went for a little walk and I did grocery shopping, not up for riding my bike as it would be a longer trip, and I wasn't sure if it would rain or something - and I don't like being wet cheeky

What's one thing that isn't going well for you today?
I have eaten everything in sight today. I know I shouldn't and when I counted the calories it wasn't as bad as I thought, but Imma do better tomorrow. My family will be there, and I won't be able to just eat randomly. But I should buy some fruit, so I can snack on that instead. I snacked pretty healthy today, as I didn't have a lot to snack on or eat at all, and I guess that's why I didn't truely binge. I didn't eat big amounts of unhealthy food, bc I didn't have it in the house. Guess it's easy as that?

What's your favorite coping mechanism when you feel in extreme emotions or numbness?
I want to say SH, but I guess that isn't a good answer. So Imma say working out in any way: bikerides, walks, weightlifting, yoga whatever. As long as it's hard and I can make it hurt, it's good laugh

What's your favorite dessert?
I'm not one with a sweet tooth, but I really do like strawberry ice cream.

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User Profile: TheAtticusFinch
TheAtticusFinch OP May 2nd, 2020

@EvilRegalsReadToo

I'm glad you got to go outside and get some fresh air today, regals! Fresh air and just being able to be outside these days is almost a luxury and I know you deserve that. I don't like being wet in the rain either; makes me shiver lol. I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with your eating and I can hear how challenging that is for you right now. I hope that this week is easier for you in terms of that and that you get to get some fruit. I like to put away all the unhealthy snacks at my house as far away as possible so that I don't snack on them :) And yes, SH is a definite no for healthy coping mechanisms but I think you have a point in that as long as it hurts and is hard (safely), it can be considered a good coping mechanism and I'm glad you have those. Take care and have a good weekend <3

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User Profile: modestVase1408
modestVase1408 May 2nd, 2020

Hi! I'm new at 7 cups. And thanks for sharing the information.

I used to do A LOT of excersise to calm down and since I can't anymore I had a really bad time. But now I see that it helped me find other things that also help which is great. I still miss Very much doing excersise, but I have been painting which is very helpful! As for the questions

A thing that is going good. Is that I finished a painting and It came out good

A thing that isn't going good is that I procrastinated a lot today so I feel like I wasted my time.

I love to dance that is my favorite way to manage feelings

And I love deserts with ice-cream or chocolate mousse

I hope I did this right... ✌🏻

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User Profile: TheAtticusFinch
TheAtticusFinch OP May 4th, 2020

@modestVase1408

Hi Vase! You're awesome and you definitely posted this correctly :) Welcome to 7 cups!! :) Exercise is a great coping mechanism so I'm so sorry to hear that you can't anymore :( I've personally been using youtube videos to continue exercising from home which has been helpful for me <3 Painting and art in general is very rad and I'm glad you finished a painting. Procrastination is the devil and I hope tomorrow is easier for you so that you can get more done and dancing seems fun! Take care <3

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