Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-in: Saturday May 9th, 2020
Hey everyone!! Happy Saturday and happy weekend :P
I wanted to talk a bit about self-love today!
Self-love is incredibly important in any journey of recovery. Whether it is self-harm, depression, or anything you're going through, it's important that we must learn to love ourselves. We must love ourselves to grow and to continue growing and we must love ourselves to continue helping others grow as well. Self-love is so important in everything we do. <3
5 Self-love ideas:
1) Start each day by telling yourself something really positive. How well you handled a situation, how lovely you look today. Anything that will make you smile.
2) Fill your body with food and drink that nourishes it and makes it thrive.
3) Move that gorgeous body of yours every single day and learn to love the skin youre in. You cant hate your way into loving yourself.
4) Dont believe everything you think. There is an inner critic inside of us trying to keep us small and safe. The downside is this also stops us from living a full life.
5) Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you. Let them remind you just how amazing you are.
Check-in questions:
1) How was this week for you? How are you doing currently? Feel free to share anything <3
2) What does self-love mean for you? How do you practice self-love in your life?
3) Did you have a favorite stuffed animal growing up? If so, tell us a bit about them! :)
Have a great week everyone and stay safe <3
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1) How was this week for you? How are you doing currently?
My week had lots of downs. Im continuously disappointed buy my lawyer. I'm somewhat optimistic but I don't have any reason to be.
2) What does self-love mean for you? How do you practice self-love in your life?
Im still working on this. I normally hate myself enough to change or despise what failure would be so I would make sure I would succeed. I'm trying not to tear myself down and not to belittle things I have done.
3) Did you have a favorite stuffed animal growing up? If so, tell us a bit about them! :)
I had one. A teddy bear I got when I was quite young after the house burned down. It came from the hospital. It had a tee shirt saying God loves you. I'm not very sentimental. But I guess I miss it sometimes.
@Flornhope
Oh no.. I'm sorry to hear that this week has been down and that you're having a lot of trouble working with your lawyer. I don't think there ever has to be a "reason" for optimism. I think optimism is good and I'm proud of you for being optimistic despite the hard times that you're going through. I can really relate to the part you talked about hating yourself and tearing yourself down a lot personally. But we're both working on it and that's the best we can do right now so I'm proud of us. The teddy bear sounds cute and thank you for sharing with us today <3
@TheAtticusFinch We are our own critics. It can be a great thing. But we are often over critical. We know all our faults and failures better than anyone els. Thank you for your encouragement.
@TheAtticusFinch
1) How was this week for you? How are you doing currently? Feel free to share anything <3
It has been ok. I have left my RPG-group of almost three years, bc I didn't feel welcome in there, so I just left. Had a controvers with another user, who won't leave me alone, so I left. It's the best thing I have ever done. I feel SO much better now, after not beeing in there. That user is toxic man... and he has been my biggest trigger for self harm, so I'm really glad I left. I don't want to give him that kind of power over me.
But otherwise the week has been good. I am cooking, I am riding my bike and I am doing everything I love. It's nice to just go out there, and get some fresh air and such. I am feeling good for the first time in a long time.
2) What does self-love mean for you? How do you practice self-love in your life?
I don't practice self-love. I don't have any self-love at all. I hate my temper, I hate my body and I hate my personality. Sometimes I just feel so wrong at toxic :S
3) Did you have a favorite stuffed animal growing up? If so, tell us a bit about them! :)
I had one, and I still have him/her. I actually never figured out, if it was a him or a her, and somehow it never mattered. It's a stuffed panda, and I got it from my grandma on my dad's side. It has always been with me, and makes me feel safe.
@EvilRegalsReadToo
Hey Regals <3 I'm glad you left that group of yours that has become very toxic for you. When we take actions like these to get away from toxic (and triggering) people and groups in our lives, we are setting healthy boundaries with ourselves and the world around us. So I'm proud of you for doing so and I hope you continue to feel better. I'm glad you're getting fresh air! It's something I've been struggling with lately so I'm glad you're getting it. You and I both struggle with self-love, and that's okay! Maybe it's something we both start to work on soon when we have the time to. Glad you had a panda, I had one too when I was a kid. Take care hon and stay safe.
@TheAtticusFinch
1) How was this week for you? How are you doing currently? Feel free to share anything <3
Pretty good, group therapy had it's first session of the period, and besides having to mess around with technical difficulties for half an hour, it well really well. Next Monday we're going to meet in person too.
On a slightly lesser note, I skipped out on a call I promised I would make. Not a big deal, but still a bit disappointed with myself.
2) What does self-love mean for you? How do you practice self-love in your life?
Hard to say. Mostly not being too hard on myself when I mess something up, I think
3) Did you have a favorite stuffed animal growing up? If so, tell us a bit about them! :)
I did, a simple little brown bear, I believe I got from my dad. From stories I can gather that he started get dementia when me and my sister were very little. I think this triggered my mother to leave him. Leading to me not remembering anything about him
@Madaraismyspiritanimal
I'm glad you're starting group therapy again and I hope it continues going well for you. I think you're right about self-love in that we can't be too hard on ourselves. It seems like you did a really good job of practicing self-love in how you reacted to the missed call. You're right that it's not a big deal and hopefully you have a chance to make up for it in the future. I don't know how you feel about your father leaving your family life at a young age but I hope you and your family are doing okay now. Thank you for checking in today :)
@TheAtticusFinch
@TheAtticusFinch
My week wasn't the best... My sister is in hospital now. (Her names Sophie) She's been diagnosed with Cancer. My other sister (Katherine) couldn't handle the fact that she may not live so she tried to end her life. I just can't understand why all my family and friends all keep leaving me. My mind is saying to relapse but my heart tells me what could happen if i go too deep and what my family would do and say. So i'm really confused and worried. i've got many mixed emotions and i just don't know how to stop them all.
@Asher2343
Asher.. words can't even begin to describe how sorry I am to hear that you have so much going on right now. With your sisters and your own thoughts and everything else, it must feel like the whole world is crashing around you and it's very understandable that you want to relapse. You're so resilient, asher, for holding out for so long and I'm proud of your bravery. Being confused and worried and feeling alone right now is only natural and I know you will get through it no matter what. <3 We are here for you as a community and we (and I) are wishing you the best.
@TheAtticusFinch
Thanks. I am really stuck. I love this app tho. its helped me so much! And i'm glad your apart of it.
@TheAtticusFinch I just wanted to say this is a really nice thread:)
1. It's been an alright week I've been bingewatching my favourite show vampire diaries😂but I need to crack on with online school I'm very behind but I don't want to be, I'm not too good atm, I've been trying to move on from someone who helped me through rough times, it's getting a bit harder but easier and better:)
2. Self love for me means giving myself a break making healthy foods, putting on makeup to make myself feel a bit better which is silly but it gives me more confidence, it means recovering and keeping on going and to not feel to deserve the bad things in a way is self love❤️ As well as socialising with my friends it makes me feel happier and less alone
3. I had a bunny growing up which I called bunny lol creative😂it was from my mums country Brazil, so it made me feel more at home, it could be folded inside out to either have pyjamas or day clothes on it lol, which I promise doesn't sound as terrifying, it had lil carrots on it, I still have her😂I think it means a lot to me
@Julia27LockRuby100314
Hi Julia! Thank you for responding to my check-in post :) I'm glad that you're trying to move on from that person in your life and that you've been getting time to watch your favorite show, although I'm sorry to hear that you're behind in school and stuff :( I hope that gets better this week. We have similar definitions of self-love! I love what you said about making yourself feel more confident. I do that as well and it helps me a lot an keeps me motivated throughout the day. Bunny sounds like a cute bunny and it's cool that it's from Brazil and reminds you of home. I like that a lot :) have a great week and thank you for checking in :)
@TheAtticusFinch thank you I hope you have a great week too:)💛💜