Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-in: Thursday May 28, 2020
Hello, everyone! It's nearly the end of May now, and I hope you're feeling pretty settled nowadays. I'd like to bring up the topic of self-love, and how we can engage in it more often.
A lot of the time when it comes to self-harm in particular, we don't seem to value ourselves much. We can use self-harm to punish ourselves- because we don't like our body-, because we don't feel like ourselves. Just as an example. The act of self-harm, in general, proves that we don't love ourselves much. When starting out in recovery, the concept of self-love can be difficult to grasp, because we haven't engaged in it for so long. But as the journey continues, there comes a point where we can stop, look back and reflect on the process and how we got to where we are... and we'll realise that we're showing love to ourselves and our body again. That is an amazing feeling.
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
2) What does self-love look like to the ideal version of you? How can we get started on it today?
3) If your body could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of?
4) If your mind could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of?
5) Who is your favourite fictional character (in a movie, TV show, book, anything)?
Take care of yourselves. xx
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@rebecca947
Such a good post. I think it's so true.
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
I'm honestly struggling. Working in a hospital sucks. And I'm a total extrovert, who has been told their whole life that they are unlovable. So, this isolation is doing a number on my mental health. This isolation is totally wrecking me. I think I've beaten this SH, but moments like this, when I think that maybe I am totally alone and unlovable are the hardest. I just am not sure how long I can handle this. But despite it, I'm fighting hard. I'm 25 days clean today. My record is 28, so I'm gunning for at least 29.
2) What does self-love look like to the ideal version of you? How can we get started on it today?
Time to rest. Plenty of movement and exercise. Lots of connection/community. Feeling loved. Being active. Having adventures planned. Being creative. Volunteering and serving others. Knowing that I'm making a difference for others. At least that's when I feel the most alive.
I'm going to collect food and take it to the streets and start giving it away to people this weekend. I'm working on a furniture rehab project that makes me feel strong and creative. I'm trying to stay as connected to others as I can. Doing as much yoga, hiking, walking, etc that I can. Burning candles to creat cozy atmospheres. Allowing myself to occasionally buy something for myself or order takeout.
3) If your body could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of?
SLEEP! I can't seem to do much of that anymore. But my body is so exhausted.
4) If your mind could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of?
Self love. Giving up toxic relationships. Mentally protecting myself from the abuse. Positive self talk
5) Who is your favourite fictional character (in a movie, TV show, book, anything)?
So hard!!!!! I love Hermione Granger form Harry Potter. IDk. There are just so many though.
@FigureskatingEquestrian
Hey, Equestrian! Thank you, I believe its so important to bring up and keep reminding. *big hugs * Im sorry :( youre very much loved here on this site, definitely buy me at least. I value all your check in posts and youre so strong for sharing parts of yourself on here for everyone to see. Does working in a hospital suck for you because of this period or in general? If general, I hope you can try to find another job elsewhere soon. Its not worth your sanity and health staying in a job you dont enjoy. ❤️ are the restrictions reading for you anytime soon? I hope they will, so you have more freedom to just be out and be surrounded/see strangers going about their day again. Good on you for still fighting strong- youve got this! By the time I reply, I think youll be on day 27-28! I hope youre proud of that, because I sure am proud of you! ❤️
I love how you have so many ideas, and good on you for being so kind and generous during this really tough time for everyone! The furniture rehab project sounds so interesting- again, good on you! Sounds like you can be quite good at self-love and self-care which is amazing and rare sometimes.
I hope you can sleep soon and that nothing is going on physically that is a barrier. As for your mind speaking, its great that youre aware of what you need to do- thats the first step done already. Youre not far from fulfilling it! Positive self-talk is so powerful in helping us aid and love ourselves more. Its so good that you brought that up! Toxic relationships can be so difficult to give up, but I hope you find that strength within you to know that you need better, you deserve better and you should get better. ❤️
I love Hermione too :) take care of yourself. Im cheering you on! xx
@rebecca947
I failed at day 27....3 days in a row.........I'm down to 1 day clean.........It's so bad.....my shoulder is torn up.......and everyone is asking......and I just can't do this anymore.
@FigureskatingEquestrian
*big hugs* I hope your shoulder recovers very soon, physical pain doesn't help when we're already feeling emotionally down. And you're back to day 1 clean BUT you've learnt a lot from it too. You've learnt new triggers- now to put the learning into action and figuring out what distractions best help you. I understand how disheartening it can be, and for that I'm giving you so much hugs ❤️ Hang in there, don't beat yourself up over it for too long. There's a healthy amount of crying and then it reaches unhealthy and stops you from moving on. ❤️ You're welcome to PM listeners for more support- my PMs are open too but replies will be slow. Take care of yourself please xx
@rebecca947 Hey rebecca! <3 how are you doing? :)
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us? I'm doing well today! I'm really excited about this blog for mental health that I'm creating with my friends for students and I'm also excited about the discussions that I'm going to be hosting next week on 7 cups hehe..
2) What does self-love look like to the ideal version of you? How can we get started on it today? I think self-love for me is loving myself on matter what flaws I have and no matter who I identify myself as. I had issues with this in the past with being bisexual and I think I've pretty much conquered the "no matter who I identify as" part with my self-love journey but I think I can definitely still work on loving myself despite my flaws. I have urges to sorta fix everything wrong with myself and beat myself over it.
3) If your body could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of? I think it would tell Atticus to get more sleep and stop depending on coffee xD
4) If your mind could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of? I think my mind would ask me to give myself more room to forgive myself.
5) Who is your favourite fictional character (in a movie, TV show, book, anything)? Atticus Finch from To Kill a Mockingbird.. I aspire to live up to his name with his empathy skills and being as good of a person/parent as he is!
@TheAtticusFinch
Hello, Atticus! That sounds so exciting- good on you for starting a blog! I hope it kicks off well. And thats so good that youre excited to host discussions- we can never have too many passionate discussion hosts :p
I love that definition- how each of us see self-love is personal and different to everybody elses. Im so happy for you that you accept yourself regardless of your identity! I think we can all accept ourselves just that little bit more, and forgive ourselves. Its an ever going process.
Good luck on stopping Coffee dependence! The side effects arent the best for most people but dont let that stop you! And little sleep means more coffee which means little sleep xD stop it all :p
I LOVE To Kill A Mockingbird! I had to study it in high school and despite that, I loved the story. I dont fully remember the whole plot, but certain parts of the story definitely stick to me. And as a result, Ive always loved your username haha
Take care of yourself, mate! Again, congratulations on being able to host discussions yourself and thanks for being part of the lovely SHR team! xx
Hello there :)
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us? Today was a rollercoaster ride x) I started off in a bad mood, quite tired but i'm not too bad now, hearing from my brother really lifted my mood !
2) What does self-love look like to the ideal version of you? How can we get started on it today? Self love is difficult to define. For me i guess it would be embracing myself with all my flaws and defining boundaries. To get started on it today maybe it would be good to rediscover my body .. ?
3) If your body could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of? Care. I'm so careless with it, it could need some exercise, body lotions and sleep.
4) If your mind could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of? Peace. Less overthinking and more emotional connections.
5) Who is your favourite fictional character (in a movie, TV show, book, anything)? Oooh this is a hard one, I'm gonna cheat because I can't choose : Harry Haller (Steppenwolf, Hermann Hesse), Professors McGonagall and Lupin (Harry Potter) and Nick Diamond (The Diamond Brothers series, Anthony Horowitz)
@Slizzy564
Hello, Slizzy! Thats so good your mood lifted, and you could connect with part of your family! Defining boundaries is a great one to remember, and an overall great meaning! Rediscovering our body and our personality would definitely be a great step.
Seems like a common answer for body is sleep haha its not always easy to do so nowadays with our society being in a rush and having technology. Even during these standstill times. My body definitely needed lotion too not too long ago! More emotional connections- great that you can acknowledge and recognise it! Next step: actionable steps to do so? :)
I have never heard of any of the characters 😂 Ive heard of HP of course but not of the characters. Maybe I should rediscover some films and books... hmm.
Take good care of yourself and I hope your mind and body can feel some love from you soon ❤️
@rebecca947
Hey :)
Thank you so much for taking time to answer !
Yeah I think everyone needs a bit more sleep. I mean I do get enough hours but I always seem to wake up tired and my dreams are a bit wacky at the moment x)
Aaaah actionable steps towards emotional connexions ... That's pretty hard for me. To be honest I don't reach out to people, I wait for them to come to me. And I know that obviously waiting for people can't always work out but I don't quite know how to do anything else ...
It's totally fine if you don't know the characters but I sure won't hold you back if you want to read/watch more films ;) These are only my favorite, there are plenty more out there :)
Take care <3
Siz.
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
Just fine. Not really.
2) What does self-love look like to the ideal version of you? How can we get started on it today?
It doesn't have a look. There is no ideal version. Since there isn't an ideal one there isn't anything to work on.
3) If your body could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of?
Do something for the pain. Get more fit.
4) If your mind could speak, what would it tell you it needed more of?
A education. Probably some sort of help.
5) Who is your favourite fictional character (in a movie, TV show, book, anything)?
Right now probably Bubbles from Trailer Park Boys.
@Flornhope
Hello, Florn :) its good to see you again here. *hugs* its not easy to know ourselves and how we feel. Even harder to accept it sometimes. I hope youll feel fine or better soon. You can get there.
Thats a unique perspective on it! Theres no wrong or right answer, just as long as it feels true to you. :)
Heal the pain- not easy but itll be worth it. I hope you follow your mind and do both- study again and seek help for yourself. They seem important to you so I hope you pursue to make those thoughts/wishes true.
Ive not watched or read or heard of Trailer Park Boys. Ill have to check it out maybe. Take good care of yourself. Im cheering you on. xx
@rebecca947 Thank you. For your encouragem and support. I guess I was misleading. I don't like me at all. I don't think I should be loved or accepted in th slightest. I think it is wrong for me to allow it. So there's nothing to work on. But I think it shows your optimism, so that is good. The tv show is a comedy it's crass, low brow, vulgar, and normalizes lots of bad things. Stay safe in all the unrest out there.
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
I'm ok. Feeling a bit down but just being hard on myself. I think it'll let up in a few days.
2) It looks like giving myself time & space to think, understanding that finally healing doesn't mean I've been faking my illnesses, an appropriate amount of sleep, not putting too much stock in what others think of me for certain things, balanced views, no expectations, a peaceful relationship with my body
Not sure how to start anymore. I've tried many ways of starting and it always ends up causing harm or fizzling away. I'm not sure how to make it a priority when I have other more pressing things to do, like starting an internship and continuing thesis work. I guess I don't view self care as a need but as a want.
3) Nutrients, water, exercise not done out of obligation / punishment
4) Breathing room
5) Have many characters I enjoy at different phases of my life
@Lexloveslife
Heya, Lex! *hugs* I hope its gone by now and youre feeling a bit better about yourself. They all are very important for sure. I especially like when you say no expectations- Ive come to believe nowadays that we can have expectations- hold people to a certain level of standard- but not to put too much weight into it. Otherwise well be disappointed if someone or something doesnt meet our expectations. Everything in life is in moderation it seems. Its great that you acknowledge that maybe you dont see self-love as a need. I wonder why thats so? Maybe theres some food for thought there.
I hope you satisfy what your mind and body wants and needs from you. Taking care of yourself then means you can take care of others and other necessities in life. We can only push for so long and for so hard before something has to give- and a lot of the time from my experience, its health. ❤️
What character do you currently enjoy? :) Take good care of yourself xx
