Self-Harm Recovery Daily Check-in : Tuesday, August 11th, 2020.
Hey there beautiful beings <3
To follow up on @LinearWaves post yesterday on inspiration that can lead us to change, today I thought we could talk about what those changes can be. One step that I find really difficult in recovery is accepting to change. Sometimes I know that I need to change my lifestyle but I'm scared to take that first step, break that routine. Because we all know that a routine, even a bad one, brings some sort of comfort. It's reassuring to know what's coming our way, how we are going to react, what those reactions entail, etc.
Though if we want to recover, there are some changes that need to be made. And instead of jumping into a load of changes, I find it easier to start off small and work up to bigger things. For exemple, going to bed only five minutes earlier instead of trying to get a full extra hour sleep, opening up to members/listeners here before I try to open up to my family β¦ Maybe these changes are only small, but I believe they can have a butterfly effect on our lives, one small thing snowballing into more important ones until we reach to point where we can make pivotal modifications to our lives. So whoever you are, I want to congratulate you on making those changes, even if they are small. You're brave for making the choice to change. And for those who haven't changed anything yet, no worries. Everything in it's due time, nobody runs at the same speed so take your time. If you're only considering changing, well that's a change too ;)
There's this lovely word metanoia that is defined as the journey of changing one's mind, heart, self or way of life. I thought it was quite fitting with today's topic.
Check-in questions :
1) How is your day going ? Anything you wish to share with us today ? Let us into that wonderful mind of yours ;)
2) Is there anything (big or small) that you wish to change in your life ? Is there anything you have already changed ?
3) Is there a word that you particularly like ? It can be any word, something that you like to pronounce, a word with a nice meaning or a word that is important to you.
Song recommendation of the day : Change by NF (this song actually inspired today's check-in)
Wishing you all a great day, take care <3
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@Slizzy564
1) How is your day going ? Anything you wish to share with us today ? Let us into that wonderful mind of yours ;)
My day's going ok. This morning, my counsellor texted me she was being tested for Covid19, so our in person meeting was cancelled and she would call me later. But I wasn't feeling like making the phone call so I ignored her multiple calls, saying I had fallen asleep. I feel a bit bad about it, having her devote more time than needed to me.
Other than that, I can't help but feel like the guy I've met online is losing interest. He's taking longer to respond to texts and his responses are shorter. Tips and topics to talk about are appreciated.
2) Is there anything (big or small) that you wish to change in your life ? Is there anything you have already changed ?
I wanna lose weight, but all my efforts to do so have just gained me weight π«
3) Is there a word that you particularly like ? It can be any word, something that you like to pronounce, a word with a nice meaning or a word that is important to you.
γγγγ or yakusoku, meaning promise in Japanese. I just like it for some reason π€·ββοΈ
@Madaraismyspiritanimal
Hey there :)
Good to hear that your day is okay. I hope your counsellor is okay ! Would things have been different if you met in person ? Would it still have been a day where you don't want to talk much ? I know that personally I hate phone calls and avoid them as much as possible. I understand that you feel bad about her making extra time in her schedule for you. Maybe next time you meet up with her, you could talk about this ?
Oh I'm sorry I'm not very good with topics to talk about ... Though I tend to think that talking about something that you're genuinely interested in can be a good start. I just tend to ramble about my thoughts. I understand that the wait between replies and the shorter texts lead you thinking that he's losing interest. Especially when you think that the more you wait, the more time you have to think these things over.
Oh that a healthy objective to have ! Though I totally relate to it being pretty hard. I know some people find it easier when they lose weight at the same time as someone else, so that they can encourage each other you know ?
Oh that seems like a pretty word to me, thanks for sharing :)
Thanks for checking-in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Hey, thank you for doing this great check in today!
1) How is your day going ? Anything you wish to share with us today ? Let us into that wonderful mind of yours ;)
My day went okay. I watched a movie with my sisters and that was pretty much it. Most of my days have been fine but I just mentally feel bleh and drained that it makes the days seem worse than it is.
2) Is there anything (big or small) that you wish to change in your life ? Is there anything you have already changed ?
I have started excercising and stretching since Sunday because I want to just be healthy and flexible. (I can't even touch my toes.. my flexibility is that sad xD) but today when I went to go excercise my motivation changed from wanting to be healthy to wanting to lose weight and that made me upset because that's not why I started exercising and I really want to change my thinking pattern so long story short I'm working on being overall healthy and change my thinking patterns to positive stuff!
3) Is there a word that you particularly like ? It can be any word, something that you like to pronounce, a word with a nice meaning or a word that is important to you.
Hmmm this is a hard one! I really like the word Hallo right now. It just means Hello in English but it's fun to say it that way.
Another thing, I really like the song Change!! It's a great song
@Sydney113
Hey there :) Thanks <3
Ah movie ! What did you watch ? Sometimes a chill day is nice too :) Although it can seem that everything is fine on the outside, it doesn't mean we're not struggling on this inside. Is there anything that is draining you or is it just a mood you've been in ?
Oh that's really good, a bit of exercise and stretching ! (Just so you know, I've started yoga and can't touch my toes either, I feel for you ;) ) It's curious that your motivation changed though, is there anything in particular that happened today that could explain that change ? Thinking patterns are intriguing things, I wish you luck on changing yours. Don't forget, small steps are always steps :)
Haha I like that one too :)
To be honest, I'm not a big fan of rap, but a lot of NF's song lyrics are sooo relatable. Glad you like it :)
Thanks for checking-in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
This whole week my sisters and I have been watching Twilight so we watched the fourth one today.
There definitely is a lot of things going on right now that could be draining me. I bottle everything up and I know that's not good. A lot of things around me keep changing and even though on the outside I look like I'm okay with all the changes I'm not on the inside. Everything just sorta feels more out of control.
About the thought changes, I struggle a lot about my body image so I think today my thoughts won instead of me trying to be positive to myself.
@Sydney113
Oh I like doing movie marathons like that ! Good way to get through the week :)
Even though we know it's not good, I think a lot of people tend to bottle up their feelings, emotions, etc. I hope someday you find a way to maybe let them out, even if it's not all at once ;) And yes I understand that things changin around you can be stressful and it's hard to get back on track to feel in control again. I had this friend that used to say that there's no point in stressing about stuff that's out of our control, stressing about it won't change it. Though it's a lot easier said than done, I'll admit that !
Ah we have this saying in France : they won a battle but they didn't win the war ! Body image is something that seems to be hard to deal with, especially in our times where being perfect has to be the norm ... Though there is plenty of love out there, I hope you can snatch some and use it for yourself ;)
@Slizzy564
1) How is your day going? Anything you wish to share with us today? Let us into that wonderful mind of yours ;)
I'm doing fine with my day. For this sharing, I'm so happy that my mom tried watching anime with me, and my brother. So far, she enjoyed most of the shows we had watched this month. I hope dad would try to watch with us, but he isn't interested. π
2) Is there anything (big or small) that you wish to change in your life? Is there anything you have already changed?
Yes, there is something I want to change. I want to boost my self-esteem which is one of the reasons why I used this website.
On the bright side, I have changed my sleeping pattern, and I can finally sleep before midnight comes.
3) Is there a word that you particularly like? It can be any word, something that you like to pronounce, a word with a nice meaning or a word that is important to you.
If I were to choose a favorite word, I'll go with chocolates. π« Sweets taste so good for me.
Thanks for reading!
@LovelyOrangeJuice
Oh wow ! That's cool of your mom to try anime ! Now I'm curious what did she like ? My parents never got it/didn't want to understand x)
Oooh self esteem comes in very useful in life, that's a wise choice ;) Hope you find the support here :)
Yay for a better sleeping pattern ! Sleep does change a lot in our everyday life :) (What is your secret my dear friend ? Kinda having sleeping problems over here too)
Oh yeah chocolates are great !! What's your favorite ? :)
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Oh wow ! That's cool of your mom to try anime ! Now I'm curious what did she like ? My parents never got it/didn't want to understand x)
Based on the animes we've watched so far, she likes Erased. Right now, we're watching Yuri on Ice. My brother and I usually picked shows that are light-hearted because she's not a fan of violence. We only watched anime in English as well since mom doesn't want to read subtitles while watching.
Oooh self esteem comes in very useful in life, that's a wise choice ;) Hope you find the support here :)
Yeah, thanks. It's so fun to pick and answer questions in this community.
Yay for a better sleeping pattern ! Sleep does change a lot in our everyday life :) (What is your secret my dear friend ? Kinda having sleeping problems over here too)
I don't know, but walking around in our living room at night help, and writing as well. I guessed a tired body and mind make sleeping easy. x)
Oh yeah chocolates are great !! What's your favorite ? :)
Wow, this is a hard question. But, if I'd pick one, I'll choose chocolate almonds!
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
Take care too! :)
