Self Harm Recovery Daily Check-in : Tuesday, November 10th, 2020
Hello hello beautiful beings <3
I hope that the week has started well for you all ! :) I'm sending hugs to those who need some <3
It's a short check in today with a little quote : I'm restless. Things are calling me away. My hair is being pulled by the stars again. - Anais Nin. I read a thing the other day about how when you look at the stars, you aren't looking up at the stars, you're actually looking down into the cosmos with only the gravity grounding you on earth. In a way we're all just stuck to the surface of this planet while we spin around space. Puts a lot of everyday stuff into perspective ;)
Check in questions :
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
Song recommendation of the day : Jungle by CIX (The MV is superbe !)
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@Slizzy564
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
Im okay today. I'm not the best but I'm okay. My mood has been very... I'd like to say manic but I'm not really bipolar so idk if that would be acceptable to say??
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
Small things. Every day I come up with the smallest things I'm proud of myself for. Brushing my hair. Taking a shower. Maybe I ate that morning. Maybe I just got dressed.
For today, I got dressed. I ate breakfast. That may be it but I did it. :)
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
Im going to try to keep my spirituality/religion out of this bc of 7Cups policy, but I relate most to air. Air is of intelligence and creativity. It is light and can carry many a thing. Words especially. Communication is key, everything I do is based upon communication.
@YouShouldCallMeT
Hi there ! :)
It's nice to hear that you're doing okay even if you're not at your best. In fact I don't know much about bipolarity so I don't know what is acceptable or not. Having said that I get what you mean, is there any reason as to why you've been like this recently ?
Oh that's sweet ! It's true that it's the small things that make us happy, it's lovely to hear that you congratulate yourself for them :) Those are good things to be proud of !
Oh wow, I love you relate to being air ! Indeed it can carry a lot, all those sounds whether we're talking, listening to music, nautre sounds ... So many things ! Very true, communication can help us a lot ! What are your tips to enable 'good' communication ?
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Honestly, I have no idea why. I've been stressed lately so maybe that.
As for good communication I think just speaking your mind while being mindful of how you say things is very important. Being able to articulate or put a word to how you feel or think and understanding not only yourself but trying to understand others is good too.
@YouShouldCallMeT
Stress can be different for everyone. Maybe it's something that plays a role in these emotions you've been feeling.
Wise words there ! While difficult to do correctly, speaking your mind seems to be pretty essential for good communicaiton. Though I don't know about you, I always find it hard to find the right words to express my thoughts !
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
I am really down today. My mood over the past week has been distressed and overwhelmed.
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
I think going outside helps me put stuff in perspective and helps me calm down a little bit.
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
I think I'd be water because it is the most soothing.
@Brynn9
Hey hey :)
I'm so sorry to hear about you feeling down today, especially since it seems like this has been an ongoing feeling. Being distressed and overwhelmed sounds pretty tiring, I hope you manage to get some rest and some peace of mind. Is there anything that has caused this ?
Hum that sounds nice ! It's great to reconnect with nature sometimes or just go out to get some fresh air and change the scenery you know ? It's nice to hear that it helps you calm down even a little.
Oh yeah water does sounds pretty soothing ! I don't know about you but I like to just float in a bath or at the swimming pool and relax all my body.
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
I was and still in despair because my work is unstable because the top manager has threatened to fire me and new supervisors came to my site work and a consultant sent a collegue to watch out my work that I feel so insulted.
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
No I just wait them to calm.
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
Air, to be able to disappear but still exist.
@DinaElwy
Hi there !
I'm sorry to hear about that. It sounds like a tough situation to be in and must be hard to have people question your abilities, especially when it comes from managers. I don't know about you but my manager don't always know what I do but still give their opinion ... I hope things work out for you, hang in there !!
So maybe we could say that time helps you ? Sometimes it can be good to just let the storm pass !
Oh interesting ! Why do you think about disappearing ?
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564 I think about disappearing because it would satisfy the poeple arround me at work.
@DinaElwy
I'm so sorry to hear about this. As this is a serious issue and I'm not sure what you are referring to by saying that you're thinking about disappearing, I would highly suggest you reach out to professionals to help you. Here is a link to some ressources. Also I'll flag this post, just in case.
I wish you all the best, take care <3
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
ive not been doing so great. everyone in my support system relies on me so heavily that I can’t talk to them or open up, and I’m taking all of their worries and problems on top of mine as I try to help them. I’m really struggling to cope.
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
i just have to disconnect completely by isolating and listening to music and hoping my brain works itself out. It doesn’t always work, but it sometime does too
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
i would find it really hard to chose, because I love all of them, but maybe right now fire. I’m cold, and fire is warm and familiar. I love the smell, and the crackling sound. Fire is pure and uncaring and natural and I would like to be more like that.
hope everyone does better soon x
@owo123
Hello hello !
Oh that sounds like a though spot to be in ! I get you on being the person that people rely on. It takes a lot of energy to handle their issues plus our own and I understand that it's hard to cope with. It's admirable of you to want to support everyone but taking care of yourself is just as important. It can be scary but if you want to open up, we're here for you on 7cups <3
Hum it does sound like a good idea, having your own kind of bubble where you can focus on positive things ! Music is good for helping us manage emotions and is pretty stimulating for the brain :) If you don't mind me asking, what sort of music do you listen to ?
I like the sound of that, I'm imagining a warm fireplace in the winter with the heat slowly making it's way through my clothes and to my heart. You're right, fire is pure and natural ! It also lights the way in the dark, maybe you could help us light the way :)
I hope you do better soon too ! Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
I love almost all music :) but my favourite genre is pop/k-pop/j-pop etc. at the moment these are some of my favourite artists, but I’m always finding new ones so any recommendations would welcome x
Nico Collins
BTS
Billie Eilish
Stray kids
Halsey
Avicii
Blackpink
Snow Patrol (a band from near my home ^ω^)
GOT7
@owo123
Those are cool artists ! :) I'm also into Kpop, Stray Kids are my all time favorite ;) Some others that I enjoy are Monsta X, NCT, ACE, ATEEZ, ONEUS. As for western artists, there is a lot that I like x) If you have time to spare you could check them out :)
@owo123 Saw the kpop list. Glad to see a fellow kpop fan!
I recommend Twice as well, judging by your list, and if you want to check out an older (but legendary) group, my favourite all time is Girls Generation. I also love Red Velvet, KARD, Itzy, Chungha, Taeyeon, Tiffany, AKMU, Mamamoo and Dreamcatcher :)
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
I'm fine. My mood has been low.
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
I try and think of how it could be worse and how some others have it worse.
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
Water “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless — like water. Now you put water in a cup, it becomes the cup; You put water into a bottle it becomes the bottle; You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”
@Flornhope
Hey there :)
I'm sorry to hear that your mood had been low lately, is there anything that is bothering you ? I'm glad to hear that you're doing fine today though.
Oh right, yeah sure other people do have harder lives than us sometimes ! Though I don't know about you, but I don't like to compare lives too much, I mean everyone handles it differently. Maybe on the outside it looks like you have an easy life but on the inside it could be very different.
I love that quote ! I never thought of water that way, something that can take the shape of anything ! If you're water then, would you flow or would you crash ?
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564 Its nothing unique that has been bothering me. More of my same old problems. I don't really compare quite like that. It's more like a way for me to be grateful and to encourage me not to see my problems as something so big. But I get what you are saying. The quote is from Bruce Lee. I would want to flow until it was time to crash than flow again. Thank you
@Flornhope
Ah the same old problems might seem harder to solve because they've been there for so long. Though I suppose that there's a sense of familiarity that comes with them too.
Oh right ! It does seem like a good way to put your problems at their right size.
Hum that's interesting ! I wish you a peaceful flow until you crash then :)
@Slizzy564 The same old problems ate both at times. In some ways its like a old friend and at times its like a old nemesis. Which one will I have today?
@Flornhope
I get you on that, sometimes they switch from one to another ! I hope you get more old friends though !
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
Depressed, tired
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
No
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
I don't know, air maybe
@Lexloveslife
Hi hi !
I'm sorry to hear that you're not doing well ! If need be, you know we're here to support you if you want to talk about anything <3 When I'm feeling low, I find comfort in the fact that sometimes you need to go down to be able to go back up, a bit like a rollercoaster ! Hang in there !!
We don't all need to put things in perspective, it's fine if you don't have an answer.
Air sounds good ! Maybe you'd like to feel lighter ?
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564, Hello there!!
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
I'm going to study after answering this check-in! My mood either shifts depending on my motivation to do things.
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
Yeah! An alone time and my accomplished goals calm me down. Sometimes, being with people makes my mind nuts!
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
Sorry, earth. I'll pick the element, water! Water is sometimes calm and scary dangerous. Its flow can be soft or rough, depends on the weather. In short, the way water works reminds me of my unpredictable mind. I'm a proud Scorpio! Haha 
Thanks for the check-in and take care!
@LovelyOrangeJuice
Hey hey :)
Good luck studying !! So would you say that your mood varies a lot over, lets say, a week ? Or do you tend to have motivation (even if only a little) to do things ?
Ah yes I get you on that ! People do send me round the bend too ! Alone time sounds peaceful :) Accomplished goals sound great ! A nice way of moving on through the day/week !
Indeed water can be very different, it can be a gentle stream or a tidal wave ! Which one do you prefer, the calm water or the more energetic water ? It does seem to fit your unpredictable mind :) I don't know much about astrology, but it's nice to hear that you're pround of yourself ;)
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
I tend to have the motivation, even if it's little. I often have the feeling of wanting to finish a goal, even if I don't enjoy it that much. An example of that goal is school activities. 
I prefer the energetic water. You know, the sounds that it makes feel relaxing.
Oh yeah, the MV of the song you recommended is beautiful. Typically, I would stop watching in the middle of the video unless I find it interesting. Hahaha!
@LovelyOrangeJuice
It's great that you have motivation even for things that you don't enjoy so much !
Oh yeah I love the sound of the waves, it is really relaxing :)
It's a pretty gloomy MV but yeah quite beautiful ! Glad to hear that it kept you interested ;)
@Slizzy564
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
Ok right now thanks. There have been some really bad days over the last week, and some fine ones.
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
Sleep, lol...
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
Water. I don't know. That is just my intuition...
@1morday
Hey there :)
It's ncie to hear that you're doing good. I'm sorry about the bad days but hopefully you can focus on the good ones now ? :) If you want to share, we're all here for you <3
Ah I didn't think about that but sleep sounds pretty good ! Like a way to start over when you wake up :)
It's fine if you don't have a reason, sometime we do indeed have intuitions and I've always thought that we should trust our intuitions ;)
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Think I'll try this check in thing to help myself out:
1) How are you doing today ? How has your mood been over the past week ?
Not good. A lot of things have happened in my relationship to my partner and my family that makes it difficult for me to process things (being told a lot of different things and i'm just lost and want to be left alone to deal). I have difficulty understanding, even feeling, my emotions so I've requested to be placed back into therapy to try and help me.
2) Is there anything that helps you put stuff in perspective ?
Not much. I find my head goes away on random thought streams too fast for me to stop them, but music or tv usually helps. I found though that one of the national parks near me really helped with just feeling at peace with the world, and forgetting everything, so I might go back either by myself or with my non-judgemental friends.
3) If you could be an element (fire, earth, air, water), what would you be and why ?
Very difficult question. I've always felt like a fire-y person, but I love water. It goes it's own pace and own journey, that even the earth cannot stop it from getting to it's destination with time. It is adaptable and healing, it can be peaceful but also raging in certain conditions. And it has such a beauty as it reflects the sunsets and sunrises across its still planes.
@Moustache93
Hey there ! Welcome to the check in :)
I'm sorry to hear about that hard things you've been through recently. It must be hard to sort through all the stuff they everyone is telling you and finding your own truth. When lost, it can be helpful to stop, take a breath, find your your way again before setting off. I get that you want to be alone to process all this. It's good to hear that you're reaching out for help via therapy. I hope all goes well !
Going out to a park does sound great, a nice time to reconnect with nature and just be without all the daily stress. Maybe it could become some sort of safe place for you ?
I love your description of water ! I find it interesting that you feel like fire but prefer water, it actualy goes well with the thought streams that you mentioned in the 2nd question ! There is some force behind water and many different form of expression of this force. And yes sunsets and sunrises are beautiful when reflected on the surface ! After reading your post, I kinda want to go to the sea !
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
