Self Harm Recovery Daily Check-in : Tuesday, November 24th, 2020
Hi there beautiful beings <3
I hope that the week has started off ok ! If need be here are some hugs for you <3
I was thinking about small things that make us happy the other day. Sometimes when it's hard to see the 'long term happiness', it can be easier to focus on the smaller things that are there everday to lift our mood.
Check in questions :
1) How are you doing today ? Anything planned for the week ?
2) What are some small things that make you happy ?
3) In general do you tend to focus on small details or the big picture ?
Song recommendation of the day : Beautiful mess by Kristian Kostov
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Hello :)
I'm not going too great today, it was a bit of a bad day in terms of thoughts and head stuff and school stuff but I'm doing a little better this evening I think. I have a meeting with my career councillor tomorrow (fun times haha) and on Friday I've got a coffee hang with a new friend that my friend introduced me too. Well, we haven't actually met yet, only texted and I'm a bit nervous and not really looking forward to the interaction bit because I'm already exhausted these past few weeks but I'm sure it'll be good.
Well, a perfect cup of tea makes me happy I guess. Good drums and bass in a bop of a song. Some good fanfiction. They make me feel warm really, not sure if happy is the word for it, but warm definitely.
I'm a very small details person usually, I panic over them and like to sort out small details in plans, but I am often overwhelmed by the big picture and can panic about that as much as I do small details haha, but small details are more my style unfortunately.
I've realised that I always give very long answers to these check ins and I'm sorry if that's not very fun to read or reply to haha it's just I ramble a lot and must always explain myself so people get what I mean to avoid any issues that could come from misunderstanding or something haha
@memelord500
Hey there ! I'm sorry for the late reply !
I'm sorry to about your bad day last week, I hope things are going a bit better now ! How did the meeting with your councillor go ? Also I get you on not really wanting the social interactions sometimes ... When we're already drained of our energy it can be hard to reach out to connect with a new person. I hope that you enjoyed your coffee all the same !
Aaaah I see you're a tea enthusiast ! Same here :) Oh yeah good drums and bass in a song sure do make a good combo for an enjoyable beat ! It's nice to hear that you find some form of happiness in all this ;)
I guess in a way it's all the small details that make the big picture, so if you pay a lot of attention to small deatils, it seems pretty logical to be overwhelmed when they all come together ! I'm sorry to hear that you panic so much about the details though, do you think there's a way you could get round that ?
Hey long answers are fine ! I like reading all the posts that you guy write, honestly it makes my day :) So the more you write, the more I have to read ! Also I like it when people explain the way they think about things, I find it truely fascinating :)
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564, hello there!
1) How are you doing today? Anything planned for the week?
I'm doing good. I'm planning to do my schoolwork, and I'm trying my best to stop overthinking about the future!
2) What are some small things that make you happy?
A lot of things can make me happy. 
Here are a few:
- When a friend greets me at my birthday or any occasion in private message.
- When someone tries to play a game with me.
When. Blah, blah, blah. Most of the things that make me happy are more on communication and my relationships with other people, whatsoever. Don't forget about video games. Hahaha!
3) In general do you tend to focus on small details or the big picture?
I must be a big picture person, although it's the reason why I overthink a bit and another cause why I get careless because of the small details that I failed to observe. Ha!
Thanks for the check-in, and take care.
@LovelyOrangeJuice
Hi ! Sorry for the late reply !
Nice to hear that you're doing good ! Good luck with the schoolwork, you've got this :) About overthinking the future, sounds like a good way to go about that. There's only so much that you can plan ahead and then it's the marvelous adventure of life ;)
Haha so basically if we want a super combo, we need to find a game that focuses on communication ;) Though yet I get that it's nice when someone reaches out and sends a kind message :) Would you say that you're more of a social person then ?
Ah yeah I understand, when focusing on the big picture it can be hard to get all the details. Though I get the overthinking that goes with the big picture, kinda relates to what you were saying about overthinking about your future too.
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
It's alright. I'm thankful for your replies. 
Nah. I'm not a social person, but I like social intimacy.
Well, see you around.
1) How are you doing today ? Anything planned for the week ?
I had a bad headache most of the day and slept most of it. Nothing really planned for the week.
2) What are some small things that make you happy ?
Nothing I can think of makes me happy
3) In general do you tend to focus on small details or the big picture ?
I pay attention to the details. If it is mine or something I like or know how to do I do it with a very scrupulous eye. But I like to see big progress
@Flornhope
Hey there ! I'm sorry for replying so late.
That headache sounds like it was pretty intense if you slept most of the day ! Hope everything is better now !
I'm sorry to hear that, though I think I can understand that. Sometimes when we're not in a good mindset, it's hard to find the positives in life. Maybe one day the clouds will clear and you'll be able to see more clearly ?
Oh that's interesting, mastering the small details in order to progress on the big picture ! Make me thinkg of the butterfly effect for some reason !
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564 Thank you. Worries ever on any delay ever. My headache was pretty bad for a while, it sucked. I haven't been able to enjoy anything for a long while. When I try I don't get well any enjoyment. It seems to even cheapen whatever I do so it turns into a extra nagitve for me. I kind see the little things are what make the big things. Thank you again.
@Flornhope
No need to thank me ;)
I'm sorry to hear about your lack of enjoyment recently and I understand that 'trying' to be happy doesn't make you happy even if it's doing something that you usually enjoy. You can't fake it to make it as that it just lying to oneself and that can't lead to much good. I hope that at least you can find some support here and/or in your everyday life.
@Slizzy564 Any more I don't want to drag anyone down with me. So I don't have anything to do with anyone beyond what I absolutely have to. Excluding on hear.
@Flornhope
That's a very solitary way of seeing things. I do understand where you are coming from though.
@Slizzy564
Hello wish the week would go faster!
1) Not good very stressed work has told us we will loose like 5 hours a week because of funding issues and my fav work mate has lost her job. It's currently 11:30pm and I can't sleep so I'm getting frustrated.
2) currently nothing really everything feels like a chore
3) Small details but I do try look at the bigger picture but always fail.
hope you are having a good week
@Hiddenlife
Hey there ! I'm sorry for the late reply. I hope your week went by pretty quickly !
I'm sorry to hear about that, sounds like a hard thing to go through. Must be worrying for the future ... I can easily understand why you're having a hard time sleeping. I wish you plenty of rest in the future !
Everything feeling like a chore sounds rough. Though like you say, those are your current thoughts, maybe at some point in the future things will pick up ? In the meantime, hang in there !
Maybe you need more time to be able to get the big picture. I've always thought that, in the world, we need as many people to see the small details as people who can see the big picture !
Last week was a bit of a rollercoaster ride, hence my late reply. Thanks for the kind thought <3
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
Thank you for the hugs, I am in need of them today.
1) How are you doing today ? Anything planned for the week ?
Not great. I want to go do something fun, but I don't know if I'll have that kind of energy
2) What are some small things that make you happy ?
A hug, an ice cream, a smile, a funny joke.
3) In general do you tend to focus on small details or the big picture ?
I guess I tend to focus on small details. Life is in the little things, but I guess sometimes you gotta be able to let the little things go too
@honestpanda81
Hi :) Sorry for replying so late !
Oh ? I'm glad that those hugs helped you, I have plenty more if need be :)
I'm sorry to hear about that, I don't know if it's possible but maybe you could find something fun that would also help you recharge your energy ? I now that when I do activities that I really enjoy that's helps me charge up my batteries.
All those things sound great and I can relate to most of them, I'm actually eating ice cream as I'm writing this ;) What's your favorite flavour ?
Very true ! It's a good thing to let some of the little things go though as you say they can make up a lot of our life ! Overall I think it's important to know when to let go of things (big or small), but it's not always easy !
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
@Slizzy564
Thank you, slizzy, I suppose you can never have too many hugs.
I did eventually go for something fun, and it did a lot for my emotional wellbeing. I'm surprised by how much it helped me feel more energetic and happy, but it did, and I'm glad I decided to go for it.
My favourite ice cream flavour is cookies and cream, but I love ice cream in general. I just had one yesterday too
@honestpanda81
Very true, there are never too many hugs :)
I'm glad to hear that you had a good time ! :) Seems like you managed to charge your batteries and enjoyed yourself :) Good to know that you don't regret your decision !
Oh cookies and cream is nice ! :) I had lemon and orange yesterday, was quite the treat :)
@Slizzy564
1) How are you doing today ? Anything planned for the week ?
Hey. Happy Thanksgiving. I am in my office grading. I am going to someone's house for Thanksgiving dinner later. I guess. I don't really feel like peopling, but.
2) What are some small things that make you happy ?
Reading cartoons. Biking. Stamping books with my book stamp. Espresso. Putting on freshly washed clothes. Some nice songs (I am listing to my "Happy Songs" playlist right now - even though I feel sad and anxious and inclined to things...) I am listening to this song :) Will Finn & Rosie Calvert - Langtree's Lament (Over The Garden Wall)
3) In general do you tend to focus on small details or the big picture ?
Small details for sure.
@1morday
Hey there :) I'm sorry for the late reply !
Oh I'm pretty late, happy thanksgiving ! I hope that the dinner went okay ! I totally understand that meeting up with people can drain you of your energy.
I like the sound of all those things ! I can relate a lot to putting on fresh clothes and happy songs :) Music is a good way to express emotions, maybe it's helping you get rid of those more negative feelings ? I've checked out your recommendation, it's very light hearted, if that makes sense ? :)
When they add up, the small deatils can make the big picture, though it's nice to be able to give attention to some things that people overlook daily.
Thanks for checking in, take care <3
