Self-Harm Recovery Daily Checkin: Wednesday 9th January 2019
Woop- it's Wednesday- the middle of the week! I hope your week has been going well so far. And if not, there's still a few days left to go of the week- I hope your week improves!
1) How are you today? Is there anything you'd like to share with us?
2) How would you like to change your life? What are your long-term goals and how could we take a step today towards it?
3) If you could rename yourself, what name would you choose and why?
Have a lovely day everyone, and remember to take care of yourself! You're your number one priority- always.
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@rebecca947 heyy how are you
@CaringBrit
Heya, I
@rebecca947 im good
@rebecca947 Hello! How are you today?
Today was actually a pretty good day. I've been keeping myself busy. Today is day 6 of no SH, so I feel pretty good about that.
I would like to be able to like myself better and not put so much stock in how my family feels about me. Or maybe be more out going. I've been working on the out going part but just on here.
I always liked the name Skye or Skylar. It make me think of open spaces and adventure.
@mytwistedsoul yayy thats awesome progress day 6 woop bet you feel super proud
@CaringBrit lol Yeah I do actually
a little nervous though track record isn't too good but I'm trying not to think that way
@mytwistedsoul youve got this and remember its perfectly normal and ok to hit those days that feel like your back at square one life is ups n downs like a rollercoaster
@CaringBrit yeah I know it's just frustating. I went a couple years before... nope not gonna dwell on it, happy thoughts yeah?
@mytwistedsoul yup happy thoughts xd
@mytwistedsoul
Heya! Congratulations on day 6! That is absolutely amazing- great effort ❤️
I like the idea of liking yourself more- how do you think you could work towards that? And for outgoing, Im proud of you for trying to go out more and be a bit different. It can be hard but it can be so worth it, especially if its what you want to do.
I love those names! I have a friend named Skye and I love the name too haha maybe that could be your nickname ;)
Ive been good thanks! :) things are going well so far.
@rebecca947 Thank you! I know alot of my problem is family. I need to get past my past I guess. The emotional scars are worse then the physical ones. I'm not sure how to let it go though. It's burned in my brain. I think it's all good and then something triggers a thought or a memory and then it get's stuck on repeat and I get so angry. Sorry rambling.
i know I need to go out and interact with people, but they make me so nervous. I don't know what they're thinking but It's almost like I can tell that they are thinking the same things that my family thinks.
I don't think I know anyone named Skye. Knew a boy named Cherokee.
Glad you're doing well!
@mytwistedsoul
Im sorry to hear that :( it sounds like a painful past, and I can imagine how long the emotional scars can last. It can take a long time to heal, and to accept, and to forgive- not for them, but for yourself. Its hard to move on. What are some ways you can try to heal? I know some ways could be journalling, talking to a listener or a therapist. And what ways could help when the thoughts come up? Sorry for all the questions- take your time with thinking about them. Dont need to reply to me, but it might be a good idea to make a list of ideas to help get you through those hard times when thoughts come up. It sounds like your past with your family is really hard for you to detach from social life too, meaning the thoughts affect a lot of parts of your life. It sounds like it might be helpful to first figure out how to deal with the painful memories, then try to overcome social gatherings. Just a suggestion of course, no pressure! After all, only you know whats best for you. Take care of yourself ❤️
Hahaha Cherokee! Such a cool and cute name! Would you name anyone that personally? :D just a curious fun question aha
1. Heyyyy I am new here but I stumbled across this thread and thought I would share. Today I was feeling very lost and distraught. However, I had lots of urges the past couple weeks that I successfully resisted, and boy am I glad because next week makes 3.5 years clean :) Hopefully I will be able to continue to use other coping methods at least throughout next week because its been hard recently.
2. I would like to improve my speaking skills with people to make them feel happier and more comfortable talking to me. I am not sure exactly how to do that but I think I'll start by smiling a lot and creating a positive atmosphere with what I choose to say. Also, I would LOVE if I could stop procrastinating lol or not doing things for fear of failure.
3. I would want to be named Valerie, like the song sung by Amy Winehouse. The name sounds like a breezy summer day lol.
@zoe64
Firstly welcome to the Community Zoe its great to have you here with us
thats awesome you resisted great job and 3.5 years holy moly thats a long time good job
you know speaking skills have you ever thought of becoming a listener what you lern by being a listener on this site can be easily transferred into your real also fear of failure is understand however lets put a positive twist on it dont see it as failure but a learning curve we all make mistakes but its how we learn from them when we make a mistake its time to evulate it what do you think
thats a lovely name too i loved her music
This week has been...rough. I feel like I'm constantly embarrassing myself and that I'm just so annoying. Just a huge mess all around.
@wellthatwaseasy
*hugs if you want them* Im sorry to hear that :( it sounds like youre feeling down upon yourself, and feeding yourself negative thoughts. Im wondering whats made you feel this way- has someone said youre annoying and embarrassing? Has something happened to make you feel this way? Has it happened often? You dont need to answer them publicly, or at all if youd prefer not to think. But, just some food for thought if you wanted.
It can be helpful to find some evidence for your thoughts and feelings. What disproves those theories you have? How else could you rephrase them to be nicer to yourself? There are a few questions to start you off. Our thoughts and feelings dont have to be fact, even if they feel like they are at the time.
Take care of yourself and be kind, please! You completely deserve that. ❤️